Interesting, so know what you want, like duh, took a study to determing that, lol

This makes sense to me, and reflects my life experience. Women with sexual agency are often punished for it in one way or another; men, much less so. And since women are so objectified by our patriarchal, porn-saturated culture, older women get overlooked a lot.

Women are taught that being “good” and “nice” mean not telling people “no.” In hundreds of little ways, we learn to subjugate our own needs and feelings for others. In all kinds of situations, not just sexual ones. Women are told that we are responsible for setting sexual boundaries, but in all other areas of our lives we are taught that it’s not nice/feminine/allowed to have boundaries.
Women who feel less restricted by those norms are better able to set and adhere to personal boundaries.

I so appreciate being with a woman who knows what she wants- and not just in the bedroom. Even when you find out if you're not compatible at least you know and can move on.

Amen to truth!

Yeah, I noticed that also.

Also, they're the ones most often abused in a marriage.

I've been on a few Catholic pilgrimages in my younger years...

I've experienced both. Most women really are terrible at sex because of this. I see it often in the, what if my __ found out? What would "they" think of me if they knew I did this? What if they hear us? What if someone sees us? What if someone comes in?

Eventually it gets to the point of why even make any effort if she's going to be like this? I think it's the main reason why marriages and relationships fail. The money problems come from this dissatisfaction too not the other way around. Like I said, in my experience.

Article Finishes Below . . . This isn’t really a comment on rape, so please don’t take it into victim blaming territory. That said, it does touch upon consent, and the importance of enthusiastic consent. Yes, ideally men would be tuned into what they’re doing in bed and pause in between sexual demands to make sure their partner is 100% cool with everything that’s happening. At the same time, this study suggests that it might be helpful if we teach women not just to say “no” to sex, but to say “yes” to the kind of sex they want to happen. Because the better you know what you want in bed, the better you know and communicate what you don’t want, and that will make the world a better place.

We should be teaching women that they are sexual beings who deserve as much satisfaction in bed (and elsewhere, of course) as a man. Sex doesn’t have to hurt, and it doesn’t have to be something you just have to get through in order for you to keep your boyfriend. It should be pleasurable for both people.

Obviously this is just a little study that shows correlation (but not causation) and looks at the issue of sexual satisfaction and women’s agency in a very narrow way. I’d love to see more research like this, because if nothing else it’s going to really freak out conservatives who don’t even want us to tell teenagers about condoms in sex ed, let alone telling them that sex is supposed to be fun and enjoyable. That’s going to make some heads explode.