The kid already told the ex. No worries!

I'm a bit confused as to whether it's your ex or your daughter you're most concerned about. At any rate, is it really any of your exes business if you date other people, other than how it may affect your custody arrangement?

I can't give advice, based on one side of a story. I know when I started dating it was easy. My ex and I had decided to be friends and open. She knew she could trust my judgement with who I brought around the kids. It never became a negative situation. I guess I'm saying my avenue of open honesty worked out well.

Why should she care if you are dating? What a strange question.

I'm wondering how you would feel to hear that your ex is dating ? It doesn't seem that you need to explain yourself - as dating is a very natural progression once someone is single again.
There's just no need to rub it in her face, if you do find a compatible woman - right ?
Good luck !

Here's my take:

It's your life. Being the ex/divorced, it's none of his/her business. You have a life as does the ex. What once was one is now two.

None of her business. & she should respect your privacy in this regard.

If you figure it out let me know

I don't think so. However they didn't want to make you happy or couldn't so they have to accept that at some point you might move on. I wish I had a great way to do that (or a reason to even) but I am not sure there is an easy or tactful way. I think just being honest with her and your new flame about responsibilities you have. I mean it is up to you guys to find a fair and equitable arrangement and what should be "special" circumstances to cancel because they may want to plan things too

I have discussed with the ex and basically told her I don't need to know or even really want to know so I am hoping she feels the same way. We live in separate areas across the country and have no kids or shared responsibilities though so it is much easier for us to just fade out of the others life

Why hurt feelings? You are, like, Divorced and I assume you didn't sign a "no sex ever again" codicil.....

I would just be upfront with your ex. Just come out and say, “Hey, I’m dating again. I hope this won’t effect our schedules.” Just be an adult about it and hopefully your ex will be rational about the news. There’s a reason the relationship didn’t work out between the two of you. But if she honestly expected you to stay single for the rest of your life, then she’s a little disillusioned.

Tap dancing around the issue is just prolonging it and making it more uncomfortable for all parties involved.

But then again, I’m very forward with everyone in my life. That’s one of the reasons I don’t have a ton of friends. But the ones that I do have are of the ride or die variety. I think the idea of the social contract is silly and is what’s hurting society as a whole. Just be upfront with your ex. At least you’ll get to the bottom of the issue quicker than just letting the issue fester.

I just let my daughter make it known. But then my ex wife broke up with me and got with someone else fairly quickly so I didn't feel I had to do anything really tbh

With me, when we (my new dating interest and I) posted pictures of outings on facebook, the cat was out of the bag. My kids were older at that time (18 and 24), and they told my ex also. I was and still am on good terms with my ex, even though the dating relationship fizzled out. Nobody's feelings were hurt. YMMV, but if you feel like you should tell her, tell her.

Speaking as an "ex" who got left, I'd be astonished if my ex WASN'T dating someone by this point (over 2 years separated and over a year and a half divorced). So, to be told about a new gf or whatever would come as no surprise.

I do think if there are shared or custodial minors in the house that the bona fides of the person you are dating could become an issue if there is anything there that would raise a concern for the safety or well-being or moral atmosphere for the minor children. But a 14 year old isn't going to be prey to your lady friend. I'd just tell your ex that you are looking for a good person in your life, and going on some dates, and so if she hears talk about that from the daughter, don't be surprised. It's not right to expect a child to keep secrets from one parent.

Is nobody business what you do....not even your daughter's.

I am of the mind that when it becomes serious then he should know. If it’s still casual then let it ride for a while. I am not even telling my son about it until I am sure it’s going somewhere. No need to get the emotions involved until then.

I don't think she needs to know....that's why she is X

My money says get in early -maybe before it even happens. Who knows, she may even be relieved. Once you start sneaking about it can all get very complicated and messy. No need to go into the gory details with her but don't hide it from either her or your daughter. I'd keep the new date and daughter apart though at least U ntill you've an idea of wether it's going somewhere.

If your kid knows, she's probably talked about it with her mother.

if you want her to know that you're in the dating mode again you just kind of bow up and tell her.

The less the Ex knowns the better. Unless you still have a strong bond in friendship, than likely she won't screw for money.

Your sex and dating life us no longer any of her business and her sex and dating life is no longer any of yours. You're divorced. End of story. You not required to tell your ex anything. Those requirements went out the window once the papers were signed.

Not having this life experience, I can only speak in general terms. @Belrieve makes a good point, is the person your ex is dating a known convicted felon? Or what about the person you choose to date? Should you check their background as well before you get more intimately involved? The bottom line: concern for the well being of your children regardless of their age. I have either read or been told horror stories about people invited in to a family and the danger they pose to teenage daughters.As far as hurting your ex's feeling, is she an adult?

Divorce his divorce, and I don't think it's necessary to let your ex know every little detail of your life. If a relationship becomes very serious to where the woman is around you frequently, then I would tell her.

It's none of her business whether you're dating or not. Just like it's none of your business if she is, or not.
You don't "owe" her an explanation or a heads-up.
Live your life.

To be blunt (I always am), it is none of her buisness. I can see that if you left her, and not the the other way around, she might be a tad sensative about the issue.