"Keep your friends close and your enemies closer"
Have you ever been successful at this?
Maybe. I don't know if that's what she was. I know she used me for attention and as a social bridge, and for places I shared with her which she would take for her own, and she knew my feelings were far stronger than her own. After a time, I knew too but was powerless to break away. I guess she became one at some point during it all. It was a very deep personal bond between us. It was a lesson for me.
I'm currently looking for one.
Maybe two.
Please send references.
Yeah, but nothing arsenic couldn't resolve. lol.
Nope. I do have friends that I like to be faux enemies with. We call each other names and say really harsh shit to each other but help each other happily as well.
I have one friend in particular like that, esp during card games. we'd call each other evil names like you wouldn't believe. We have toned it down a bit, but we still call each other names when we meet
I knew a guy in high school named Bob. He was a bully but one that I kind of liked. He just amused me for some reason even if he picked on me a little. He was probably the closest thing to a frenemy I've known.
no, i'm too old. it wasn't invented yet.
I think that it was mentioned in Sun Tzu's the Art of Warfare which is about 2500 years old.
@FrayedBear, frenemy?! i read that term for the first time on fb coupla days ago, so assumed it's one of these newfangled gen xyz things.
@walklightly Not the word but the principle. Sun Tzu didn't speak English!
@FrayedBear, ok, in principle i could never stand the air of tension that accumulates between people who dislike, loathe, detest, disdain, abhor, disgust, execrate, hate, disrespect, misunderstand, abominate, despise, disrelish each other. love & peace shall surround me!
@walklightly That is how you miss forewarning.
@walklightly By not being close enough to hear "pull the trigger and shoot the bitch" you don't get time to duck or run out of range!
@FrayedBear, other than online i am not close enough to be perceived as a bitch. so shoot me through the ether!
@walklightly LOL. it wasnt meant personally walklightly ... ? hmmmm unless .... should I be keeping you close? ?
@FrayedBear, whoahoahoah! are you sure you want to ask that question?
@walklightly Always!
I’ve come across women that have had different ethics to me . I remove myself from all people who don’t deserve my energy .
My friend Jennifer. She is admirable, smart, I like her a lot, I just find her a bit bossy!
The other day we are leafletting for a corporate tax reform measure.
My hair is unruly and sticks up a bit. She is alarmed and offers me her comb. My bushy hair does not comb well. She insists and I have to comb my hair for Jennifer.
Irked? Not a big deal. I wonder if her spouse is some sort of saint, though!
No I honestly am not a good gamer I think it was because my earlier life was so chaotic I lied all the time at some point I realised I was not living in reality and made a decision never to lie except if it was seriously neccesary life or death stuff . My partner whom I live near is a brilliant strategist and tells me how to get out of awkward situations- There is a man in this scheme who is a drunk who gts pretty nasty but I have cut all ties with him .We have had many over the years , at one time we were known as 'the place all the alkies live but its a bit quieter now'. I am still talking lessons in gunboat diplomacy.
I don't allow enemies, if they are too negative or not making sense, get rid of them. Basely people are good , about 2 percent are out to screw you.