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What is love

I’ve bonded with people and it’s brought me joy but I’ve never loved someone. I feel that humans have put their own fairy-tale definition on what love is. Love to me is a healed cut. I need someone to help further my thoughts.

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Baby, don't hurt me.

KKGator Level 9 Jan 17, 2019

♪♫ don't hurt me♫♪



It's when you value someone else more than yourself in every way and want them to be happy moreso than your own acquisition of happiness. In other words, someone who means so much to you that you would sacrifice your own happiness to ensure theirs. And it often tends to last when they feel the same about you.

Kafirah Level 7 Jan 17, 2019

I hear that it's a second hand emotion

Rudy1962 Level 9 Jan 17, 2019

Might that include singular devotion?

@astralmax indeed


What is don't hurt me..don't hurt more....sorry I couldn't resist ^^

Agnieszka Level 7 Jan 23, 2019

My little philosophy...
Love is the interconnectedness of sentient beings. It's just a human construct like time. But constructs like time and love are important to make us human. It's how we see ourselves and define ourselves and others. To me, communication is a form of love. There is good and bad forms of communication: You can kiss or punch someone in the mouth, but everything we do as a form of connection, intentional or reactional, is a form of love. Love is life itself, playing istelf out in the cosmos. Love gives a veil of meaning to the meaningless energy. Love allows life to procreate and devour our tiny little worlds.

Genius and beautifully written thank you!

Well said

You and I seem to be kindred spirits of the mind. The type of love you describe, in my opinion, is human love, from the perspective of the absolute. However, we consciously exist and communicate in the relative. In the relative, all expressions of humanness are expressions of love, if it is understood that every expression of humanness is a teaching lesson. Your post was excellent.


♫♪ baby don't hurt me ♪♫

loudshirt Level 5 Jan 18, 2019

That's funny!!!


Love is when you are able to add affection to your kindness.

skado Level 8 Jan 17, 2019

I am not sure whether or not I love. When I was younger I used to think the infatuation I experienced was love. As I've gotten older, that has mostly gone away. I feel a little bit of affection for family, but I'm not sure how strong that bond actually is. I would like to think it is strong but it's never been tested. Now, when I like someone it is this pleasant sensation of completeness in my heart with a dash of longing thrown in. I can break down what I'm feeling but when I am trying to relay my feelings to someone, they almost always seem paltry compared to what others express. Am I broken or not normal because of this? I still don't know. At least as far as love goes.

Atecc Level 4 Jan 17, 2019

I know the feeling


Its an action. Its unconditional. Its unlike anything else

Brevity spot on....good job K...each gift of love is unique and timeless ... we are all free to follow up acting in response to the love we received from our moms parents siblings families neighbors classmates healers and teachers....if it's not love it's cliche it's opinion it's platitudes


Love is the concentrated desire to see another the perfect expression of beingness, uncorrupted by false appearances of the ugly, ignorant, and intolerant expressions of human depravity.

Tomm Level 5 Jan 18, 2019

One need not Express global boundaries outside of human started out close to is giving to others what they need to become the best version of their genuine selves....depravity began with the first shaman first invented religion and first rapist betraying human love


Addiction to neurochemicals.

betzkate Level 1 Jan 18, 2019

Love is never having to say your sore

JayMan1 Level 4 Jan 17, 2019

I actually find healing in exposure.

That's actually hilarious! Reminds me of Frank on "Shameless".

"Love is never having to say you're sore!"

@Kintaro love Shameless, Frank is hilarious



Yep.... and that alligator brain stem response.


I'll bet you won't stop there. Congrats on your not so surprising acquisition of three followers.

Byrdsfan Level 8 Jan 17, 2019

Thank you I’ve never been so popular


Love varies from type of love.
My love for my mother
My love for my brother
My love for my friends
My love for my kids
Every one of those is different the only feeling that is shared between them is fondness




Hmmmm. What do you mean by "a healed cut"?

I am not sure that I believe in fairy tale love, but there is someone that I constantly think about when I am not with her, and feel happy and warm when I am with her. I think that might be a good operational definition of love...

Like if you’re injured your body rushes to heal the area. Universal conscious love that exist in every living being. Idk if I have the words lol


There is a difference in "loving" someone and being "in love" with someone. I have been "in love" (or at least I thought I was) more than once and it is a two edged sword that can cut you to pieces with both sides. Loving someone can bring you joy and/or disappointment, but it does not cut you to the quick and hurt, harm or damage you.

jlynn37 Level 8 Jan 17, 2019

"Love is a healed cut"

Interesting definition. To me, the spectrum of Love Definitions are like the difference between looking through a microscope and looking through a telescope. Finding internal self love is what gives perspective to the understanding Universal love and adds to it's depths and appreciation of self, family, and community. The value of what one's own connection to another is based on the ability to give to one's self. When you find your worth, (not assuming you haven't) ....The Way to loving yourself..., then and only then will you learn how to love someone else but more importantly, how to let someone love you. Learning to love myself was one of the hardest things I had to learn to do. The other, was learning to communicate that standard without feeling selfish. When I learned to define love as a gift, sharing that gift became just as important as breathing. Sure, neurobiology will talk about pheromones and chemisrty, and a poety may talk about situational connection and serendipity. A psychologist may bring up codependency or associative tramas but in truth, to love is to know yourself, your place in the world and your value in it. I hope your learn how to love someone more than yourself. That is the truest form of trust and vulnerability. Vulnerability is living without fear, and trust is believing in someone else to not abusebyour vulnerability Anyhow, that's my blah blah blah. So cheers to you and finding love.


To me romantic love is our biological predisposition to reproduce and destress one another, but just because its that to me I do still desire to have it. As far as love for family and friends I say look up kinship, it explains pretty well why we as animals protect each other.


I'm sure someone else has said this but.....

What is love is a song by Haddaway

ipdg77 Level 8 Jan 24, 2019

baby don't hurt me..


Love is subjective. Whatever your definition, As an exceptionally attractive woman, I think that love will be something that will come to you when you decide you want it. You can travel all over the world as you have done. See all that it has to offer. And when you are ready to have love, the men will line up for you. And you will simply pick the most desirable specimen.

DavidDCR Level 4 Jan 21, 2019

Thank you for your sincere response. It brought me peace in many ways ?


Love is always wondering how long it will be until they return. Everytime they leave the room.

WYSIWYG Level 5 Jan 17, 2019

One, its about perpetuation, and that picture in our minds of two people sharing intimacy. Two, its about our amnesia. There is an aspect of the mind where you can concentrate on something but at the same time are also completely forgetful.

ernest58 Level 3 Jan 17, 2019

Love is what you and the person you love agree that it is.

Kintaro Level 6 Jan 17, 2019
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