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Am I the only one that feels a better sense of self on Agnostic.com than I do with long term friends?

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I have a lot of friends in real life, but I can’t share my fundamental feelings about a disbelief in what most people take for granted is true. I generally just never talk to them about why I think religion is malign and belief in god illogical. I keep these feelings to myself, except when I come onto this site, where I can share my thoughts with like minded others, such as yourselves. It feels comfortable.

Marionville Level 8 Dec 14, 2018
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There's a comraderie here that feels unique. I'm not sure why. Special people here.

BeeHappy Level 8 Dec 14, 2018
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my sense of self doesn't change due to who or what I'm around.... but it is nice to know there are other like-minded people around as evidenced by those here on AG.com....

aintmisbehaven Level 5 Dec 14, 2018
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wow...aren;t you the lucky one.

I think as long as we don't lose sight of our need to be social, then that's ok. Once we need to isolate ourselves (metaphorically or literally) we suddenly might be vulnerable to the whims of society and what that may be at that time. Be wary of assuming we can be independent of society entirely. We cannot.

@sologal I don't know... is it common for people's sense of self to change with their environment?

@sologal It has nothing to do with luck.

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I feel the same way...we cover a lot of topics and have fun...I enjoy it all and feel safe here...learn a few things and am making my party list when I retire to the beach! ha ha ha (yes, Shelton, you are on the list!)

thinktwice Level 8 Dec 14, 2018
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Its a long way to come, but I hope Im on it.

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@Marionville You know you are!!!! I have selected you to be in charge of the music along with a few of the others!

@thinktwice I’m completely chuffed! That’s Brit talk for delighted! 😍

@thinktwice I should add, I hope there will be a few Hot Hunks on that beach with us! Put somebody in charge of that task! 😛

@Marionville I think I know the perfect person for that job...lol

@Shelton Nah...I have enjoyed your posts from day one...

@thinktwice Good, we need some good bods on that beach!

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I wouldn't say a better sense of self - but I do feel I can be more open and honest here and not "check myself" so much as I do IRL. So if that's what you mean... then no you are not the only one.

Dandewine Level 6 Dec 14, 2018
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I’d agree with this. And I feel like being a member has somehow allowed me to feel I CAN be more open IRL. Yesterday, the physical therapist said, “so are you ready for Christmas”, and without thinking twice, I responded that I don’t celebrate religious holidays, don’t believe in religion and consider it improbable that there is such an entity as a god. Turned into an interesting conversation and I found there IS another person here, in this ultra-right environment, who thinks as I do. If only he were single...and 40 years older.

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Lately I've been thinking about the feeling I get from this site. I think it's a sense of connectedness and acceptance. There are so many people here that are so not judgmental and allow others to be themselves. I've seen the support given to each other and it warms my heart.

Wildflower Level 7 Dec 14, 2018
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My sense of self is strong.

Donotbelieve Level 8 Dec 14, 2018
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That is exactly what I was going to say!

@Minta79 I am not surprised. 🙂

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You got friends here? Damn lucky you.

kenriley Level 8 Dec 14, 2018
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Shut up, you have friends too! Lol 🤣

@BeeHappy I know, I love Shelton, just don't tell him. He owns me a beer.

@kenriley 🤣🤣🤣

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I need to spend more time, interact more, get to know more people!

JonnaBononna Level 6 Dec 14, 2018
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It is lovely to be able to speak my mind without causing harm to the defensive structure of others. I have spent much of my life keeping my mouth shut and wishing for more. I'm very happy to have found this group of people.

LolaJane Level 4 Dec 19, 2018
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I have only been here a couple of weeks, but I'm so surrounded by people who want to introduce me to Jesus so my life can be blessed, that this place has been like a nice hiding place from them. They can't find me where they won't look.

HomeAloneSunday Level 5 Dec 19, 2018
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From family....from long term friends....from my professional colleagues...sad isn't it?

linxminx Level 6 Dec 14, 2018
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Not entirely, I'm fortunate to have some life long friends with whom I can be myself and although we go months or years without seeing each other will pick up where we left off. But having said that I am quite comfortable on here and have made a couple of connections I wouldn't otherwise have done so.

ipdg77 Level 8 Dec 14, 2018
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I know I can be a lot more myself here than with a whole lot of the people I know.

sewchick57 Level 7 Dec 14, 2018
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Truth be said many of my friends hear the words but do not understand what they mean. Therefore when I say athiest, they think it's no more important than a menu choice, something for today, not realising it's for life, like the proverbial puppy at Christmas (the irony is not lost on me 😂)

tartanathiest Level 5 Dec 14, 2018
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That's because so many people slept in school.

@Jolanta
Yes, I think you may be correct there. Also, some people think learning stops at school (no matter when that is (high school, college, university etc) and therefore switch off to new ways of thinking.

@tartan, sounds like home : (

@freeofgod
Sorry this hear that. We are hear, we know you are right.

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I just joined, so i still do not know anyone here.

SebasCorrea Level 2 Dec 14, 2018
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Not as opposed to long term friends, no. But it feels good to check in on everyone daily, and there are smart people here who crack me up every day, so it's worth it!

Byrdsfan Level 8 Dec 14, 2018
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I rarely feel comfortable around people. I do feel comfortable on this site. I'm not sure if in the relative anonymity of the Internet or if I just belong here but it sort of feels like home. This is the one place I can be honest.

Dale2006 Level 5 Dec 15, 2018
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My sense of self is super strong, and I need face time with people. But, I enjoy the conversations here and the people I've met (irl and just online) through here.

Minta79 Level 7 Dec 14, 2018
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As an extrovert, I love connecting with people.

Agnostic.com delights me because of all of the intelligent, kind and funny members. But I still need interactions with people in real life.

LiterateHiker Level 8 Dec 14, 2018
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You an extrovert, never.

@Jolanta

I don't understand your reply. Please clarify.

@LiterateHiker It is a joke. Of course you are an extrovert, you are really knowledgeable in what you are saying and very articulate. It is a pleasure to read your answers to questions people put.

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Nope! I feel the same way. Sweeeet

Cat021958 Level 5 Dec 14, 2018
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I think that unfortunately with friends we are guarded in what we say to them far too often, there is a fear that they no longer will want us in their lives, so we don't say what we really think or feel all the time. Here it doesn't matter because after all we don't really know each other and don't have to worry about that people no longer want to have anything do do with us.

Jolanta Level 7 Dec 14, 2018
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I already had a sense of self and have for a long, long time.

Sticks48 Level 8 Dec 14, 2018
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no person is an island......and I don't think you understood the statement.

@sologal Whats not to understand? This site hasn't changed anything about me. It is a form of entertainment for the most part. I am a very social person. I have a few close friends and because of my job, way more than enough acquaintances.I signed up out of curiosity and stayed because sometimes it is fun and sometimes informative. smile001.gif

good for you....really did not mean to offend.

@sologal You didn't. smile001.gif

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I don't know

EMC2 Level 7 Jan 16, 2019
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No, not for me. I'm fortunate to have life long friends and I have an absolute sense of self with them. This site as opened up a portal on people I wouldn't have otherwise have 'met' but it;s a totally different platform for me to be able to compare. If I keep an internet friend for 58 years I may be able to make a fair comparison, but that would make me 116 smile001.gif

ipdg77 Level 8 Jan 15, 2019
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