Personal choice ....totally her choice. ...maybe she is afraid of snakes and frogs who use long tongues to capture and eat bugs. ?.....we kiss where we drink eat breathe brush teeth and some people "smoke" pressing soft lips together is not universal. ...I am told Eskimos rub noses but don't kiss. ....accept the way she reports her choices and reassure her what is normal for her is all that matters. ...if she wants to change and try sticking her tongue into a lover's mouth. ...she's in control and she need only tell her lover's tongue to stay behind the teeth until she works things out

Slobbering? Yuk, no thanks ... a bit of gentle tongue-hockey, that'll be very nice

I mean, it does sound like there is something tied to it, but I wouldn't jump to that conclusion. It takes all types to make up the world. We also learn weird quirks because our brains aren't perfect learning machines. But, if it's not harming anyone, who cares?

I enjoy kissing her fanny even her arse to some extent, I just don't like the feeling of her tongue.

She may have had a bad experience when she was young.

It's strange. I'd guess your friend suffers from some repressed childhood trauma.

I had a girlfriend who didn't like French kissing or receiving oral sex. When I realized it wasn't going to change, I broke up with her. She was vastly incompatible with me.

I've never run across anyone who didn't like French kissing before. Ever. Or heard anyone tell me they didn't like it.

But hey, there are lots of things people like and don't like. If you find a match, great.

I love French kissing

Check your breath.

I have never seen the appeal

I think french kissing and other kissing is about as up close and personal as you can get and I love great kissing and great passionate sex, however, there is no such thing as normal and humans are very diverse. some people don't like even being in each others space while others indulge in everything including dead people. I guess if your both consenting adults and you aren't bothering anyone else it's entirely up to the individuals what they do.

I'm not a fan,at all tbh.

Hmmm. I love kissing. In a lot of ways it is more of an expression of love than the happy ending part. There are a lot of people who dislike touch, or sex as well. I like all of that, a lot, however I don’t care for okra or Lima beans. It’s all a matter of taste.

Is it just french kissing or does it carry over to oral sex?

it is certainly a personal matter. it is neither normal nor strange.

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It seems unusual to me. I assume that she has tried with multiple people? There's nothing worse than kissing someone with poor hygiene and/or technique.

'...sudden rush of disgust if a man attempts to French kiss her and she immediately starts to feel uncomfortable.'

• A repressed memory certainly sounds like a possibility.
• What about if a woman did it? (just spitballing, here)

I don't care for it at least not until I'm more aroused. To me a soft kiss is best to start with. French kissing should be between two people who know each other well. A tongue in my mouth as a first overture makes me ill.

I've thought French kisses were over-rated. I personally like only my tongue to be in my mouth.

I have never kIssed anyone In france

It's not for everyone.

Ok first time around - hated French kissing - was like "Eww no!".

It improved from there. And technique is important.

That being said though I've had men who just slobbered or tried to suck your tongue down their throat and that friggin' hurts!

It definitely adds to the experience when done right.

If someone had that as a hard limit - I think I could survive just fine.

How it squicks your friend may be telling.
Could be preference - could be bad French kissers - and could be a history of sexual abuse.

Hey, my last husband disliked BJ's, despite me being damned good at them....too squeamish for sex for almost 30 years, then he leaves me for a Porn star who digs animals as well as people...not really a surprise, if you think about it.........

2 words separated by a hyphen will likely ease such tensions. TIC-TAC

Some people, it might just not be their thing. Some people may have encountered a few too many french kissers who didn't know what a toothbrush or floss were. Some could have experienced some rather traumatizing things in the process of "french kissing" and maybe she just doesn't want to talk about tht with you - perhaps after a few people viewing her as "damaged goods" after revealing that, or even worse, expecting either an extra skill set or being more willing to do various kinds of kink because they had done them before, even if forced to do it.

If it's not her thing for whatever reason, respect her boundaries. If it's that big of a deal to you, find someone whose thing that is. No need to, as it looks like some others have, be disparaging, judgmental, or even jump to conclusions.

It is ok. it is not something that I would think that is the thing to do immediately in a kiss, and all kisses don't need the tongue.

In my world, when you kiss your lover during sex or foreplay there should be some tongue involved. It shouldn't be obnoxious, but seriously... French kissing is super arousing for me! If my sexual partner didn't want to French kiss i would have to assume she didn't really have sexual compatibility with me. So, my answer to your question is, yes, it is strange that someone wouldn't like French kissing with their lover. Very strange. Then again I have read posts from men here that they don't enjoy Fellatio (what many men refer to as THE gift). That also seems strange to me, in the sense that it's atypical. I guess it's about personal space. Hopefully in your friends case her aversion to French kissing isn't really just an aversion to sexual intimacy in general.