Be the first to speak to your boss. Show him you are in charge of your own life. Thing is, he probably is just a big bully and a bluffer, amongst other things.

This is just my opinion; but I think getting ahead of these things is the best way to deal with them..... I don't see how having feelings for your boss at some point would get you fired. If it were me I would go to my boss as humble and professional and honest as possible.... apologize for the situation and explain what's going on and then he has nothing to hold over your head anymore. This sounds like a person you absolutely need to get as far away from as possible you are doing the right thing. As for him being a registered sex offender I don't know what there is to report unless he's actually committed some crime again. You deserve better.

Learn how to shoot.

Hi Sarahroo29 you could threaten him that you will post the fact that he is a sex offender on FB and other internet suppliers unless he stops harrassing you or if he goes to your boss.Maybe you should go to your boss if she is a decent type of person first and explain to her about what your ex is planning to do.Just an idea.

I alerted my boss immediately.

If anything I think she likes me. Or used to, that way.

Report him to the Police IMMEDIATELY. Print out the message. Gees.

can you get a restraining order?

Yeah, if he's a sex offender, you have the upper hand. Nobody will believe him over you. I like the 'beat him to the punch' suggestion.

Violence and counter manipulative actions are not worth the advice people are giving. Go directly to your boss and tell her what is going on and the threat that you live under and she will understand and even console you herself. Honesty is always the best policy.

My boss messaged me and said I can't get fired for him calling. I left out what he would say. It's all good now.

Call a LGBTQ helpline in your area asap

What is concerning me is how problematic relationships are still to the forefront of your life.You have every right to walk a tightrope over a very deep valley, you are more likely to fall and hurt yourself than if you walked into your local shopping mall.

Thank you all for great advice and help!

I would mention at work that you are having serious problems with him, and that he is unstable. You don't need to go into details, but if they are broadly aware of the situation then if he does try anything they'll see him for what he is and it won't reflect badly on you.

I suggest you get a restraining order with a warning from the judge to keep away from your work

Hi Sarahroo29,

I read your request for advice and the one problem is that none of us are law enforcement or attorneys. The best thing you can do is contact your local DA. Which in Colorado Springs is Dan May's office. I would also avoid telling your boss, unless your "ex" or one of his cronies approaches her. Do not alarm her about something that may not happen. If anyone approaches your boss you can take legal actions against them. Good luck, and remember friendly advice is no substitute for professional counsel. Dan May's website is ...
[4thjudicialda.com]

Yes report it, no need to deal with that.

I would also contact the police and tell them the story. Even if they don't find any reason for charges, they can still make it clear that his conduct must stop.

There have been so many great responses so I will just add that I hope all goes well for you and it’s great to see how much people care on this site. You are not alone!!

Never allow anyone to blackmail you. Cover your ass, tell your boss about his threats.
Refuse to succumb to his manipulations. Don't get scared, get mad. Anger can be a
fantastic motivator. And as so many others have suggested, get that restraining order.
Forewarned is fore-armed. That said, try not to be alone until you're sure he's been neutralized. Be around other people as much as you can. Don't let him get you alone, no matter what he says. Good luck, keep us posted. Stay safe.

Are your benefits connected to your job?

Talk to your boss and let her know that he’s trying to jeapordize your employment.

If he or his mother show up to your work, contact the police.

Thank you all for the great advice and help.

Get a lawyer ASAP