For those in my age bracket, you may know who said this. I have for a decade or more, made this my life goal. I just made up my mind that worry was a waste of time, and stopped. I figure if it's something I can control, I will do my best to achieve a good outcome. If it is something I can't control, then worrying about it won't change the outcome and I will deal with the results. To worry is just to waste energy for no reason, kind of like praying.
Do other non believers feel this way, or is this just something I have figured out myself?
I think it's a prediposition for some/some personalities. I do it often. Moreso lately. I try to focus on 1. my previously noted assumption and 2. the definition, "give way to anxiety or unease; allow one's mind to dwell on difficulty or troubles." Yes. I often "give way." However, I have found that I do actually "figure things out," when I dwell. It doesn't always become apparent that day or even the next, but I know, most of the time, I can get something from that. As long you/I don't forget it's just how it is and it will eventually help, and NOT dwell on, well, the dwelling, well, it seems to help in the long run. Swell.
The serenity prayer? I think it's just common sense.
I thought I had figured it out and then got freaked out today by the Go ahead for the war with Syria- so I'd better start reconfiguring
Why worry? You are not going to be able to change the direction Cheeto is going. We will have consequences, bad or good. Whichever, we will have to learn to live with it until at least the next election cycle. Then we can try and do something about it. The point is, worrying will not change or influence in any way what is going to happen. And given his history, there is a very good chance nothing will happen, he's just blowing wind up Putin's ass as usual.
I'd like to say I'm free from worry but I'm not. Being brought up in a family of worriers, it's hard to shake their influence. I've worked very hard to reduce the worry response, among other things, in my life, and to be mindful and compassionate when self-defeating things like that show up. Usually when I'm feeling the most vulnerable, scared, or uncertain.
Figured out worry causes stress and does me no good so I actively procrastinate worrying.
Parallel sentiments: "Fear merits a man nothing" - some Viking dude. He goes on to mention something about a man's fate being woven in the skein of Fate but that reeks of determinism which I'm not a fan of. Another is "Hope for the best, prepare for the worst." Not much else you can do.
So, yeah. Worrying is a horrible waste of energy.