Which would you rather have if you could only have one
Life is not that simple. Some people mistakes sex for love. Some think lust is love. Sexual attraction is often misunderstood for love. Life is never that simple. One can have the best sex without love. One can also love someone more than anything and not have sex with that person.
sigh ... I don't enjoy these types of dichotomous questions ... but if I had to choose? ... assuming we are talking about romantic pair-bonding love, then I would choose that over sex ... it would fucking suck and we'd have to work some issues out, but at the end of the day, I desire unconditional positive regard, support, and a best friend ... I can make myself have an orgasm all alone or with someone else (just sayin' ).
For me if there is no love or even deep caring there is no meaningful sex. Besides one can have sex without a partner but it is difficult to have one-sided love.
I saw a his and hers T-shirt. His said: "just because I will sleep with you doesn't mean I love you", and hers said: "just because I love you doesn't mean I will sleep with you".
I had to give this some thought.
I'm often glad that I'm single because of the issues I see couples fighting over but I have also come to realize that I am a bit lonely. Most of my lonliness would be allieviated with close friends and not necessarily a significant other.