Recently, a male friend of mine shared a story of a man distressng over the fact that his sexual partner (I forget if it mentioned that they were romantically involved) was pregnant with his child and has scheduled an abortion without his knowledge. The man was very distraught over the abortion as he really wanted to have the child.
I personally feel for the man, and I definitely don't agree with the way the decision was made behind his back, but at the end of the day it is her body. What do you guys think?
I realize the situation is far from black and white so feel free to let me know your full opinion in the comments.
Ah, the old "stake your claim" dilemma...
If we give men the unreasonable privilege of forcing women to bear their children involuntarily how are women distinguishable from property? This isn't so much a moral or ethical question as a fundamental human rights question. Her body, her choice.
My belief is that any time you have unprotected sex you are taking the chance of pregnancy. If you don't want a baby, don't start one. I had birth control discussion with my girls when they were in middle school. There are too many forms of BC that are fairly simple, and if you can't use one, don't have sex. That being said, guys also need to wrap their whoppers. I do agree that it is a woman's body and a woman's choice, but an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. Abortion is not easy. I know it would be awkward to have the conversation, but ask your partner if they are protected and what if we do start a baby.
It is her decision, her body. The situation is obviously not an easily solved black and white. But with or without knowing the full story the bottom line here: it will be her body, not his doing all the work, she and only she will be solely responsible for the well-being of that baby before and after it's born. If she is not ready to be a mother, she should not ever be forced to be one.
When men grow a uterus and ovaries, and can gestate a pregnancy all by themselves, THEN and only then, should they have any say whatsoever on the subject of abortion.
Women aren't broodmares and no woman should ever be forced to gestate a pregnancy if that is not what she wants to do. The sperm donor's opinion is irrelevant.
If any man doesn't like that, they should think about it BEFORE they have sex and behave accordingly.
I feel for the woman. I also feel for the man. But more for the woman. People forget how much sex really cost. Taking care of and raising a child cost 200 thousand dollars. So sex could cost you this much money. You sure you want to have it? I say a man has no say in regards to what the female wants to do. If your not in love then don't have sex.
Should a man be allowed to force a woman to *****?
I can't think of a single instance where a law-abiding woman should be subjected to a man forcing her to do anything. Gender isn't even part of it, no human should be allowed to force another human to do something to/with their body.
The woman should always have the choice. She knows what's better for her own life and psyche = abortion is a survival mechanism. SHE should choose whether or not to confer with her parents, friends, doctor, clergy, etc. The man should only be involved if asked by her... she apparently didn't trust him enough. Abortion should be without restriction, without compromise, and without apology.
I voted firmly that it should be the woman's choice. While I am cognizent that that men do have their part in the process and do have their say in the matter, nevertheless it is the woman who carries the process to term (or not). She is the one whose body will undergo the necessary changes and stress and face even possible death. (Birth, even in these times, is still sometimes perilous for mother and child.) And, PLEASE, stop with "don't do the crime if you can't face the time." That is just a juvenile response that trivilizes a question that many have grappled with. It was an agonizing dilemma for quite a lot of women and their partners, both before and after Roe v. Rade. No-one EVER thinks, "Well, I'll just have an abortion." (Except perhaps a man.)
A man shouldn't be able to make a woman carry a pregnancy she doesn't want to term.
I also believe that a man doesn't owe a penny to a woman who chooses to have a child he doesn't want. He should be able to sign away his rights and walk away without looking back.