Emotions help to guide our decision-making process. Emotions also bring passion and motivation into our lives. If we avoid or deny those feelings, we are cutting ourselves off from our most significant source of power.
My abrupt outburst. I call it passion. Especially happens when I'm working on one of my bikes or switching out the mower deck to the snow blade, and vice versa, on the John Deere. I have no patience for the mechanical aspects of life when it comes to especially tight areas with my big hands and fingers. Or when the manual doesn't properly go with my edition of the product I own. I often find myself cussing stupid shit I deal with from co-workers also. I even find myself often cussing at myself. I always cuss at Lewis Black for the fact he probably makes millions doing what I do on a fucking daily basis! God dam fucking Jew! Mary loves to laugh at me. Being seconds later I always throw some funny analogy to what I was just cussing about out. Which she then tells me she's laughing with me.
Some are comfortable with showing emotion, others can be reluctant to show any because they are taught at such a young age that it is a sign of weakness. Some of us carry our emotions on our sleeve and let it rule their lives. For me, it is passion and compassion. But keeping that balance between head and heart is a very tough thing to do.
While l agree that we shouldn't avoid or deny our feelings, we also shouldn't get wrapped up in them. We should experience them and let them go.
That having been said, l can admit that l have, in the past, used anger as a source of strength. Fear, too. But if I could go back in time, knowing what I know now, I think I would have made different choices. The strength I found didn't necessarily serve me. It trapped me.
If pressed, I'd say my greatest strength comes from my vulnerability. It's not exactly an emotion, and even though it feels like an oxymoron, it's my truth. I've been learning to honor it.
You overestimate the role of emotions. If we are truly intelligent people, our greatest asset is the ability to derive meaning from experience and learning -- the ability to build and use patterns of meaning which we cab use to interpret and respond effectively to the world we encounter. Emotions can -- but do not need to -- get in the way of that.