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Do You Have An Age You Turned Which Made You Sad?

They say "Age Is Nothing But A Number" well I think its a matter of perspective.

From the age of 18 to my late 20's I mainatined a youth appearance and constantly got ID'ed if I bought alcohol, cigarettes or entered a night club.

When I turned 30, it was very emotional because the baby face was gone, I was starting to get a little gray in my hair. I also noticed I wasnt getting ID'ed anymore.

Please tell me if there was an age you turned that was hard or emotional for you.

twshield 8 Mar 14

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Not sad but strange. My Dad died at 50 and turning 50 and being older than my father was weird initially?

i bet it seemed a bit surreal

@twshield yes totally nuts! I’m 10 years older than him now but my mum was 89 so not totally off the wall. I can’t imagine the weirdness of being older than both you parents!

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I didn’t feel like an adult until I reach 28–no clue why, since I had a 2 year old by then. After that, I Havent thought about my age much at all. I’m sad that arthritis is kicking into a few joints, but otherwise, I’m still kicking around and have no age-related complaints.

UUNJ Level 8 Nov 20, 2018
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Thirty was a toughie for me. Now that I will be 62 in two months, I look back at how upset I was over turning thirty, and I just laugh.

Deb57 Level 8 Nov 19, 2018

thirty was rough for me too...

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Actually I have not. I'm 71 and age is just a number. I have a friend that lamented forever the fact that he turned 40. I thought it was funny. My take on age might be because I've been down the marriage road 4 times now. Two were younger and two were older. I feel like I have lived a very long life because of this, but I'm not ready to leave yet. Life is but a movie in which I have played many parts along with many other people.

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When I was coming up on my 30th bday I was worried about it but when it actually happened it didn’t bother me. I’m 44 now and the last year I’ve noticed it feels like everyday there’s a new line on my face. The thing that really makes me feel old though is thinking about how much of my youngest daughter’s (7) future I’ll miss.

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Not regrets, I have a back injury and it limits me. When I was younger was very physical. Had energy and stamina that was hard to match. At about 33 they discovered that have progressive disc disease. Slowed me down. Back then a 20 mile hike to bear rock was nothing.

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Today I turned 35 and it sucks. I feel about 60 physically (I've broke a ridiculously large amount of bones) at least I don't look that old. Also I want to have kids before I get too old and my male biological clock is ticking like a motherf*cker.

Roman Level 4 Mar 15, 2018
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When I turned 28 I was sad because I genuinely thought I turned 28 the year before and had to figure out how old I was and that that might be the first sign I am getting old

nope you probably were like me and lied about your age so much, you got confused lol

if so, it was unintentional. I don't try to lie about my age.

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Most of my 20's through early 30's were awful. I was clinically depressed with social anxiety for most of that time and have large gaps in my memory. So glad that's long past.

I am happy you are happier!

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I remember my 1st bought of melancholia. It was a feeling that swept over me inexplicably out of the blue as I sat on a step outside the Lutheran daycare where my parents took me while they worked. I was 10.

I remember turning 21 and thinking 24 was old. ha...ha
So for me really more about physical "milestones", busting butt down stairs, the change. I never cared about being carded, always thought it weird. They'll card you up here when you're 80. It's so dumb.

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30 Major lelt down,lasted 7 years,
pity it took me 7 years to learn I was wasting my life worrying about being over 30.

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WHEN I TURNED 60! I had many health problems to go along with that age, but it rang my bell!

hope your health improves!

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It was when I was 49 in 2000. (I lied a bit about my age on here in case anyone's checking)

Always thought I wouldn't actually be old by then.

Never expected to live this long.

I am 46 now and when i turn 50 i know it will be tough so i will make sure i am in Europe on an great vacation on my birthday to help ease the pain!

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When I was 20, I thought turning 30 would be hard for me: it wasn't. When I was 30, I thought that it would hit me hard like it hit my friend. It didn't. When I was 43, I started losing weight and by the time I was 45, had gone from 250 to 150. I left a 25 year marriage and moved halfway across the country. Still, I thought 50 would knock me down. It didn't. I was sure 60 would depress me--nope. I turned 65 last year and I am what I am. I think, in part, none of my milestones birthdays bothered me because I was a late bloomer. I didn't "lose my looks" but gained them. Now, I don't even think about 70 bothering me. We are all going to die someday and though I will be a year closer to that final step, so it goes.

Thats awesome! well said!

Yes...excellent

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I just turned 57. It has been really bothering me that I’m growing old alone. I have no idea how to date anymore. Even my best friend has a boyfriend now. They live in the same retirement community. I hate the way I’m feeling about myself these days. Maybe if I could figure out how to get rid of my resting bitch face life would be different.

you should try to be more social if you are not already. networking is the key. i hope you meet a great guy

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I turn 21 in a few months, so I’ll finally be an “adult.” Yay?

congrats! Randy

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50 - no doubt about it 50. Too old to get a new job at the pay you are getting if laid off or quit - you realize you have to ride that horse until either the horse or you drop dead. Stuck like a butterfly on a pinning board. As well, at about 50 - the body begins its slow decline - that which was phsically easy at age 40 -- not so easy -- and it only gets harder.

On the other hand -- all of the above is beatable -- you might just get to 60 and have a real retirement - then you can take your time and start a 2nd life -- modern medicine is a godsend to growing old (think Viagra). You'll never be 28 again, but you won't be a washed up shell of yourself!

lol thanks!

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I'm 81. Reaching a particular age ever made me sad. Still, getting old is a process of having to give up things that give up things which were central to your life -- sports, driving, recreational walking, reading, and more. We just have to learn to adapt and to make our goals more immediate ones, easier to fulfill.

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Believe it or not, 12. 12 was it for me.

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I was 3 years old when existential dread kicked in. It was all downhill from there.

Did you grow the beard at 3? For some reason I associate existential dread with beards......

@Blindbird I had to go with a faux beard for the first several years, unfortunately. 😟

@resserts gets the job done!

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I'm turning 30, and I'm wondering if I should feel bad about it or not.

Why would you?

@Gwendolyn2018 Because there are certain things you can do better at 20 than you can at 30. It goes both ways, but I can no longer be twenty and regret that I'm not 30. Plus I missed out on a lot in my 20s.

@Honestape At my great age, I have learned there is no benefit or gain from mourning or missing what has passed. There are many more things I can do well at 65 than I could at 20 or 30. There some I do not as well, but the trade off is fine. However, I am in good health and many, even younger, are not.

You should not.

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I threw up in front of everyone at six.

That was bad.

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I'll be a little sad when I hit age "dead".

Don't worry about it; death is just a number. 😉

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I think when I turned 40. The grey hairs really started kicking in then..

balou Level 8 Mar 14, 2018
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It was all down hill at 30 for me, with only an occasional up swing. I've got 50 in my sights (Holy Crap!!!) but I usually feel like I should still be in my 30s.
I guess I'm a grown-up but most days I really have no idea what I'm doing. ?

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