I’m new here but I think there’s no hell no heaven we lived and we die that is all you need to think about that is how you conquer your fear

I don't know what it is like to feel the fear of burning in hell. I do have an unhealthy fear of death though. I am afraid of what it will be like to walk into oblivion one day. The fact that one day I will just end. It is something that I fret over almost daily to my detriment. I know it won't matter to me once I die, cause I will be dead. But the finality of death is a frightening concept to me and is one that I have difficulty coping with.

To me a heaven and hell is state of mind. Guilt and/or the need to be punished.

I have always felt like hell was BS. I always had that thought of what if though. I was raised in the bible belt and I have just came out as an atheist. The things that have helped me is research, listening to podcasts, and educating myself. Once I realized the absurdity of religion, the thought of going to hell went away. Also, God hasn't objectively shown himself to man. We have no reason to believe in him atm. Sounds logical to me. Why would we get sent to a hell for thinking logically?

I guess I have a hard time understanding your fear.
If you’re an atheist then there is no hell.
If you’re afraid you’re wrong about the choice you made then you are not an atheist.

You seem unsure.
Take your time there’s no rush.
You aren’t there yet and that’s ok.
When you truly embrace there is no god then you will no longer fear hell.

The only hell is how you allow yourself to be tormented while you live.

I can’t have fear of something that doesn’t exist. Hell is when something bad happens on earth and heaven is when very good takes place. Examples of hell are death of a loved one, sickness, loss of all material things, poverty, starving and homelessness. Examples of heaven is birth of a child, good health, financially well off, having the love of your life and having the home of your dreams.

Think about what is going to burn. When you die there is nothing left. there is nothing to burn. Even the pope has decreed that there is no such place as hell. Of course the corollary to this is that there is no heaven either.
I was lucky, although I attended Sunday school and church until I was 16 I was never indoctrinated. You have my sympathy.

I don't remember ever believing in hell, but consider this:

• Would a loving father figure torture his children forever for some minor transgression.
• There is no reason to believe in an afterlife.
• Hell was never defined or described until Dante Alighieri wrote "The Divine Comedy."

It took me a while to get my mom's voice out of my head like quite a few years but it will happen just believe in your self

Don't let it steal form the time in your life that you are spending

Go to Amarillo, Texas. Hell will look pretty good.

You get over the fear of hell by realizing that you'll be in good company if the Bible is true. The Bible says that MOST people are going to hell.
I made a couple of videos on the subject.

No gods, no satan, no heaven, no hell. There is NOTHING to fear about death.
Nothing happens after you die. You're just dead, that's it.

No, that’s stupid, but if it were real I’d have a first class ticket and reservations.

I've never had a fear of hell, even from a very young age I always felt nobody knew what happened after death. I'm not afraid of death either, but a little irritated by the thought of it, I know I'll have stuff I still wanted to do

Think about it... There is no more evidence you will go to hell when you die, than there is that your soul will ride on the back of a purple unicorn for eternity. The only reason you worry about it is that others believe in hell and you were taught to believe in hell. If the majority of people believed the moon was made of cheese, that would not increase the chances that the moon is made of cheese. Keep logically challenging that fear. Also, we often think our emotions decipher what is true or not, but they don't. Being afraid of going to hell doesn't increase the chances that hell exists.

I began to lose my fear of punishment during the period of time I was rethinking God's nature, prior to completely losing faith in faith. I'd come to the conclusion that a supreme being would not be vengeful or sadistic, as tradition has held. Hell no longer scared me, at that point.

If you intellectually accept that they lied to you about the existence of hell, then if it really exists, they probably lied to you about what it's really like. Think of it as an eternal cocktail party with your pals. That's ridiculous of course, but it might take an irrational rationalization to lose the irrational fear. Just do the best you can and try not to dwell on it.

Indoctrination is hard to over come..all of those former fears and guilts will disappear eventually..and congrats on making a rational decision about religion..welcome

You're going to hell when you die in most religions, some don't have one. The main thing to remember is that a religion is essentially an alternate reality.

From what I hear, Hell is the smoking area of the afterlife.

Self doubt is one of the greatest things we can ever have. It allows us to grow. Fear is also a great motivator, if controlled and channelled. Because I have no knowlege of the afterlife, it is possible that there is some savage deity looking over all of us demanding our attention at all times, and if we don't give it and follow it's continuously changing requirements, we are DOOMED TO SUFFER IN DANTE'S INFERNO (I am hoping I can squeak by as a Virgil). But if you weigh all the possibilities of an afterlife, it seems absolutely foolhardy to think you can pick one and it is gonna be right, no matter how you logic it. It's a closed door that nobody (well, maybe nobody) get's to go through and come back to give you a scouting report.

Its either all bullshit or not

No, but I didn't really fear it when I was in fundamentalism either. In my experience, if you feared it then, you'll fear it now; if you didn't fear it then, you're unlikely to fear it now.

I was pretty active in the church and two or three pastors I knew personally over the years confessed that their most vexing challenge was people who would come to them complaining that they didn't "feel" saved or forgiven. Sometimes they would answer an altar call whenever it was made "just in case".

In my particular denomination this was considered a matter of relying on feelings rather than "fact". He would step them through the dogma -- have you acknowledged your need of a savior? Have you accepted Jesus as that savior? Then you're saved, end of story. If you're able to worry about it, it's actually "evidence" that you're saved. However -- nothing you can say to these folks would ever make them feel they had their bases covered.

And this, mind you, was in a fairly "mild" centrist sort of fundamentalist / literalist camp. I can only imagine what a more sawdust-trail, hellfire-and-brimstone environment would do to such people. Indeed, sometimes these miserable folks came to us OUT of those sorts of churches. (It's not like there aren't "degrees" of deconversion sometimes -- from harsher to milder kinds of religions, relatively speaking, as well as out all the way like us).

I think it's a combination of personality, parenting, and religious experience that traumatize some people while not bothering others. In my case, I was from the "once saved, always saved" camp, and always figured that was a non-issue for me. Also my parents were unconditionally loving, and unintentionally protected me from the worst features of fundamentalism. And -- I was, as I mentioned, in a relatively less authoritarian group than some, and not in the thick of the Bible Belt where some of this authoritarianism / judgmenatlism would spill over into my educational experience. All of this I think spared me the emotional trauma you're describing.

As others have suggested it's partly a matter of the passage of time and the gradual retraining of your mind, of your emotions catching up with your intellect. However if it keeps you up nights you're probably suffering a form of PTSD and might want to seek help for that. You're hardly alone in being tormented by operant conditioning via religious ideation.