No...but my safe word is "tricycle".

Much as with the LGBTQ community, I'm not a member but I'm supportive.

Naw... I kind of ask my wife what she wants instead of me telling her she can pick some of the pleasures I come up with.... I'm not saying it's wrong to play. I'm just set in my ways... old fogie.

Our larger culture emboldens half its members (men) to pursue what they want sexually, and assigns to the other half (women) the choice to acquiesce or not. By modeling and encouraging explicit consent, the BDSM community empowers all its members to ask for what they want, regardless of gender, sexual orientation, activity, or role.

Yes and actually there are several websites to find Doms , subs and slaves I have been a member on one for about 15 years and have meet several people on it all around the world to meet in person and play with. If anyone wants the site name they can send me a private message and happy to share it.

I love how there are so many different types of posts and posters on this site and people seem mostly respectful, tolerant and supportive.

Maaaaybe.

I wouldn't say I'm part of any BDSM community, but I am into BDSM

I really appreciate the nature of these replies thank you.

And not one mention of that silly E.L James book/film ????

Not part of the community, but had coffee once with a lady who formally was, and 3 of my female friends, no 4 of my female friends are definitely kinky.

I was active on the North West scene (UK) a few years ago, and I quite enjoyed it.

I started to lose interest when I realised that being gay (I originally thought bi) and transgender weren't kinks for me. No disrespect to those for whom they are, and I'm not saying I can't still be kinky, but I'm way past the "Dress me in stockings to emasculate me, tie me up and have men do things to me" stage. I'd much rather have relatively vanilla consensual sex with a guy with both of us naked. If I'm going to put a frock on, it's usually to go out and socialise.

I found the scene very political and cliquey, too. I can't be doing with that side of it. But I've made some good friendships that have survived the transition into vanilla life. And it helped me to figure myself out, so I'd never call it a mistake.

That never appealed to me in any way. I'm not kinky (or at least do not think so) but could play kinky if my partner suggested it as long as there was no pain or harm involved it it.

Hi

what my Daddy below said

I use fet but not had any luck yet don't feel it's a great site. Anyone know of any that are better?

I have "dabbled" with BDSM but I wouldn't say I've been part of a community.

I used to be. My last couple of relationships were vanilla, and I don't think I will make that mistake again.

Yes. And the fetish community as well. I like to imagine myself sinking in quicksand or sometimes being executed. Surprisingly these are common fetishes.

Just starting a DDlg relationship 10 days ago with a guy I met on OK Cupid abt 6 weeks ago. We haven't met in person yet but he is very attentive to me online throughout the day and has gotten me into a bit of subspace a few times already. I'm totally smitten, addicted, and can't wait for the next hit. He's like a drug to me already! He lives just under 4 hours away; I'm driving to meet him finally on Saturday. wish me luck

Yes.

The trust factor keeps me celibate.
But I am so kinky that I like the missionary position, with the lights off & my clothes on. KIDDING!

The trust factor keeps me celibate.
But I am so kinky that I like the missionary position, with the lights off & my clothes on. KIDDING!

I was involved for a number of years in my local kink community, but have fallen out of touch with most of it. Nowadays if I get the urge to experience any of that I go to other events in other cities, and as a voyuer. It's an interesting scene with many different types/characters. I am torn between whether those activities are healthy from a psychological standpoint, and/or if the individuals involved are the problem. I have experienced an awful lot of things during my time attending parties and events, and it feels like many people use kink/bdsm as an excuse to behave badly. I question my own compulsions, and struggle with the idea that just because consenting adults agree to something that everything is ok.

You may.
and this is just for giggles ...

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I'm not sure. I did BDSM play with my ex, but it was mostly fake..noisy but painless whips, velcro handcuffs, a foam "sex bed," etc.