How do I explain that I am an atheist to my 10 year old and 6 year old nieces? Keep in mind they believe in god and and talked their parents into taking them to church.
A few months ago, I had to explain to my 9 year-old, great-nephew, that not everyone believes in the same god he does, and some people don't believe in god at all.
I used examples of children living in places like India and Japan, and how their gods,
and their religions are different. I also told him that not believing in his god doesn't make anyone "bad".
I haven't gotten to telling him I don't believe in his god, or anyone else's. That's a lesson
that is coming, but hasn't happened yet.
Just tell the truth.
Maybe just say something like "Some people believe in God and some don't. I'm one of the many who don't." That gives them somethig to think about, without being judgmental. If they love you and think you are a good person, it helps them understand that a belief in God is not what makes a person good or lovable.
I'd tread carefully. In particular, if they're not curious about your beliefs, I see no particular reason to offer them up.
If they're actually asking, simply be honest. Not everyone believes in the same gods, even people who believe in the same god have very different ideas about that god, and some people don't believe in god at all. You're one of the latter.
Just because a kid is curious enough to ask to go to church is no indication how they'll end up, by the way. My stepdaughter begged at the age of your nieces to go to church and to have Bible stories read to her. As a senior in high school she attended catechism. It was presented as an objective inquiry and she was encouraged to arrive at her own conclusion. She scandalized her catechism class by being the only person to conclude that "god is not real". She has not been in church since.
Honestly in her case I think she is just very social and many of her friends (and her biological father) were at this church, and as she moved on from that and matured, she saw the truth, plus, no longer saw the church as a neceessary hub of social contacts.
I agree with @jlynn37- if it's not broken, don't fix it.
But if they bring it up, I suggest dealing with it gently and with compassion.
Maybe ask if they believe in other things (Fairies, Dragons, Ghosts...) you may get to a point where one of them believes in something, and the other one doesn't, but if not, you can maybe suggest that some people do believe in the things they don't believe in.
At that point, you can say that it's the same thing with God - some people believe and some people don't. You can even (bite your tongue and) say that it doesn't make one person right or wrong, better, nicer, whatever... just different.
I go with the tried and true idea that nobody believes in all gods and i'm just plus one. Kids seems to understand that they don't believe in the norse egyptian or roman gods and so they can consider its largely a matter of setting what youd end up believing. I also try to be gentle and respectful as I don't have a dog in the race.
Unless they bring it up, its a non-issue. Its not like you're bringing around your same sex partner.
Check w/ the parents & see what they say.
If the kids invite you to church, decline politely. If they ask you if you've heard about god, say tes, you know those stories & change the subject. Until they try to pin you down, its a non-issue. When they make the move to pin you down, be honest, forthright, & just tell them you don't believe & if you need to, the why.
I'm betting it's a phase. "Talked their parents into taking them to church?". Really?
Sounds like a school thing. All the popular kids go to church so we need to go. Someone brain washed them if it wasn't their parents.
I think six is far too young to try to explain your position. Though you could simply say I don't believe in god(s). That's pretty darn simple.
But a six yo may still believe in Santa so you're discussing this at the risk of their magical thinking.
Have they asked you about it? If they do, I would tell them that I don't believe in gods or goddess, and that there are lots of different beliefs in the world, and leave it at that. If they aren't your kids, you shouldn't bring it up. It would be like a Christian auntie, talking to your atheist kids about being Christian. Atheists don't appreciate being prosylitized to, and neither do Christian families. It is their business. Who knows what they will believe when they are grown. Being religious or atheist is a personal choice.
I handle nearly all matters pertaining to questions asked by children like this:
It's a good thing to introduce another side to the coin. It's reality. Being reticent is only encouraging them to be insular and think their way of thinking is widely excepted. Different people believe in different God's, different traditions and some dont. Athiesm isn't dirty.
I’m looking forward to having such conversations with my 4.5yo daughter, but she’s my daughter. So when the time comes I’ll be delighted to explain it to her.
I wouldn’t get involved as much with my nephews and nieces. I’ll let my sisters bite the bullet when they have to!
I don't think I would try and explain Atheism to a child. It's better to teach a child how to think rationally and critically. Let the child him/herself decide for themselves what their beliefs are going to be. Indoctrination is something I think should be avoided at all cost. Kids grow up believing what their parents believe, and that's a real problem if what their parents believe is wrong.
Tell them that just like Santa is a marketing ploy to sell consumer goods and toys in an otherwise dead season, God is a marketing ploy to sell control to those lacking self determination.
Then tell them an Atheist is like Santa, but real, and bringing truth instead of toys.
Encourage them to become Atheists and get all their friends to join them.
Then take their ice cream and go on about your day, knowing you've made a difference in their young little lives and teeny tiny brains.