On Fitness Singles a man wants to meet me. His first message was sweet:
"I have to state that you have a killer smile. Sometimes I come back to your profile just for the smile. Brightens my day."
His life is in upheaval. I don't want to be part of it. I told him I'm not interested.
His photos show him with cats on his shoulders and a big-dog. A lifelong hiker, he sent messages listing multiple injuries and surgeries since his 20s. He is in the process of getting a divorce. He's living in a trailer. Recovering from another injury. He has a list of his injuries on his phone "so I don't forget."
None of this is appealing to me. I loathe cats. Cat dander triggers my asthma attacks. I avoid dogs. Terrified, really.
In the past decade, I have been attacked by 8-unleashed vicious dogs while hiking and snowshoeing. In all cases, dogs were required to be on a leash. It took eons for my knee ligament to heal after an attack.
Many newly-divorced men rush into a new relationship. It never ends well.
We would be perfect together.
Your abject disdain matches my debonair insouciance.
Walking with friends is the perfect foil to my cya later off you go encouragement.
Surround yourself with people that have similar interests.
Hit on talent when the mood takes you.
One of those fuckers might be just right.
He could be 'the one', but how are his attachments dragging him down/holding him to ransom?
I recently met a lady in need of a smart brain with the ability to be non-judgemental. I had a not so soft spot for her, but her life baggage is something I cannot cope with at this time. If we'd met some time ago then fine I could help providing I knew then what I know now.
So, to cut to the chase, you may find that you could become attached then discover than you end up fighting what feels like Vietnam but with emotions instead of bombs and bullets.
He has a point on your smile though, a very good point.
Years past, I had met several similarly desperate-to-not-be-alone men, and actually took up with one charmer who conveniently forgot to mention his last, not yet divorced, marriage. Ugh. Our generation raised men to be cared for by women in order to succeed. They tend to be terrified of the prospect of fending for themselves, my ex included.
Nah, you have FAR better things to do with your life than being his next hand-maiden!!
Sounds like you’ve already decided he’s not suitable for a partner with the animals and injuries issues. But there must be something appealing about him or you wouldn’t be asking for thoughts. If he’s close; a cup of coffee or dinner wouldn’t hurt to solidify your concerns or maybe spark you interest. Happy thoughts.