Nothing in life is Zen..especially people..

Call me a cynic, but I don't think so.

If my ideal mate exists, she would have higher standards than to settle for a guy like me.

Who the hell knows ? But I've sure had a couple mighty fine ones in the interim !

In my opinion, NO ideal partner exists here or anywhere else on this planet. Perhaps in your own imagination though.

I won't do the math, but I'm pretty sure the possibility is not very high at all.

I would change the ideal partner to "pretty damn good". And yes I have a pretty damn good atheist wife. If you want an ideal partner then you need to be an ideal partner also.

My ideal partner is a non-believing, intelligent woman who has good hygiene, good morals, is kind, humorous, and attractive (spiritually, physically), and I believe that she could be anywhere (including this site)

I don't think ideal exists. It comes down to what idiosyncrasies you want to deal with. Nobody is perfect so ideal is what you are willing to accept.

IMHO nothing in life is ideal, just what you decide is most important and whether or not your potential partner falls in those criteria and don't sweat the small stuff.

If that is your definition of ideal then yeah I think it exists, if that's not, I wouldn't count on it.

Ideals exist solely in the realm of contemplation. Everybody will fall short of the mark in some fashion. Everything is some measure of compromise. Here is as good a place as any. Cast a wide net. Shoot for the stars and you might get the moon along the way.

Yes and she could as easily be on this site as anywhere else but she doesn't know it yet.
My advice would be to the guys on this site stop being so namby pamby bending over backwards to try to relate to the sensitivities of the women and elsewhere. Most women won't pick a 'sensitive' guy as her ideal mate. They will pick them for provider and nest supplier and screw the jerk guy that doesn't care about her well being at all. She already has a guy for that need. Try being original, someone worth knowing, someone doing something, interesting. Women are not fragile creatures. They can handle men that are tough and rough around the edges. Don't pretend you're something other than what you are and ask for what you want and expect up front should the opportunity arise.

Right now there is likely a woman here that hadn't said a word directly to me or you but they're looking and reading and weighing the words you are posting. So be honest and yes flawed and give her enough info about you so she can make her presence known. Stop giving the customer what you think they want. Be a dick or a prince, some women like one and not the other. Let them decide.

I doubt it and chances are not good.

I really haven't given much thought as to what constitutes my ideal partner, and I'm doubtful I or anyone could. It's far too complex.

I'm very doubtful that I would ever even get together with a bad match via this site, much less anything like an ideal partner. The dating/matching features are way too weak.

Having lived in Vegas I do no odds or work out extrapolation of possibilities. You may met your ideal partner to lose her to cancer 6 months later. (disclaimer: did not happened to me). Life is funny like that. So your definition of ideal partner depends on your motivation. I do like your branding of "ideal partner" instead of "soulmate", makes it more possible, accessible and available. In this place/realm possibilities should be endless since new recruits arrive on a daily basis... just be Patient Hunter, you only have to get it right once if is an ideal partner.

Ideal covers a lot of ground. I would not want someone who was just like me or even had the same personality. One can't grow by being with the same as oneself.

I, like a lot of others, thought an ideal (close to perfect) partner was highly unlikely but I was wrong. I found an "ideal" partner that lasted for 16 years. She was an immigrant with a significantly different background. We shared about 90% of our world view. She was an extreme extrovert and I'm an introvert. The things we had that made it an ideal partnership was: 1. emotional stability with reason above emotion. 2. a strong desire to see the other's viewpoint and to make it work and 3. common values as foods, atheism, financial responsibility and some interests. We also practiced open and honest communication and were willing to make compromises. Even death was discussed and what each expected of the other afterward (if I had died first what I would want for her and visa versa). We agreed to keep the mourning period short and to go on with our lives and seek another. We agreed when one loves another one wants whats best for the other.

There are different types of ideal and from what I have learned the range has both increased and shrunk. I am more open to other partner types but with the basics intact. I know I can't replace her but I can replace what I have learned and practice it on another. Also, I will never take another relationship for granted and be more open to a range of "ideal" partners. Unfortunately, age, geography and strong values based on pragmatic morals has reduced the availability. But THEY are out there and there is more than one.

I did the (approx) math long ago = there are about 30 women in the USA who would be my perfect match. I met two of them, but one was mean to me and the other = we didn't have that "chemistry". So I figure about 28 remaining. And she's probably not on this site.

So - I'm happily looking for an imperfect match here

That is the $100,000 question.

I haven't seen evidence of such a thing existing.

How long is a pease of string? define perfect.

My ideal partner must exist. Will she be perfectly ideal? No. Will I find her? Not a chance in hell lol

I am positive! This site has renewed my hope that I will meet an open minded partner, and meet Open minded people to have real conversations. And real disagreements...Just REAL. Now just dust off the Meeting through messaging skills. Thank you for asking this question!

Probably not and........probably not

No, I'm fairly certain I don't have it in me to maintain a relationship - desire or ability.

I've never been able to conceptualize a "perfect boyfriend" or "ideal partner" or even a "type". I'm just not built that way.

I'm too plugged into the understanding that my expectations and preferences A) will never match reality and B) can be potentially detrimental to interfacing with reality.

I've never seen the point of cooking up some fantasy. Real life is going to serve up what it has to offer; why get worked up over something you can't have anyway? I'd rather devote all my energy to seeing the real world clearly and fairly.