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You are attracted... but then?

Have you ever seen a picture of someone and found them very attractive only to find out later they were the same sex as you?
Your reaction was...
A-intrigued
B-horified
C-confussed
D-excited
E-neutral

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I’m attracted to whom I am attracted to. I don’t consider myself bisexual, just sexual. But if I thought someone was one gender, and I found out they were not, as with any surprise, I’d be surprised.

Annaleda Level 8 Feb 13, 2018
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@Manimshut As opposed to what? What is the flip side of your statement? That men have a harder time determining whether another man is attractive? Or is it that men have a harder time VOICING that they find a man attractive? -- which can very well mean nothing more than he is attractive.

I see tons of women and men who I find attractive -- and not in a I want to have sex with them kind of way -- and have no problem saying so.

I, personally, think that is one little part of what is wrong with humanity. Men are "supposed" to behave certain ways to be seen as manly, and that includes not being able or allowed to notice or voice that another male is attractive. Pure rubbish I say.

I actually respect and admire a man a little bit more if they are not afraid (for lack of a better word, please don't splice that) to simply acknowledge when another man is attractive. In fact, it pretty much turns me off and a man will lose a bit of my respect if I hear "Well, I wouldn't know if he was attractive, but all the girls seem to think so." Ugh.....

I'm not saying any of this applies to you, @Manimshut -- not at all. Just throwing out my thoughts on this, generally.

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@Manimshut Your last sentence made me laugh. Cologne or natural scent?

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I can find men attractive but not sexually attractive Bradley Cooper attractive but wouldn't sleep with him . Confused at first then proud of myself for being so mature about it

Simon1 Level 7 Feb 13, 2018
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Cooper's pretty damned good looking. Makes a good bionic raccoon, too.

Yes he is!

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E- beautiful people are just that. I'm comfortable enough in my sexuality to say that I think another man is attractive.

jayneonacobb Level 7 Feb 13, 2018
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Bravo, me to.

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I'm attracted to a lot of people that I would not contemplate having sex with. The sex of the person isn't the problem though, it's the age. I have a HUGE issue with having sex with someone that is younger than my oldest son.

kiramea Level 7 Feb 13, 2018
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Why do some people find it so difficult to separate "Finds attractive" from "Wants to have sex with?" I find lots of women attractive, but know what's in their underwear precludes any sexual interest on my part.

There are plenty of reasons why you might not want to have sex with someone you find attractive. Genital incompatibility is only one of them. So why make such a big deal out of it?

NicoleCadmium Level 7 Feb 13, 2018
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Definitely D..yes D...of course D!

Charlene Level 8 Feb 13, 2018
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Guys who hit on me always apologies when I say I'm not gay and I tell them "not at all, I'm thrilled anyone finds me attractive"

@ThomasLevi That's cool. smile001.gif How many times have we all heard (especially those of us in the south) "Maaaan, if some dude made a pass at me, I'd........" Nauseating.

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I guess E, although I wouldn't say so much neutral (which would suggest no reaction either way) so much as interested - I find both/all genders attractive because it is based largely on the person themself (although physical traits do attract me as well, ultimately it's about who that person is) so if I find a person attractive, and I think that person is male, and I find out later that person is female, I would react (therefore not really 'neutral'smile009.gif but my reaction would be neither negative nor positive, just one of interest as in "Oh, that's something I didn't realize about that person before"

Runastar Level 3 Feb 13, 2018
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None of the above? Sure, If it's someone in drag or a pre-op transgender, perhaps some surprise. But I m attracted to lots of men. (See my profile) But it's highly unlikely I'd ever act upon my attraction.

MrLizard Level 8 Feb 13, 2018
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Well I'm a woman, with a GF.... So excited.

SensualAva Level 6 Feb 13, 2018
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That is exciting, guys are so easy to please.

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A&E. I'm intrigued by androgynous females. I like the look. But my sexy days are over, so it's all academic for me at this point.

stinkeye_a Level 8 Feb 13, 2018
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Sexy days are never over, Just ask Dr. Ruth.

Androgynous females are the most attractive females in a "she's hot" kind of way, to me (i.e. Rachel Maddow and Samira Wiley - without makeup and long hair).

For other attractive females it's more like "she's beautiful" to me.

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Neutral. I'm bisexual anyway.

ErichZannIII Level 7 Feb 13, 2018
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I'm jealous, plus I am way picky to boot, it's a wonder I find anyone interesting, but luckily there are a hell of a lot of people.

I'm a bit picky as well. I don't think I've ever had romantic feelings for someone I wasn't already friends with. Kind of narrows the field I'm playing on, so to speak.

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E

jlynn37 Level 8 Feb 13, 2018
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E

Donotbelieve Level 8 Feb 13, 2018
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F Embarrassed, a dancer with an international all male revue, low cut see through top, long legs, blonde called Christopher.

Rugglesby Level 8 Feb 13, 2018
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now I thought you'd like that pmsl

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Intrigued - definitely.

evergreen Level 8 Feb 13, 2018
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E. Maybe a little disappointed. lol

ChrisJones Level 6 Feb 13, 2018
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E

Lysistrata Level 6 Feb 13, 2018
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Does that happen a lot?

Spinliesel Level 8 Feb 13, 2018
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It seems to happen more often, more and more people are finding the grey area in their sexuality so that it does not always appear to be so clear cut, which to be honest, I kind of like.

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What about F - disappointed

arnies Level 6 Feb 13, 2018
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A I guess

LeighShelton Level 8 Feb 13, 2018
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E. My favorite movie is Priscilla, Queen of the Desert. It takes place in Australia and follows the fortunes and misfortunes of a travelling transvestite show.

Dwight Level 7 Feb 13, 2018
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I think women are more attractive than men, unless the men are "pretty."

birdingnut Level 8 Feb 13, 2018
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What is confussed?

nvrnuff Level 8 Feb 18, 2018
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I would think that in most cases you would be able to tell from the picture.

nvrnuff Level 8 Feb 18, 2018
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F - giggle!

I know women are hot. I just do not want to be in a relationship with one I've met to date.

Lydiaeli Level 6 Feb 15, 2018
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