Ok. I come seeking counsel, once again.
I've been seeing this wonderful woman for about a week. Things are going very well, and it seems that she is going to stick around with me for some time.
So... come December 25th, it is highly likely we will still be together, and I totally, absolutely, unequivocally SUCK at buying Christmas gifts. The only such gifts that I have ever been good at picking is for my daughter, and it is ONLY because she gives me a long list of things that I can choose from. She of course circulates the list to all family members...
But I am uncertain as to what might be a good and appropriate gift for this new woman in my life. She is a reader, loves sci fi, and British comedy, drinks bourbon and scotch, all the things that I like. But not sure what I should get her...... (oh, and I want to rule out anything too obviously sexual and/or lovey-dovey)
At least I am planning ahead. Need your wisdom, counsel and advice.
Thanks, my unpaid dating consultants!
P.S. She is also an atheist. Recovering catholic like myself. I am pretty certain that she celebrates it the same way I celebrate it. Non-religiously. So assume for the sake of this question that it is appropriate for me to get her a present. So, "nothing" will not be a very helpful or relevant answer.
Does she have a wish list on Amazon? Things that are a big no-no: lingerie, appliances, (unless they're on her Amazon wish list) or perfume (again, unless you know for a fact she wants a specific scent.) If you get jewelry, a simple pendant of some sort is nice, or an elegant chain. Don't buy a ring unless you are ready to negotiate a change in the relationship. and NO, repeat NO, homemade "coupons!"
Think about something that celebrates the two of you...something to remind her of how you met, or a special place you visited together, or even a great conversation you two had.
That or get her candles LOL. I recommend Yankee Candle out of Deerfield MA because they're soooooooooooo perfect!
I say keep it simple. You want her to like you for the little things. May I suggest a scarf or a vase of flowers? Ask her indirectly, "What kind of flowers do you recommend that I buy for my office? What kind would you buy for yours?" BAM! Next! CHOCOLATES with bourbon!
I am so happy for you, Ken! Get 'er done! lol
I have a few ideas as few ideas considering some of the things you mentioned are very near and dear to my heart. You will have to do a little home work to see if she is already has of been exposed to them and if she is into the things you says she is she should be familiar if not already into them. My ideas concern the First go to the British and SciFi. Douglas Adams- "Hitch Hikers Guide to the Galaxy" Series, ask how much she knows about that. If she is a fan or if she is interested you can expand by betting her more of that (5 books in series) AND "Salmon of Doubt" his final work a must for (posthumous) avid fans also "Dirk Gently -Holistic Detective Agency" , all Adams, all British humor and Science Fiction AND Totally AWESOME. Also top shelf whiskey and bourbon mini samplers are always a good go to. Bullieit. Jack Daniels, Around Christmas i always see 4 or 6, there are rarely a bad one to be found and most have a special holiday minis that are only available once a years.
My go-to gift for women for whom I have no idea what else to get them is a scarf to wrap around the neck for cold weather. They are even popular in Sothern California (what cold?).Get that and a book by a atheist and liberal female author. That or tickets to a theatrical production of something that SHE would like to see. And, as you mentioned, a bottle of single malt Scotch is always there if all else but I am still voting for the scarf.
I'd suggest tickets to an extra special nice event that would interest both of you. Gift card to a brick and mortar book store...perhaps with a note saying you'll drive her to an especially nice big one in a nearby city.
Consumables are usually good if you know something she likes to eat or drink and can get an upscale version of it.
I'd stay away from clothing and jewelry other than socks, winter hats or a scarf
Find out if she has an e-reader. If so, a gift card or whatever for ebooks. If not (and she's not a technophobe), maybe a Kindle or Nook--but these can be dicey, even for avid reader, so I'd ask first. Or maybe just a general GC to Barnes and Noble.com.
SciFi is a broad catagory, so I wouldn't just latch onto any author, universe, fandom, etc. If it were me, I'd be tickled pink by a nice hardbound edition--or set--of some classic in my wheelhouse. The Playboy anthology is pretty smashing, actually (short stories).
Nerd jewellery! DNA coil earrings, a pendant of her favourite compound (like caffeine, or ethanol, or dopamine etc.). You can get rings made from iron nickel meteorites that are etched to bring out the funky cross hatched alloy grain. Ammonite fossils make lovely pendants, too.