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Am I the only one that feels a better sense of self on than I do with long term friends?

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I have a lot of friends in real life, but I can’t share my fundamental feelings about a disbelief in what most people take for granted is true. I generally just never talk to them about why I think religion is malign and belief in god illogical. I keep these feelings to myself, except when I come onto this site, where I can share my thoughts with like minded others, such as yourselves. It feels comfortable.


There's a comraderie here that feels unique. I'm not sure why. Special people here.

BeeHappy Level 9 Dec 14, 2018

I wouldn't say a better sense of self - but I do feel I can be more open and honest here and not "check myself" so much as I do IRL. So if that's what you mean... then no you are not the only one.

Dandewine Level 7 Dec 14, 2018

I’d agree with this. And I feel like being a member has somehow allowed me to feel I CAN be more open IRL. Yesterday, the physical therapist said, “so are you ready for Christmas”, and without thinking twice, I responded that I don’t celebrate religious holidays, don’t believe in religion and consider it improbable that there is such an entity as a god. Turned into an interesting conversation and I found there IS another person here, in this ultra-right environment, who thinks as I do. If only he were single...and 40 years older.


I feel the same way...we cover a lot of topics and have fun...I enjoy it all and feel safe here...learn a few things and am making my party list when I retire to the beach! ha ha ha (yes, Shelton, you are on the list!)

Its a long way to come, but I hope Im on it.

@Marionville You know you are!!!! I have selected you to be in charge of the music along with a few of the others!

@thinktwice I’m completely chuffed! That’s Brit talk for delighted! ?

@thinktwice I should add, I hope there will be a few Hot Hunks on that beach with us! Put somebody in charge of that task! ?

@Marionville I think I know the perfect person for that

@Shelton Nah...I have enjoyed your posts from day one...

@thinktwice Good, we need some good bods on that beach!


Lately I've been thinking about the feeling I get from this site. I think it's a sense of connectedness and acceptance. There are so many people here that are so not judgmental and allow others to be themselves. I've seen the support given to each other and it warms my heart.


My sense of self is strong.

That is exactly what I was going to say!

@Minta79 I am not surprised. ?


You got friends here? Damn lucky you.

kenriley Level 8 Dec 14, 2018

Shut up, you have friends too! Lol ?

@BeeHappy I know, I love Shelton, just don't tell him. He owns me a beer.

@kenriley ???


I need to spend more time, interact more, get to know more people!


It is lovely to be able to speak my mind without causing harm to the defensive structure of others. I have spent much of my life keeping my mouth shut and wishing for more. I'm very happy to have found this group of people.

LolaJane Level 4 Dec 19, 2018

I have only been here a couple of weeks, but I'm so surrounded by people who want to introduce me to Jesus so my life can be blessed, that this place has been like a nice hiding place from them. They can't find me where they won't look.


From family....from long term friends....from my professional colleagues...sad isn't it?

linxminx Level 7 Dec 14, 2018

Not entirely, I'm fortunate to have some life long friends with whom I can be myself and although we go months or years without seeing each other will pick up where we left off. But having said that I am quite comfortable on here and have made a couple of connections I wouldn't otherwise have done so.

ipdg77 Level 8 Dec 14, 2018

I know I can be a lot more myself here than with a whole lot of the people I know.


I just joined, so i still do not know anyone here.


Not as opposed to long term friends, no. But it feels good to check in on everyone daily, and there are smart people here who crack me up every day, so it's worth it!

Byrdsfan Level 8 Dec 14, 2018

My sense of self is super strong, and I need face time with people. But, I enjoy the conversations here and the people I've met (irl and just online) through here.

Minta79 Level 7 Dec 14, 2018

I think that unfortunately with friends we are guarded in what we say to them far too often, there is a fear that they no longer will want us in their lives, so we don't say what we really think or feel all the time. Here it doesn't matter because after all we don't really know each other and don't have to worry about that people no longer want to have anything do do with us.

Jolanta Level 8 Dec 14, 2018

As an extrovert, I love connecting with people. delights me because of all of the intelligent, kind and funny members. But I still need interactions with people in real life.

You an extrovert, never.


I don't understand your reply. Please clarify.

@LiterateHiker It is a joke. Of course you are an extrovert, you are really knowledgeable in what you are saying and very articulate. It is a pleasure to read your answers to questions people put.


Nope! I feel the same way. Sweeeet

Cat021958 Level 6 Dec 14, 2018

I already had a sense of self and have for a long, long time.

Sticks48 Level 9 Dec 14, 2018

no person is an island......and I don't think you understood the statement.

@sologal Whats not to understand? This site hasn't changed anything about me. It is a form of entertainment for the most part. I am a very social person. I have a few close friends and because of my job, way more than enough acquaintances.I signed up out of curiosity and stayed because sometimes it is fun and sometimes informative. smile001.gif

good for you....really did not mean to offend.

@sologal You didn't. smile001.gif


Perhaps it's not sense of self, but less need of subterfuge, or less need to stay in the superficial?

Allamanda Level 7 Feb 11, 2019

Not really. Always had a strong sense of self regardless of whether butcher, musician, or ops manager. Not because of any religious or non-religious conviction, just because!


My sense of self has always been strong (occasionally to my detriment), I have always been pretty open with my lack of belief so it's hard for me to say that it's better here. However, there is a certain freedom in knowing that I'm very unlikely to offend someone on here in the way I might IRL (of course, I generally view that as their problem if they are offended by non-belief!)

Medusa Level 4 Jan 22, 2019

I don't know

EMC2 Level 7 Jan 16, 2019

No, not for me. I'm fortunate to have life long friends and I have an absolute sense of self with them. This site as opened up a portal on people I wouldn't have otherwise have 'met' but it;s a totally different platform for me to be able to compare. If I keep an internet friend for 58 years I may be able to make a fair comparison, but that would make me 116 smile001.gif

ipdg77 Level 8 Jan 15, 2019
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