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I'm intrigued. What is it that makes us 'visit' a profile? Is it a question posted? Is it a view of a photo? Is it something else completely? I ask as this site was sold/advertised to me as a dating site! It is many things and is often good fun, but it is NOT a dating site (unless you can tell me otherwise).

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I can't speak for anyone else, but I'm just as nosey as hell.

Deb57 Level 8 Apr 20, 2018

Me too. Curiosity is a good thing, in my opinion. πŸ™‚


It’s usually my fat thumbs that send me to someone’s profile.


I would classify it as a social site with dating features. Why do we visit profiles? I can only speak for myself, and I'll be 100% honest. If a woman posts something interesting or replies to one of my posts, I may bring up her profile to check for compatibilty and/or to see what she looks like. There are some very pleasant looking people here and of course I like to look. I certainly hope no one has taken offense to it. Too, if a lady has offered a particularly noteworthy polite or interesting response I will check briefly to see what other interesting things she has posted or commented. And if it's glaringly obvious she has sent me a "signal," I of course will go check her out. Has to be pretty obvious, though, for me to "signal" back. I've been trying to tone down my flirt game...just a little. Just the tip.

If I see something interesting that a man has posted, I'll check him out too, especially if I think we see eye to eye on things. What else has he posted that I will like? One can never have too many friends and allies in this world. And, frankly, I'm not 100% unattracted to good looking guys. There, that's a bit of forthright honesty I would not likely share anywhere else.


It's the only way to block people. πŸ˜€



Awesome lol


I generally visit to see their bio and read comments from people who have either followed me, made great comments (or not) and/or to catch up on some of the posts/comments from members I follow. Reading posts and comments on their profile is a great way to get to know someone and enhances conversation in messenger because you've taken the time to get to know them better.


I visit people that visit me. But outside of that, my usual process goes something like this:

  1. Hey, this person is witty/funny/kind/cool
  2. Hey, nice profile pic, too
  3. click
  4. Damn, why do you live in Narnia?!

Lather, rinse, repeat. =)

tmaaz Level 5 Apr 20, 2018



It’s usually if someone posted something interesting or made an excellent retort, I want to put a face with the intellect responsible. So if I check you out I was somehow either educated or entertained.



I came here because it was advertised as dating as well, but the community won me over instantly. I love how it works, and it works for me to get to know people at a different level, in a group atmosphere. I have an adversion to traditional dating sites, there is only one way to have a conversation with someone, and there is no real way to catch on to the pretense. Here you can actually get a glimpse of someones personality, which is usually hard online, in my opinion.

For me, visiting usually follows reading something interesting someone wrote. It's more about content. I'll pop on and check out the profile to see if their thoughts and ideas would be interesting to follow. I usually bipass the "usual" profile that is seen on dating sites and go to see what their comments and post have been. But that is just me. I follow whomever interests me, not really for dating, but for interesting interaction.

Yup, all this too!


I visit profiles out of curiosity. That's really the gist of it.

Somebody says something really provocative - I look at their profile.
Something really witty - I look.
Something outlandish and moronic - I look.
Something kind, caring and warm - I look.
Something insightful, vulnerably honest, and real - I look.

I look at profiles to get a little more information about a person - to see where they are coming from, to get an idea of their expectations of this group, this life, etc. And to get an idea of their motives. A profile may or may not determine my intentions regarding how much time and brain space I give to their words.

As just one teeny example -- the person who a- joins the site today; b- does not look around, get a feel for the community and does not comment on any other posts; c- posts only one or no photos; and d- has one post telling everybody he wants to get fucked -- and fucked hard -- bareback -- and sucks cock well enough to keep you begging for more every day of your natural life -- well, that will all determine my "interest" in that person -- or lack thereof.

Profiles can sometimes, but not always, help me decide if I want to hang around that person at the block party.


About 60% of the time, it's because my mobile device isn't correctly picking up my scroll-tracking and thinks I tapped instead. (Sorry, everyone.) The other 40% is just me being nosey: e.g., do I remember this person?, is that a new photo?, is that my grandma? β€” y'know, the usual.


Usually because of a comment they've made. Also sometimes if they are in my region.

@Silvertongue That you can see on your own profile. "Nearby members" is a feature.

Somewhere there's a list of localish folks on my main page. Or maybe it's under the 'meet' button?


I bet you have had a lot of visitors today ?

MsAl Level 7 Apr 20, 2018

I visit theirs so they'll visit mine, and I'll visit theirs again so they'll visit mine again, and.......wait! That was 7th grade

did you get any valentines?

But wouldn't you say this site is more like high-school or college? Not at an intellectual level of course, but in the social sense. You become a regular party goer, get to know the other regulars, develop some friendships, some you like to hang out with more than others. Some don't attend regularly, but you are happy to see them when they do. Then there are others who stir things up. Oh, but then that new person pops in, so you see what they are all about.


@btroje nada one!

@btroje, @Stacey48 Yeah! I suppose it has that aspect

@Stacey48 A bit, yes. Definitely.


Whan someone makes an interesting comment or post, or when there comment relates to their location or is obviously a different climate, I check for location.


I check someone out when they say something wise and witty, or irritating in some way. I'm always curious.
And of course anyone who writes to me, or whose looks intrigue me !

Any and all sites can be potential fodder for dates, if you think about it.


I visit profiles of people that make me laugh or consistently answer the same as I would. It's intriguing.


Over 1,253 have viewed my profile. 2 more in the last 10 minutes.

WTF!!!!! that is nuts!!!!

@Nickbeee 5 more people now.

@Akfishlady IDK?

@Akfishlady Oh, okay.


I rarely do. Might be from popping up in my inbox or from a discussion. I mostly interact with discussions or polls.

I agree that it's a social site with dating features.

@Silvertongue yes I saw that pretense too. But it also said community. It definitely has both. To me OkCupid has a much better matching system.


A variety of things will make me look at a post, someone who's liked a comment, someone who sends me a message, someone who's different, or I'm just being nosey lol

It can be a dating site, there seem to be quite a few who have met up and done the 'date' thing so I guess it works in that regard but i would say it's more community if I had to choose.


This site serves as both for dating and community interaction, the latter of which I am here for. I try to visit the profiles of all new users, never know if I come across a really interesting one. Also, I frequently visit the profiles of those who are following my posts and have up voted my content often.


Location usually.
If they're within reasonable distance I'll likely day hello.
Chit-chat online is cool, but if rather meet in person.
From years in other groups I realize most people don't really want to meet, but I've nothing to lose by attempting.


I check out profiles based on comments


Me, it's the coments !! and their humour.. I ignore the visual it can be missleading online!!

@Akfishlady I tend to have the attitude if I like what people say then I will look and it is important as I have my tastes .. Though very open. I have fallen in love with people in the past based on who they are.. and I have thought I had fallen in love with someone based on looks when younger and less wise maybe lol. Once or twice. I think when you fall for someones person and being it's very different. Not sure if it's different for males too.. I like to challenge myself. A lot of men do behave in a monkey fashion lol. It appals me sometimes lol πŸ™‚ I think your smile is your best asset apart form your personality. Smiles go thing a long way !! You are beaming so that is good me thinks.


I vist a profile to see who "liked" one of my posts or comments, who has replied to one of my comments or posts, and who is following my posts.


Either interesting questions or answers.

ebdb Level 7 Apr 20, 2018
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