Might I suggest looking elsewhere? Sex is wonderful when two people are of like minds.

There are better guys out there

Oh Hayull NO you weren't too hard on him. I wouldn't put up with him, even if he is good in the sack. If I don't wanna be with him out of bed, I don't want him in my bed.

I hope the sex is phenomenal, because I'm not sure I could put up with that if I was you.

Just as well the sex is “delicious”.....in all other departments he seems to be a complete ass. I’d just bring him out for use as a sex toy and keep him gagged and in the closet at all other times!

Are you writing a novel?

You're more tolerant than I am, I would never stand for that because I wouldn't be able to get over that no matter what. I have to at least like the guy.

I would have banished him forthwith.
My wife would take even more drastic action.

Talking about politics and the news during pillow talk?! I wouldn't do that.

Well done for sticking up for your beliefs. I’m proud of you, if it’s ok to say that? I hope he loves you all the more for being you

Well, I can't judge how you handle your Emotions during those Convos. For that, I can only comment on what I see from this Post. Going over the OP, It doesn't look like you were Hard on him. He wants to Act Invulnerable, He can take Opposing Arguments... I also don't want to Influence any decisions so, I'll just put my Comments out there and You can Interpret it how you feel. I think he's just on his Best Behavior just for that 1 thing. Saying these things is obviously not a good thing to be holding as Beliefs, So I will say Good on you for Refuting...

1. (Mocking the "I can't Breathe" Signs) Common Sense would tell anybody that Cutting off Circulation is Dangerous to the Person's Health. "If they can talk, they can Breathe" is a kind of "Lessen the Blow" Response to what happened So they can Shelf it until the next "Incident" Happens. Either way, it shouldn't have happened. If he was the one in that Situation, It would be Different then huh?

2. (White Men gets Discriminated against too) Affirmative action was put into Action to Stop Businesses from Discrimination through the Hiring Process or in the Workplace. If he's making an Argument for White Male Discrimination through that, It's not a Good way to do so. Look to the Majority of Businesses, look at the Higher Ranks through the Years and What has been the Narrative? Affirmative action gives more Opportunities to Minorities and Women to give a Chance to the Hardest and/or Smartest Working employees, Instead of looking at what they look like. It is Super Beneficial to the Workplace and should be Kept in Order. Again, it's a Weak Point to his Argument.

You may not be the Official Arbitrator of what's Racist, But If he's gonna get Defensive about those types of things, then Yeah, Call it out. Racism and Sexism Should be Eradicated and that Commands Fierce Opposition...

Last year I went to the hospital for Afib and pulmonary hypertension. I could talk (barely) while I was gasping for breath.

Personally I think your friend is an asshole. I've tolerated that type before and will NEVER tolerate it again.

Sex must be exceptional to tolerate such thinking. I might suggest you enjoy the sex and go your separate ways as quickly as possible until the next time.

When a fish asks, "What's water?", there isn't much you can say or do.

Textbook case of cognitive dissonance.

Enjoy the time together, then send him on his way

You need a replacement. Even if he’s a good lover, he’s not such a good person it seems. You are not wrong for standing up to him.

There are other guys who would modify their lovemaking routine to fit your needs. And there are other guys who would love to pleasure you. You just haven’t experienced that

I'm always dismayed and bewildered that men with this degree of dysfunction can still find sex partners, while guys like me are out in the cold.

i had a friends with benefits once and we would occasionally go out for Sunday drives or do a few other things ,be both knew there was nothing romantic between us just good friends but we enjoyed a good round of sex together ,we both had no expectations before or after it , So it was one of the most relaxing stress free times ,and we both knew if we did meet some one else there would be no problem calling it off or putting it on hold until we were both baggage free ,so we basically had no one to answer to except our selves . We were both very courteous to each other always ,Hard to find some one on the same level that can do that.

I am unclear on the point of this, are you looking for allies for your argument, relationship advice or just bragging about good tail (which is never a bad thing).

I could not put up with that and I damned sure do not want some crying white person telling me how they are discriminated against. I'm very tired of that one. As for his behavior after sex, most men do not want to feel vulnerable. I see it but do not agree with him. My own daughters tell me that getting rid of Confederate statues is getting rid of our history. It is white supremacist history and the statues all need to go into a special museum. We all should develop empathy.

But you won't actually date someone who has racist, sexist beliefs...just sleep with someone who does between guys who don't.

You're activism seems to always have been front and center. My activism has attracted a few men like that but I was never attracted to them in any physical way so I never had to choose between good sex and decent companionship.

He must have been a wiley manipulator to get past your a** detecting radar.

My vibrator never gives me that kind of crap.

You really need a new male friend in your life.

he sounds like a tRumper to me

I had 2 near death experiences where I was screaming in the ER while being suffocated by an anaphylaxic
episodes. It is not pretty to endure suffocation begging for ones life. I did & survived. I applaud your empathy. I applaud your courage. I would have to re evaluate . Remember to keep it on topic. Deflect is a tactic often employed when an answer evades them. Our police should not be suffocating a suspect as a vendetta, which it was. There was bad blood. Ps. Thank you ER doctors for saving my life. Twice.