Are you a hugger?
Do you feel comfortable giving/receiving hugs from strangers or people you aren't close to?
Why or why not?
Family and close friends get hugs if they want them. Complete strangers will not get a hug IRL.
I’m a hugger, not to complete strangers but I also don’t have to be that familiar with people either. It really doesn’t bother me. It usually comes from within a sphere of people I know of but don’t know. Again, I’m in Texas it seems to the norm.
if it seems right then it is right but its generally people i know
I love hugs and don't get enough of them, ever. Not saying I'll start hugging strangers (although I have, with extenuating circumstances), but I'm a big fan of human touch. It's so good for us on so many different levels.
You light up my day like you will never know ?
@IamNobody Thank you, that's really nice to hear!
@Nottheonlyone oh boy... Which part? (My brain works in mysterious ways ? ) ..... The part where you will never know? ???
@IamNobody I'm okay with all of it! ?
Friends & family mostly...I am quite naturally affectionate and tactile...
It is important to remember the others mileage may vary..they are not wired that way..which is absolutely fine..never hug someone that you even slightly suspect is not wired to be responsive to a hug. Never invade somebody's personal space by foisting a hug on them...nobody likes awkward...
So apart from friends and family..I reserve hugs for strangers in dire straits who need help and are reaching out.
If I know you then I will hug you if I haven't seen you for a long time. If I'm dating someone or in a relationship then hugs will be random and almost invasive lol
A couple of years ago at work, one of my coworkers went to hug me and I flinched only because I didn’t see it coming... Now every time she sees me, she comes over and says, “I know how much you love my hugs!” and gives me a huge hug. She tells everyone that I hate being hugged, even though I say it’s not true... it’s very uncomfortable for me, because people already think I’m standoffish!
My opinion is, If someone is happy enough to see me that they want to hug me, that feels awesome so let’s get it on!
@Crimson67 yes!! Everyone else acknowledges that it’s weird too. ? Just a few months ago we went to a funeral for a former student who unfortunately passed away, and she did it there and was telling other teachers from my school that I hate hugs... like, I’m standing there CRYING, and she’s harassing me!
Perception is greater than the truth. If you want to change this, you need to start hyper-hugging everyone. except me. if you see me, please don't. because i don't like hugs. for real. not a joke. (People think i'm kidding and still hug me. i hate it.)
Not to hug. I have a slew of reasons. And then there are a few people that it feels natural so those are "to hug".
My friends, my family & myself - we are all huggers.