I obviously would tell him after a couple in person dates. I think casual dating is okay as long as I am addressing my health issues. Due to the nature of them I'll never be cured or healed soo the only other option would be to die single and avoid dating forever. That's no fun!

@demifeministgal Sometimes life is no fun, but it is more important to get help than to date.

Rest assured I am getting help. It is just my living envt that worsens things. And during a pandemic with high unemployment rates moving out ain't happening any time soon. :/

I agree

Your 2nd paragraph is exactly the way I am. I have learned through life not to be revealing or forthcoming with personal information precisely because it has been used to harm or hurt me most of my life. I wish others that had easy breezy lives where they never had to protect themselves this way could understand me! Thanks for being an understanding soul. I appreciate you <3

@Donotbelieve you have no idea. I personally enjoy where I get shamed for my style of dating and taking things slow and made out to be a villain who needs to exit the dating world. Because somehow grown ass men cannot make the best decisions for themselves if they should pursue me! So I need to exit the dating world to protect the morons! fck that

@Donotbelieve I am honored. I love you, and our chats make my day.

@Donotbelieve, @demifeministgal Thank you, both!

@Donotbelieve I think you chased someone away. I don't think he'll be missed. Unfortunately, I missed the reply to my comment, but I assume it wasn't in agreement.

I can't see his comments either. So either he did a mass delete or he blocked me for standing up to him and telling him why he's wrong. Which is probably for the best because apparently all your replies filled him with such disgust and distressed him so much. He had quite a lot of empathy for the nameless asshole you see. Id wager he saw much of himself in the guy and got mighty defensive. XD

@demifeministgal I must have hit a nerve with him. Maybe it's best that I didn't see his response, if he blocked me before I did, it really shows his character. I'm guessing with actions like that it was my comments about integrity that bruised his fragile ego. I will try not to let it bother me

What crap. Bloody arseholes. I'm glad you're back because I used to really enjoy your posts and was sorry when you left. I'd send a hug emoji if I knew how

@Cyklone Thank you, TheMiddleWay was one of them.
He comes off as a super woke guys though right?
He's a misogynist that feels entitled to "investigate" female user profiles.
Another person found the name of the model who's photo I had used.
Yes I was dishonest, but I was also afraid.

@Willow_Wisp I blocked him a long time ago because I figured him for an arsehole. Someone called him tone deaf and I believed that to be an appropriate metaphor. Assuming you aren't trying to deceive for advantage or profit, you have no obligation to be truthful on your profile if you're not comfortable with it, so no need to feel guilty. I lie on mine. I'm actually a superfit model but I don't want the fan mail so I pretend to be an old bugger

@Cyklone I've never tried to manipulate or scam anyone ever.
Oh well, It's just another trans experience I suppose
I'm guessing that if I had been a cis female I may have accepted his behavior as normal, they've had to deal with that kind of crap their entire lives.

@Willow_Wisp unfortunately you're probably correct in what women endure. It doesn't matter where you go though, there is always an arsehole and there is also always some insecure little prick who feels the need to hurt others that don't conform to their narrow idea "normal". And centreoftherut is definitely a person who uses his knowledge to bully others. That's why I thought he was an arsehole and blocked him.

I hope you're proud of overcoming the tremendous obstacles that you must have faced to get where you are now. I don't envy you the difficult path you must have walked.

@Cyklone I was a coward, then the SCOTUS opinion on June 15th happened, I came out openly at work the next morning and began medical procedures.

@Unpretentious It's me now.

@Willow_Wisp Your profile picture is of no consequence. Mine is a camel, not because I am a camel but for another reason. Doesn’t change you.

Omfg. That is horrible. What sadistic fckers! I am sorry you experienced that. Fck them and fck their toxic masculinity that has turned them in to deplorable abusers. Don't let them get to you! Be strong!

Sorry, this is off topic, but I enjoyed seeing your posts as Novelty. It's good to see you're still around.

I second that

Or impolitely, as she deems appropriate

Oh wow thanks for listing some common ones out! I think I'm a sucker for love bombing. I blame toxic family ruining my self esteem for it.

And, don't forget, they never laugh at cheesy jokes

I actually think it is quite common for people not to disclose health issues right out of the gate. Not everyone is as open with their health issues as others. I would not say that is an indication of lack of self love. Rather, with time we reveal more and more of ourselves to another person. I would find it strange if someone openly advertised their health issues on their online dating profile, for example.

And considering I am heterosexual and only dating men, then yea the forgetting minor details applies only to men here. Just due to my orientation. Though I do believe neurotypical people do not remember everything that was said to them either. So this may just be a common issue we all share at times to varying degrees.

@demifeministgal

A montn in is not "right out of the gate."

Also, this is a major thing that is leading to other admitted issues. Perhaps at the time he began to notice your forgetfulness is a proper time to divulge at least that issue?

Other issues? You mean what he has said and how he has reacted is because of me? And the lack of disclosure? seems like quite the stretch, but is for sure possible.

@demifeministgal

He clearly does not love himself. His nosiness and lack of confidence are easy to notice by all who have observed your story, no?

So it was not a unilateral item that led me to the determination of lack of self love, but a conflation of items. I.e., your withholding of meaningful information and his lack of confidence that he can hold your interests in the presence of others.

Other issues as in the issue you mentioned along with "life struggles", plural.

A step back from this gentleman and dating in general seems like a good move, based on the information provided.

Just my opinion, though. It's clear we don't know the entire story.

I mean I stepped back for over 2 years already. I just got back into it after the pandemic got better here. So you're saying go back to stepping back? nah. I think casual dating aka going on a couple dates with someone is Aokay as long as I don't lead anyone on into thinking I am seeking long term,

@demifeministgal

I fully agree. No need to hermit yourself. I'd just suggest you have fun with it.

Best of luck to you.

After making the post and thinking on it, I did tell him to stop doing that. And if he dates and talks to other women than I can do the same. It is online dating that's the nature of the beast. And if his ego cannot handle me talking to others, he should not be online dating in the first place.

You are wrong. He did not say anything complementary to me in his messages. PLEASE outline for all of us where exactly in this message there is a compliment? Especially when he ends off telling me I am a loser because I was wrong. Because I have over 40 members here that would disagree with your bullshit assessment.

"Also damn. if you gonna talk to so many guys and get confused and mix up your roster at least be honest. we even talked about it earlier in our chat. you can re read cause you can hold the L on this one "

And it is NOT this site I am dating on. So your odd defense of the agnostic community in response to my post about an online fishing dating site, is bizarre and misplaced.

You're no doubt another toxic asshole and I am glad you outed yourself for women here to avoid dating you! Emotional abuse and gaslighting is not friendly teasing. Grow up. That's high school boy mentality.

Also your armchair psychology based on one post is hilarious. Get a degree first and a licence before diagnosing me as "arrested development". But what to expect from a guy with a high school mentality. meh