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Did you have trouble accepting your lack of belief in religion when you realized you were atheist/agnostic?

I think I was even more relieved at the most tbh and didn’t care to admit to myself I didn’t believe this anymore.

EmeraldJewel 7 Nov 12
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My mother was Pentecostal and my father was Atheist. The trauma from living in a household where those two belief/non-belief systems clashed on a regular basis still reverberates throughout our family.

I escaped early in adolescence, with alcohol and experimentation with drugs. I rejected religion, as my father had, but bore the shame of my mother through her indoctrination.

Did I have trouble? Man, did I!

Sophie -

I feel your pain (from your statement)! But since you are here, you should know you are among friends who are glad you are here (and not in church) !!!!

Relish in the natural world and you will marvel at what it means to be alive and human. We are living in the greatest time in the history of mankind. Why? It is because Science and Technology have taken hold and we are finally beginning to throw off the shackles of religious dogma which have made us grovel before an all powerful god for each day we live.

Our numbers are growing in the USA and around the world. This website is evidence of that!

"Reason Must Prevail."
R. Allan Worrell

@Alw314 thank you for that. ??

Not the exact same situation, but I had the experience of my brother coming out as atheist to my religious parents at a young age, and those arguments really affected me. I was afraid my brother was going to hell, but at the same time I knew he was very smart and had the smallest inkling he might be right--which also scared me. Family conflict can really do a number on you. I'm glad we both came out the other side.

...I still do battle within my
family/1siblingclergy-1practising;I just
pick the extent to which I choose to exhaust
my self emotionally. obligation to the truth for me
doesn't mean I have to change everyone's
belief system wholly?

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I was 8 and had non practicing parents as it was. I had been the only one in my family to go to church on a regular basis. I was beginning to question everything. I started to go to church less and less of over the next few years. Finally leaving for good when I was 13. I still never told anyone for another decade. I didn’t know what agnostic even was.

I quit going when i was 14. I think leaving that young was definitely an advantage. You don't have religious hangover some people seem to go through when they leave the church.

isn't it funny how going to church can either brainwash you or turn you into an agnostic/atheist? i was raised in a secular jewish family and decided, age 14, to start going to shul and studying talmud. i really, really liked studying talmud (a lot more secular than you'd think) and the services were okay but the people my age were... they seemed like really OLD people to me! anyway after a year of that i just stopped going but that's not what made me realize there was no god; the timing was coincidental. i don't think going to shul is as mind-shattering as (from what i hear) going to church is, since there is no fire and brimstone there, and it's very being-good-to-people, being-good-to-the-earth-centered. that's why i don't suffer the pains and pangs when i go to services on the high holy days (when i am well enough) or accompany my guy to shul when they read his late parents' names. there really isn't anything against which to rebel, and my atheism wasn't part of a rebellion anyway. i can see where it can be quite different for christians, and for very religious jews too i guess (even without the fire and brimstone)

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Your question is like asking:

Did you have trouble accepting you have better health by breathing clean air after you realized breathing the exhaust fumes of an old bus was not good for your health?

Not being tethered to the dishonest faith (belief without evidence) based assertions peddled as truth (Things that can be demonstrated with evidence) is freedom. I figured out religion was BS when I was in early grade school and not being a theist is a title I consider superior to positions dictated by faith based superstition. Those I have helped see the beauty of reason and reality expressed happiness in being free from the darkness of religion.

...thanks,found some of the rewards
rejuvenating;rough patch getting sober
with the term HIGHER POWER(gawd)
pushed down collective throughts ...

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I didn't have any trouble accepting it. It was a huge relief, actually. I was taking no comfort whatsoever in the idea that horrific things were happening all over the world while some decision-making entity could be preventing or stopping them, but wasn't.

Deb57 Level 8 Nov 14, 2018

I suffered the belief in early childhood, but only felt fear, never love. It was easy to let go of that belief.

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I did. My whole life centered around my beliefs. Letting go of them has been, ironically, like being born again.

good way to put it! hmm, that could even be used to deprogram religionists. "want to be REALLY born again?" love it!

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I was never really surprised by my lack of religion. I always found comfort in science and empirical evidence and the older I for the more it began conflicting with religion. That's pretty much when I began asking questions and when religion could no longer answer them I abandoned it in favor of logic, reason and science. Have never looked back since.

...good point-as religion fades
in it's relavence in everyday reality
the need to follow the progress of
science is a well sping of hope...

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I never had any issue accepting the lack of my belief in religion. See, you are born an atheist. You are taught religion. It's up to you whether you believe it or not. Based on the facts I do not.

I definitely agree with being born atheist. Somebody has to scare one into believing a God claim... so accepting my lack of belief was akin to letting go of the fears that were crammed into my headspace as a young person.

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It was a struggle until it wasn't. I wrestled with the idea for years before I was ready to admit it, and when I finally did, it was a huge burden lifted from my shoulders. The fear of becoming "evil," divine punishment or hell was gone. However, I continued to experience depression as I cut myself off from my religious social circle and worried about hiding my change of heart from my family.

@valeriean Oh Yes, the feeling that you were about to be struck by lightning, or punished. I remember the dawning sense of "Oh, its all bullshit !"

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Not really. Deep down I knew I didn't believe so I guess it was just a matter of admitting it to myself. And once I did, I've never thought twice about it.

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Well, I think most atheists who were brough up to be religious experience a logn period of doubt before they cross over to being atheist.

For me though, once I crossed teh lien to atheism, I'v ehad no regrets and no desire to go back.

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Not at all ..having been brought up Roman Catholic.

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I realized religion was all make-believe when I was 8. I know I felt lucky having parents who didn't want to force me to share their beliefs.

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Not at all. I was raised Roman Catholic and even had to attend many masses in Latin at my Italian grandmothers old school church when I was a child. I never believed so it was easy for me. I think the hardest part was when I realized in my late teens that some people really, truly, believed in god. I think as a child I thought everyone was all pretending. To me, religion and belief in god is a socially acceptable delusion so I am glad that I see the world with clarity and base my decision on reality and always have felt that way.

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Absolutely not, I accept the truth wherever it may lead.the way I see it if anybody should have trouble accepting anything it's easiest having faith that an imaginary being is lurking in the sky somewhere on faith which by the way is blind by definition and totally dishonest because it asserts what is true which is evidently not true.

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No, I accept truth and the ability to think for oneself.

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I had no problem with accepting in lack of believing religious bs. There was a great weight lifted off when I did away with religious bs and believing there a deity watching over me.

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Not even the slightest problem.
Using reason, I saw its absurdities and moved forward happily.

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I never experienced any of that.
I was never a believer, and was not raised in a religious family.
But I do know many who did, and I feel for them, That couldn't have been easy in a lot of cases.

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No. I mean it was a pretty natural transition and I didn't really even label myself as atheist or agnostic. I still really don't care for labels but I am not afraid of carrying them

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Not in the least. As Neil Young wrote, I've seen the needle and the damage done.

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When the door opened, it was like I was finally me.

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not even a little bit.

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No. Mine was pretty natural. Being in foster care most of my childhood I went through homes with different religions and each one said the other was wrong. I went along with it and acted the part "believing" like everyone else. I just assumed it was tradition more than an actual belief. I came to hate the strict religious types as well. I was a kid and I was bad no matter what. Somehow I was supposed to know certain things and act certain ways without being taught, through some divine force. I was punished for not knowing and behaving like that.

Of course being told every other religion is wrong over and over you start to realize they don't know who is right or if any are. I was in a bad position and nobody had an answer as to why a "loving God" would do or allow bad things to happen to a child, why I couldn't have a family, and so on. Typical answers were the norm. "Mysterious ways" and "there's a plan" but "he still loves you". I just focused on science and how things worked. The conclusion was obvious very quickly. What's possible and what's probable are vastly different. One is conjecture, the other requires evidence of which we have none.

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I ran for it because it meant freedom to me. Things fell apart rather quickly in my belief system in the beginning. It was later that I realized how much psychological damage early indoctrination had done.

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No.
I was brought up Lutheran. I moved into athiesm gradually by simply not attending church for some time*. When I thought of what the Bible "taught" us versus what we know through science and common observation, it was easy to make the logical and rational transition.

  • It is said that the mind, on its own, will convert to athiesm. It's the reinforcement of "worship" every week, or more, that teaches/brainwashes us into believing ideas that are contradictory to logic, experience and common sense.
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