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What’s the worst break up you’ve had?

What’s the worst way someone has broken up with you?

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Back in '89 I found out my wife was having an affair. We had a 10 year old and a 4 year old. It was the worst time of my life. While going through the divorce, she had a car wreck and our 10 year old son was killed, then a month after he was killed, I lost my job due to the place I had been working for 10 years being shut down by the IRS.
It took me years to work through the pain, while trying to be a good dad to my little girl. She's 32 years old now (the age I was when I got divorced), and she's happily married with 3 kids of her own. I've been married 12 years, and between my wife and me, we have 6 of the sweetest grandkids you ever saw.
It's funny, when I was going through the hell that the 90s were (for me), I got super religious which led me to deep reflection searching for truth, which led me to atheism. I'm happy most days now, but i wouldn't have believed I ever would be again, if you asked me while I was going through it all.

Glad you are doing better - that was about the nastiest rough patch ever!

I feel bad about even responding to this thread after reading this post. Wow, that's just horrible. You did well to come out on the other end of it.

I can't imagine. But what an amazing gift, to find happiness after such a loss....

Thanks for the kind words you all. I think if any good came from the pain, it's made me a better person. I empathize with people who were less fortunate or different, because I've been there.

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The passing of my husband.?

Sheannutt Level 9 Aug 30, 2018

Sorry for your loss

@lerlo thank you, it's been almost 13 years ago.

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Memories I refuse to relive.

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Divorce, only one I've had. I never felt anything like it. One day my wife's is all loving and then the next she's out the door--she met a man online, who lives in Germany; he sent her money for a passport and plane ticket. She decided I was too boring. I turned 60 and she decided I was done at 60, she was 50. The guy she left me for was 49, worked at a nuclear power plant, so I guess she left me for Homer Simpson and I've never quite decided how I felt about that! I had never been through a breakup, I was her third marriage and she was my first. She left without telling our son goodbye. I was devastated and started going to therapy. I've since gotten over her. I'm doing well and getting on with my life.

I am so sorry for you and your son. That was a horrible way to treat you both.

@HippieChick58 I know how women feel when their husbands leave them for a younger woman. I got to keep my house. She left with her stuff that she wanted to take. The split up could have been worse by arguing over how to divide things up but all she wanted was her boyfriend and what she could take in her suitcases. The feeling went beyond betrayal because she told everyone we had a 'bullet proof marriage'. Nothing could come between us and nothing did until she met the guy and she pursued him for a relationship until she got it. It was the worst experience of my life but now I'm glad it's over and my son and I are doing good.

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My wife up and died on me. I thought that was pretty inconsiderate of her.

Anonbene Level 8 Aug 30, 2018

Rude.

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It's a toss up between two. One completely and utterly broke my heart when my fiance decided he just wasn't "ready" for commitment. He was engaged 6 months later to someone else and is still happily married today.

About 23 years later, I'm in a relationship with one of the sweetest men I've ever known. When his father passed away, and he came into his inheritance, he completely changed. A fun, energetic, sweet person became a boozing, cocaine snorting, gun-toting, risk-taking stranger. I feared for my life, so within a few months I quit my job, packed all my belongings, drove across the country and stayed with my brother until I found a new job in a new community. I have not spoken or seen him since I left.

linxminx Level 7 Aug 30, 2018
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Aw hell, I got dumped after my back walked out on me. December, in a tiny town at 9,000 feet. I had to move out when I could barely stand or walk. He said, ‘Hey, you aren’t fun anymore.’ Chronic pain will ruin your life if you let it.

Justjoni Level 8 Aug 30, 2018

I feel you--I got dumped after a back surgery. Just had my 5th, a fusion. Hope you're doing better

@lerlo Took fifteen years, but finally adjusting and living medication-free. I also hope you are doing well. Every surgeon I consulted said the same thing: full lumbar fusion, but probably won’t resolve the pain (just greater stability) so I opted to skip the two 12-hour surgeries. Hoping yours was successful

@Justjoni I used Tiger Woods' back surgeon so at least I know he knows what he's doing...surgery time 1.5 hours...went through the front, ALIF...long recovery, we'll see. Thanks!

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I've been trying to decide whether to even respond to this topic. If I did, how
would I even begin to put it into words? Yeah, I know. Surprising to hear that
I'm at a loss for words. Some things effect us so profoundly, they change us forever, and they're often really hard to discuss.

There have been a few gut-wrenching breakups. Hell, I'm 57, of course there were.
Those all occurred when I was younger and much more resilient. I still always had hope there would be love again.

The worst was the end of my marriage in 2006. I was totally blindsided.
In hindsight, there were signs that I totally missed, but when you aren't looking
for red flags, you tend to miss the subtle hints.
When you think you're happy, just living life, working hard, and thinking everything is okay, you aren't looking for cracks in the foundation. Then the house implodes and you're left standing in the rubble, trying to figure out what the fuck just happened.
Finding out that you've been played is damned hard to take.
Especially when you find out there has been malice of forethought.

KKGator Level 9 Aug 30, 2018

Currently sifting through the rubble myself. Everyone keeps telling me it gets better, but I dunno about that.

@maturin1919 I can relate. Twelve years out, I'm okay. It took a minute.
I'm still standing, and my life is actually pretty freakin' terrific. I wish you well with your journey.

@KKGator At this point I'd be okay with my journey including being hit by a bus. But a literal one this time.

@maturin1919 Oh, I get that all right. There were days (quite a few of them) when I honestly didn't care if there was another. Then my eyes went to hell and I couldn't drive anymore. If it hadn't been for my dog needing me to get my ass out of bed every day, I don't know that I'd still be here. It will get better, but only if you get through the stage where you're just going through the motions. Again, I really do wish you good luck getting on with your life.

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That would be my divorce.

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The breakups , while not fun , were a lot easier than continuing to live the life I had while together . IMO , a divorce should be celebrated at least as much as a marriage .

Cast1es Level 8 Aug 30, 2018
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I think they've all been good and beneficial, but that's a survival tactic.

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I was broken up with in a text message. At least it wasn't a post it note.

Fucking Berger.

@Charity @Minta79 I can't tell you how happy it makes me that you caught my reference!

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Wow!! What an amazing bunch of survivors you are!!! You've lived through some incredible shit and are still on your feet (though maybe with a limp). Remember, whatever doesn't kill you makes you stranger. (Nope, no typo)

I like that. I'll take my strangeness and be happy with it! Thank you for a slight perspective update for me.

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I'm not sure which way is the worst. When I was in HS and still thought I was straight, a boyfriend broke up with me in a note on Valentine's Day. I know. Sounds like a country song.

My first girlfriend, who I was living with, apparently got sick of me and the horrible depression I'd fallen into and took a few things and the dog ... two floors up, to crash with her best friend Maggie.
Maggie was such an objectively terrible person that her husband cheated on her and sired a kid, but she still kept the miserable bastard chained to her. I was left with the cats whom I only just managed to take care of and the apartment, which I couldn't take care of. I look back on it and that depression was so bad I probably should have been in a psych ward, but I didn't know what to do and no-one else cared. To this day I'm surprised but grateful that I didn't kill myself.

Subsequent girlfriends left me to marry men. Yeah, I feel a bit betrayed. I only really talk to one of them and even then not very often.

Sigh. And yet I hate being single.

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Telling my husband of 16 years that I wanted to divorce and having him die of a heart attack before I moved out. smile003.gif If it gets worse than that, I don't want to know...

daylily Level 8 Aug 31, 2018
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Gee that's a tough one...three vying for "worst."

  1. Dumping me after I had back surgery (which she really caused but doesnt know it because I was trying extra hard to "please" her)
  2. After telling me "we had a good year," disappears without explanation
  3. After an amazing first date where she literally had her legs over me in the booth at dinner...tells me she doesn't think there's enough chemistry
lerlo Level 8 Aug 30, 2018
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Soon to be ex-husband claimed he was going to become a Hindu and he was on a spiritual journey. Note: He was a suburban white boy from Denver. He went full-tilt boogie Don Draper at the end of Mad Men after being laid off from his corporate job. I didn't see it coming, and that's what made it the worst. BTW, the Hindu thing lasted six months and now he's back working for corporate America in a corporate town once the ink on the divorce decree got dry. I don't even, and I just can't. All this did to me was make me believe even after 27 years I can't know a person. Not really.

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Sometimes, a person doesn't even know themself.

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Well, it all started when I had this Oreo, right? I dipped it in milk and it broke up. Sincerely, I thought we'd be together forever.

In all seriousness, considering I have only dated two people, both separations went about very smoothly.

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The one I delayed far too long...but once done, it was the best one.

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My ex had a break pulled a knife on me. Police took her away attacked them and screamed she was hiv positive.

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My marriage. Infidelity. Chronic. And then severe denial and chemical dependency. All stretched over a few years.

Do yourself a favor. Do it quick if they won't.

Seeker3CO Level 8 Aug 30, 2018
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I was in an on again off again relationship for nine years and hated every bit of it but I was not strong and kept going back even though I knew it was bad. I finally decided to end it once and for all. He stalked me for over a year, I had to change my phone number several times, moved in with my daughter for safety. I had him arrested and got a protective order. I saw him sitting in a car outside my gallery one day about two years ago and I started shaking. I was alone and very frightened. He just stared at me for awhile and left. I'm still afraid of him. It's been ten years but I will never trust that man.

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There was one dude I lived with for a couple of years that I threatened to shoot his kneecaps off if I ever saw him again. We'll go with that one.

I've never seen him again, not even in traffic anywhere. He did know I can shoot quite well so I suspect that has a lot to do with it.

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I didn't know a good one was possible.

Btbd Level 7 Aug 31, 2018
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Two weeks before the wedding. Guessing there's no prize if I win here.

Iamkratom Level 6 Aug 31, 2018

I think you might be a good contender for 2nd place. I haven't read all the responses yet though.

I take it back. I think we both went down a few notches. Apparently horrible breakup stories aren't so uncommon. :-/

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