Mama Toni. She died when our daughter was eight. That was a relief.

A narcissistic, critical and controlling women, we never let her babysit our daughter.

"You are not family," she told me. Cruel.

Deceased.

Don't forget people are dying in Canada to fight the C16 law.

I don't have one (and don't want one!), but I had a cousin who didn't get along with the mom-in-law. The nicest thing he came up with was either "malicious old dragon" or "adipose harridan who broke every broomstick she tried to ride." Why do I have the sneaking suspicion that they didn't get along?

JABBA the hut in private

I called my ex mother-in-law by her christian name as well as a lousy cook, not of this world and wet although the last three not to her face.

Thanks for all the responses, guys! (Some of you are hilarious!)

I think I'll start doing a mix of Mom in some of the more formal moments, Firstname some of the time, and when/if kids come around, Grandma Firstname. We'll see how it feels.

I posted about this yesterday, but on reflection now she has been dead since 2004, I think I will give full vent to what I feel, and call her what I wanted to when she was alive. OLD BAG!! Wow that felt good! ? ?

It was never an issue.

I call her by her first name or grandma first name because of the kids.

I called my in laws by their first names. My husband called my mom, "mom", sin e he loved her like a mom. I was never that close with my in laws, and would not have been comfortable calling them mom and dad. I think if you are uncomfortable with it, it will feel forced and awkward for all involved. I would stick with their first names.

nothing

Dead

None. I no longer have any parents-in-laws.

Her first name.

I call her Karen. It's been 18 years, I don't see that changing.

Deceased.

Mum. It's the grandmother name she chose for my daughter to call her when we married into the family. It's just easier to call her the same thing the kids do. Hubby calls my folks "your mom " and "your dad " - they don't have the best relationship ?

I agree with you. If I had a mother-in-law, I would call her by her given name. I have a mom and a dad. But, my daughter's friends call me "Ma or Mama" and it doesn't bother me in the least.

When I was married I called her by her first name once and my husband laughed and laughed at me. I thought I got her name wrong! Apparently I was supposed to call her Mrs. So-and-so. Um, no - I was not comfortable with that so I just avoided addressing her in any way for 20 years lol.

Elphaba

First name

Dead?

She is actually like a second Mom to me..but she is 92.....so out of respect for this grand and wise old lady..I stick to Mrs Clinch ..her Surname.

1st name seems to be the way to go here anything that makes you uncomfortable should not be up for discussion