What about sexual fantasy in your love life?
I just wonder how many people share their fantasies with their partner during sex.
and how many actually fullfill their fantasies in reality?
I focus on satisfying my partner. If you do not do this you might be dating Rosy Palmer very quickly. Am I telling my partner that she is really Raquel Welch during the sex we are having? Oh, hell no. This is not anything she would want to hear. Trust me.
Still at that awkward stage where we're comfortable having sex, but still a little wary of straying too far off the path of 'normality.' In our favour is that we're both homosexual males, which means that some things that tend to squick more prudish heterosexuals are actually fairly mainstream for us.
I've plucked up courage to ask him about a couple of things that are still somewhat taboo, even amongst gay males. The first, he was happy to do, the second, he didn't think was an option. But in a non-judgemental way: he just didn't think he could practically do what I was asking.
It's all about finding that common ground. It's a shame that we don't feel free to ask our intimate partners about kinkier stuff, for fear of scaring them away.
After we've been together for a while I'll bring my fantasies into our sex life, verbally and physically
Sounds like fun. ?
Its kind of like extending the boundaries. Sex should be an exploration and not a routine. So fantasies can be beneficial in stimulating the mind. After all the biggest sex organ is the mind. I would say most of my pleasure has come from exploring with a partner. Some people refer to it as playing.
I just fantasize about having a partner, some day.
I do what I want. You just have to find someone else willing to partake in the same fantasy.
We tried it once, wasn't what we thought it would be, found out it was a better turn on talking about it and not doing it.
Why would one not bring fantasies to their relationship?
I listened to a podcast on fantasies and fetishes recently. It was fascinating. To answer your question, the reasons that come to my mind quickly are shame, embarrassment and fear. The usual reasons people don't do a lot of things.