End one relationship before you start another.

If she knows about it and agrees to it, then IMO it's OK. But if you have to hide it, it is wrong.

Dishonesty is always wrong. I've always said I'd rather someone hurt me with the truth than lie to me.

When I was younger I saw things as more black and white, right or wrong. As I've gotten older I realize that things are instead, a million shades of grey. If you are being dishonest or having to hide your actions and if you are doing something your partner would not approve of, I think that constitutes cheating...and I don't think it has to be just a sexual relationship, it can be an emotional affair as well. The reasons why it sometimes happens is where things get muddled for me. We are sexual beings. We need touch, intimacy, release. I think the best policy is open communication, being able to talk to your partner and hopefully coming up with a compromise...but I also realize that it's often complicated. I don't like affairs as a whole. I think we owe it to our partners to try to communicate and solve the problem together... but I'm not going to judge someone who is having or has had them because I haven't really walked in their shoes.

yes cheating is always wrong. if you feel that you can work on things, do that. if not get a divorce. then have all the fun you want. but cheating is pretty much what screwed up most people i know that ended up screwed up. that can totally ruin a persons selfworth. if you ever loved this woman, don't do this to her.

Personally, I do not believe monogamy is natural behavior.
That said, if you promised to be faithful when you took your wedding vows, then YES it
is absolutely wrong to have an affair. If you want to have sex with your wife again, it might
be time to consult a marriage counselor.
If you want to have sex with someone else, get a divorce first.
If you have an affair, that makes you a cheating asshole.

Suggest your wife has one ! Maybe she'd be less bored ! Lol

I'm thinking it may be wrong to have the wife.

Have you thought about the ground rules/boundaries you want to operate within in order to date other people?

Have you discussed opening up your marriage? Is your partner agreeable to you having other sex partners?

If you answer "no" to any of these then yes, its wrong, in my opinion. That said, have you considered exactly what type of relationsjip you will be looking for? Friends with benefits? a strict sexual relationship? dating with intention to create a relationship? A committed secondary relationship with emotional connection to add to your existing primary relationship? There is a lot here to consiser before you even open this topic of conversation with your spouse. (Edited to correct typos. )

Lying to deceive always wrong. If you don't have to lie about it, then probably not wrong. Always is pretty subjective

What is always wrong is this - you have an affair, you fall in love with that person then you cannot commit to them.

That is wrong and stupid and destructful.

And I clearly speak from the experience that is scorched earth and regret.

Just saying. Good morning!

If you keep it a secret yes. Be open with communication. I'm open to the idea of my husband having a sex partner, just because I don't like sex but I need to KNOW about it, and her, and approve. If I don't approve and my husband sleeps with her anyway, that's betrayal and I'm no longer willing to make concessions. It's done.

Are you referring to a secret affair or an open one? I have learned through lots of recriminations that I am far from the center in my opinions on this topic. If the affair involves lying than it is wrong. Otherwise it is up to the couple to determine the parameters of their relationship.

Why are you asking us?

Looking for permission?

Absent any more details... Yeah, it’s wrong.

I have to ask the question.... "Is a marriage always right?" Sorry, not passing judgement.

Yup. If the spouse is ok with a side piece then it is not an affair.

Question should be why 6 years later you are still together? Looking for affairs is not solving your "Issues".

Get a divorse and then go crazy. But cheatig within a marriage is anathrma to me. You are violating a contract.

Sometimes an affair happens before we have our own moral values set. But, after that, we need to honor our core values or we loose face with our self. I can't make that decision for others...each one of us must live solely with our private self. That is what matters to me. I don't want to do things that I must hide, worried if they were ever found out...I would lose 'face' and others could be hurt, too!

It makes more sense to evaluate your marriage to see if there's anything about it you want to preserve, and whether that outweighs having sex. If sex is more important, then tell your wife your thoughts, then if she still doesn't want to change or see a counselor or doctor, take steps to move out and find someone else.

Chances are, she's bored with you anyway and secretly hoping for a way to escape.

No, an affair is not always wrong.
I was seperated yet lived in the same house as my ex for 6 years, during that time I did not have another relationship.
I have as friends an elderly couple,they are in their 90s and have been married for 70 years.
At about 20, while engaged to be married they were in a horrific car crash that left them both with major problems. They married regardless but have never been able to have sex, and the husband has zero interest. They never had sex before marriage either. Somewhere 40-50 years into their marriage the wife had a brief affair, her only ever sexual encounter, she just wanted to be able to experience sex.
I do not know if they have since discussed it, she confided in me about 12 years back, and a few years later he mentioend it, just that he knew she had, or perhaps guessed she had.

I do not see anything wrong.

After 6 years an affair with your wife is legit

If you haven't been intimate with your wife for 6 years but wanted to be then there is something wrong and you should talk about it. if that doesn't work you should go your separate ways.

I think honesty is mor eimportan than monogamy. When it comes to the details, each couple needs to work those out for themselves.

In short, a person whoudl discuss this with their spouse, instead of looking to others outside ofhte relationship for advice.