Loneliness happens even when you are with someone. Most days I am by myself for the majority of it, cut off from contact with my partners except for a lone text message here or there. I know what you mean by that lack of community though, it is a very isolating feeling, knowing everyone around you shares this belief that unites them.

Be yourself and be honest. Life is hard, it is achingly lonely at times, but the challenges pave the way for better days later on. You won't always be alone, despite how it feels right now. This community exists and we are here for you.

You just described basically how I feel. It's a more introspective look at life and I think a lot of society doesn't feel comfortable looking that deep. At least in the group of friends I've got, whereas my family is also super Christian ... Which sucks for them bc so far 2 of their three kids are queer but that to me is just irony. It gives you a "black sheep" mentality in a way.

I feel this way at times too. I grew up in a Catholic home, with Catholic family, and when I finally started asking questions and realized there was no god, all I wanted to do was share my thoughts with my friends and family, but they told me not to think like that because I will go to hell. I've always been a good person at heart, and I realized I didn't need religion to be a good person. I always get excited when I meet other non-believers, because it means I'm not alone. But that rarely happens, I'm always surrounded by people who are religious and who give their life to god. I say I'll handle my own life thanks I don't really trust anyone else with it

This may sound harsh at first blush, but think about it for a while. If you have determined that rational, critical thinking is the more productive path for you to follow, then by applying that sort of thinking will automatically point out that there will be problems with relationships as a result. An extension of that thinking will quickly reveal that there is only one way that you can be happy with your decision.

Yep, that's right. You suck up the bad elements or mitigate them or better yet, eliminate them. Meanwhile, you build up the positive elements. I'll leave it to you to figure out what that means.

How can you feel lonely on agnostic.com?

Seriously though, thanks for sharing your story. We all may have different experiences and different circumstances (which keep some in the closet), but you won't be judged here. It's a mad world, I know, but you're not alone.

You have climbed to the top of the mountain. Few do.

Shouldn't your loneliness be your problem alone?

We all die alone. That aside, did you not sign on here because your were hoping to find a community of like-minded people? Well, you did. Now, read people's profiles, their posts and put yourself out there. Use he little letter icon on the top bar and send a note to someone with whom you agree or not. I found someone who has my birth date. How cool is that.

Don't go looking for something thats not you. Too many phony relationships out there and then it worse once they figure it out. I think you did something right by being upfront and honest. Keep it reel. I tried too hard and when I realized it just enjoyed myself and was able to do what I wanted to.

Go to church with your friends. I go

I've always been surrounded by loving family, pets, friends, had a busy, happy life, but at the pit of my being I've always felt alone. Even when I was married, and raising kids, attending church and going along with conventional beliefs. In my case, finding out I'm partially transmale in 2014 was the first step to stopping the loneliness. When I acknowledged my male side, named him, and allowed myself to be partly male, I started feeling better. But later I discovered that taking the Thai herb derris scandens blended my two gender modes, got rid of dysphoria, and most of the loneliness, because I accepted both sides of myself.

This is the information age. The world and its people lay before you. Seek and you shall find.

I have been single most of my 66 years on this planet. It was when I was 53 when I found my "soul mate." I have made friends across the globe on FB and now this web site. I belong to my political association and the local American Atheist group. I am sure you will find people to share your story with. Just stop looking and it will find you.

@Adrielbass I noticed you are a teacher, so am I. Have you had any issues when students ask you about your beliefs? I had a situation once when a throwaway comment of mine apprently offended a religious student and caused a diciplinary hearing at my work ( I have since 'happily' left the institution). The reason I ask is I'm in the UK a very secular country by comparison to the US. It must be hard to be yourself always wearing a 'mask' as it were.

Anyone else had a similar experience ??

There are times I am the most lonliest man in the world. I'm an introvert and do not need groups or friends around close all the time. I feel at times as though I have no real friends but I cannot let it get to me. The difference between us is that I am 71 now and I have been in LTR's 4 times in my life. At 27 you have a long way to go and lots of time yet to find someone. Do not despare. There is time. Be honest with yourself and with others and it will happen.

I hope you don't die alone. After, I became an atheist my life didn't change that much. Not doing the religious bs has a time saver and I find more pennies heads down are only changes in my life for the moment. I wish had a girlfriend or partner right now.

Maybe you should post and be very upfront about being Agnostic if you haven't already. I think some people say they are religious because they want to conform to societies. I call bullshit.

Living in Oklahoma is like being trapped in a Christian prison.

Yes. I feel the same way and have the same problem you do. Almost everyone where I live are christian. I'm convinced if I don't move to another city, I'll likely be lonely for the rest of my life.