Genetics play a huge roll in determining how likely it is that we are over weight. Our ancestors just stored fat more efficiently than those of thin people Skinny people are lucky to even be alive. If society ever crumbles we will see who has the last laugh.

Strength and weakness comes in many forms. Never are things so simplistic.

Even as someone who has battled weight all my life, I don't disagree with them.

I am strong in nearly every way, except chocolate and other delicious sweets. Then I become as weak as a kitten. They taste so good. When I was young, I stayed thin, but now that I'm old, I guess my metabolism crapped out and I am now fat.

Your peeps are being simplistic dimbulbs, that's what I think.

My wife gained (and lost) about 60 pounds on her small frame over the past decade and it wasn't weakness, it was suffering. Ironically, largely inflicted by her family of origin, which she is finally making a mental break from. Me or anyone else riding her about it wouldn't have helped, and shaming her about it definitely would have made it worse, given that her issues were largely shame-based to begin with. She had to save herself and I had to give her the space to do so.

Obesity, depression, anxiety, OCD, addiction issues ... our society does its best to kick people when they're down with things like that. While largely being the catalyst, if not the cause to begin with.

doesn't show strength [ depending on how many times ones supposed body weight one sits at]

Gaining weight is so easy.
Losing weight is so hard.

For myself a part of the 30 extra pounds I have is from failing to stick to a healthier diet. I have given up a lot of bad things; soda, caffeine, cigarettes, and I've never drank so my last vice is sweets; just can't stop lol. For me yes I consider it MY weakness and I don't like being where I am in my weight.

I don't consider it everyones weakness though because I understand that each one of us is different.

Like you have said people have life events, there are also medical issues, or even genetics that could add to the problem.

I do feel that its best to do my best to keep from getting any bigger, because that's what's best for me. I would recommend that everyone try to strive to stay healthy or get to what's healthy for yourself.

When weight becomes a contentious topic, it's time to do some serious thinking about the people bringing the topic up. Whether they are family or good friends, they either love those close to them, or they have issues they need to address. I have been overweight, skeletal, etc.... The people close to me have never made one comment.

There are many different reasons for a person to be overweight. People shouldn't judge so harshly. Weightloss also doesn't happen over night. When someone is actually eating right and exercising they may still be overweight and yet more healthy than the average. Everyone is different and that should be celebrated.

For me it's laziness in both exercise and eating habits I don't know if I'd call it weakness though. For example I can ride my bike to work but it's easier to just drive.

As long as the person saying those unkind things doesn't smoke, exercises daily, & has no bad habits....sure. But mainly it bothers me when people consider things like weight gain an indicator of poor character, & that they obviously consider themselves superior to anyone who is overweight. The person's remark was not only pointless & stupid, it was very unkind & to me that's worse.

I'd rather be a good person who is fat, than a skinny person who is an asshole.

I thought I was a stress eater for a couple decades. I did not know about insulin resistance. Once I did, the diet change allowed my workouts to be effective. The problem for me was not understanding the carb effects and the diets I would try were not helping. Hated myself in the mirror and resented my ex not helping, she would push comfort foods during stress times. Much happier now, but I would not characterize it as week. Because of insulin resistance my body was screaming it was starving.

One's Metabolism changes as we age. You can eat and excercise the exact same amount and still gain weight if your matabolic rate shifts even a little. Extreme stress can also trigger weight gain. Self discipline can only prevent so much.

Skinny women, like a sack of bones... are weak... too weak... they fall, they break a bone... so what is your point?

If not caused by medical conditions being overweight is just a matter of poor choices.
Energy used=<energy consumed.
I lost 50# using no diet just considering better choices for food.

This person clearly has no grasp of biology or physiology. Not everyone is supposed to be skinny and our definitions of overweight/obese are flawed at best, toxic at worst, and culturally and ethnically skewed regardless.

The other thing that people who are very overweight have a tendency to get their feelings hurt over is the fact that people say they're not attractive on The evolutionary level we have evolved to be attracted to mates that are healthy looking this is to ensure the survival of the species

I did also want to add that every other single member of my family is morbidly obese does my family have a genetic propensity toward being fat absolutely does that mean that I have to be fat absolutely not

There is an unfortunately common stigma that weight is an indication of virtue. Our society has the same stigma about poverty. Both ignore many relavent factors in order to assign a label of good or bad to strangers.

You always have a choice. It's a question is if you have an approach to be effective.

People tend to be the most self righteous about the vices that don't appeal to them.

The classic argument of someone who has never been overweight. There are a million reasons why a person might be overweight and not a single one of them is helped by being fat shamed. Skinny doesn't necessarily equal healthy.

That there are a lot of stupid pointless people in the world?