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Do you hate arguing or do you enjoy it?

I hate arguing. I stay out of aarguments. I never get into them. If I ever end up in one, I apologize and back out quickly. I then give people space. I don't like conflicts. Even if I am right and I know I am right, I don't try to prove it by making others uncomfortable and I don't use a harsh tone of voice. I learned to listen to the one that is upset, until they have stopped talking. Then I will explain from my point of view. If they still don't see reason or they don't understand me, I drop it. One day they will figure out they were wrong. If I am wrong (I'm wrong a lot) I still don't argue. I hate hearing people argue as well. I take pride in being a nice person. I did learn, never argue with a religious person who doesn't understand common sense. They just end up judging you. I don't debate theists anymore. I have more important things to do now. Do you hate arguing too?

Sarahroo29 8 Feb 25
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You can debate ideas courteously, diferens of opinión do not haveto be contentious

Okay.

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I don't even like Atheist/theist debates, Hitch being the exception. I much prefer
"preaching to the choir" events like the "Four horsemen" etc.

Okay.

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I am just tired of it. DId it in debate in HS and college. Slipped a bit then in Law School. The did it for a living for many years. Now days it's just all trump peeps wanting to argue and it's like talking to a rock.So I just go straight to the name calling and skip the middle part. that way it's more exciting and quicker.

Lol. I don't argue on politics.

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I hate it, it makes me very uncomfortable. I ended a relationship with somebody that liked to argue.

Good riddance. I hate arguing.

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Mostly I don't like it, but sometimes I do. Argument can be used to many purposes.

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I like it if there are some rules involved and we still are friends at the end.

That is interesting.

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To be fair, I like arguments if I'm winning the argument. Otherwise, I generally don't go looking for one. If it's a civilized debate with someone who is simply enthusiastic to learn more, than an argument can be rather enjoyable.

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Argue? no , debate? sure

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Oh, I have to tell you: in German, the word Argument (accent on the last syllable) is neither debate nor fight, but the point you make in a debate. "Ein gutes Argument'" a good argument = a good point made. Germans, on the whole LOVE debating, even when it starts to look and sound a bit like a fight to an Englishman. They get a lot more animated doing it than the old school Kiwis ( New Zealander) I missed that German trait here for a long time. Maybe the young ones are a bit easier to get into hearty debates, but the old fashioned Kiwi could hardly see a difference between debate and fight. Much like old English idea of being polite. I found that a real handicap in getting into topics to any depth ... disagreement can bring out more sides to a thing, more depth.

When I was in Berlin in in 1973 it seeme d to me that the people in the bars were always talking about correct grammar it seemed like the National Pastime - I would say something (in very poor German) and then the debate about what I could /should have said raged on.

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Hate it. I don't like conflict.

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I hate it as it sorts out nothing

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Love arguing. Especially when it is a subject I know a little about

Hahah. Yes, nothing like a rant into the blue. Oh hell, I overlooked the tiny word : a.

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WHAT DOES IT MATTER TO YOU!? Lol, I enjoy debate.

Lol.

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It depends..is it about politics? Love it..religion? Love it..guns? Love it..money? Hate it..

Just arguing in general.

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I think I used to. As I’ve aged, I came to the realization that nobody really wants my advise on anything. It seems useless for me and since recovering from a stroke I find that I like my peace more that raising my blood pressure .

Awe. I'm sorry to hear you had a stroke. Are you okay now?

Yeah I do good. It was back in 2011. I’m retired because of it and I did have some tough times for a while but mostly I’m good now..

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hate it avoid it, but don't back down is something is important.

Okay.

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A pleasant exchange of ideas is a good conversation. A disagreeable conversation that goes array is an argument. I can readily accept others points of views but if they are going to push it to a dead end and then some then your not enjoying it.

I would not enjoy that.

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I hate arguments, really don't care for debates
If you want to discuss something, that's a different story.

Discussions are nice.

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I dislike arguments and debates. I am certainly willing to listen to other points of view, but dislike being harpooned verbally.

Zster Level 8 Feb 26, 2018

Same here.

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I will not waste my time with nonsense.
I say do it all by yourself.

Yep. I agree.

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Let me tell you a secret. Men do dot argue with there partners if they are right, only if theyre wrong. " What do mean? Its a sad day when a guy can`t disappear for a weekend without all this hassle "
or
" look what you made me do "
" WTF I will be in my den "

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I love arguing sometimes because I always win they finally give up they're not going to change me they don't have enough proof. I always tell them show me prove it

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I do! Everything you said makes perfect sense to me. I am a fan of Confucius’ saying (paraphrasing) “It takes two fools to argue.”

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Argument as in the old definition of a discussion? I love a good discussion or debate, so long as it is respectful (no ad hominem attacks please).

But, a true argument, as in the modern definition of a fight? Nah, not into that. Though, I am not one to back down when someone is bound and determined to... well, to start a ruckus. I will, however, try to make the butt-head focus on ME and let others escape. It's part of who I am.

That is interesting. I would back away slowly, if it were me.

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