Who's been your greatest, constant, personal teacher? Man or Woman?
Who's been your greatest, constant, personal teacher? Man or Woman?
Pretty even distribution for me. I think we have made too big an issue of roles in this world. Mom knew how to hunt down game, skin and dress, and how to cook it. She was good at fishing and could throw a mean curve ball. She knew how to use language that would make a seasoned sailor blush. She knew how to survive with little or nothing, and she knew how to make doilies, darn socks, and throw my ass out the door to make sure I got to school on time.
I think we (men) have been the main designers of role differentials and I suspect that was mainly an act of insecurity (gotta be dominant -- hua hua [pounding the chest]). At any rate, my learning has been evenly distributed. It was a woman who opened my eyes when I was struggling with partial differential equations, and it was a man who taught me to sew.
I would have to say I've learned from both in equal measure. I have a dominant male side, but I also have a clear and present feminine side as well.
The jobs I've done in my life have been, for the most part, very male centric. I can tell you what an impact wrench is and how to use it and I know how to swing a hammer. On the weekends in the fall I hang out at home or at the local sports bar and watch college and NFL football. I've also been very active in the arts throughout my life, and singing and dancing in regional theater productions of The Sound Of Music and Oliver isn't exactly considered a male centric activity.
Having that kind of lifeatyle requires one to interact with both men and women regularly, and it's virtually impossible not to gain an equal amount of insight from both.
Yes. I was very close to my mom. I found my self taking on alot of her ways. My mom taught me to cook, sew, laundry, proper cleaning, money management, etc. My mom is Hindu. although I did not practice her religion, I don't eat Beef.
My dad and I were not close so other than working hard, I can't say I learn much from him.
Interesting question. I would have to say women, though I have learned from both.
My one romantic partner in life impacted me tremendously and mostly positively even though we are divorced now.
My sister has been a role model, confidant and friend.
I have also had a lot more female friends than male. I've had three informal mentors in my work over the years and two of those are women. My hiking partner is a woman. My best friend currently is a woman (it is not a romantic relationship).
Honestly, I wish I had more male influence in my life, though I am very thankful for my father's good influence.
I'd say both.
Back in primary school in year 3 I had a sexist anti-male teacher who sent 5 boys to the school therapist for just being boys, offences ranged from taking a persons drawing to saying a word incorrectly. I was one of them.
After hearing about me in the staff room, another teacher, a Rhodesian man her her talking badly about me and asked if I could be placed in his class. He turned me from the dumbest student to the smartest student in 3/4 of a year.
That was the moment that changed my life for the better.
That's not to say that all my experiences with women are bad. There are some women who I look up to in my life as role models.
I've probably learnt more about life from my dad than my mum but that's just because my mum doesn't take a very active role in conversations. I know she doesn't offer her opinion because she doesn't want to upset anyone, but I do want her to talk to me more often.
If you’ve been married for 42 years you tend to hear a lot from the female side but I don’t necessarily think I’ve learned more from her than my male friends especially on the business side. I’ve probably learned more by reading and watching documentaries on TV.
I have learned every good lesson from a man. I have learned very little from women.
HOWEVER...I have listened to more women talk. They have less useful things to say.
And as Lancer has mentioned..I too have had horrific experiences with Female Teachers.
I personally feel as though Men are better at communicating.
Women. Definitely. Even if we don't count school teachers.
I've often had more interests in line with what girls and women traditionally do. I generally don't have a lot of male friends. Don't like sports. Don't like guns, etc.
I do love baking, I used to do needlepoint, etc.
I learned the most from my mom. I learned a lot from my sisters, my best friend's mom (when a kid) and so on.
Even that bitch of an ex-wife taught me a lot for which I am thankful.
I would say that this statement is true for me...I learned to change the oil and fix motors from my father, but it was more my mother that taught me to have a liberal thought towards others, she was a Catholic, Buddhist, and Wiccan, and when I told her that I didn't believe in God, all she said was, well aslong as you live a life that makes you happy and don't hurt anyone in the process, she didn't care, I learned my
To be honest, I don't even know. When I cite things people have said to me, it's usually my mom, sister, grandmother... etc, but I also remember going fishing with my grandfather. We didn't talk much, but we hung out. I learned so much by watching him. He was my surrogate father, and at the time I didn't know how profound his contribution would be to my life, but it cannot be measured.
I was raised mostly by my mom except for those few years she was married to my father and step-father. My sister and I have been close for most of our lives, and when it comes to handling people and politics in the workplace, she's brilliant. When it comes to finances, she's got it all together. She also has a lot of insight. So I've learned a lot from both my mom and sister.
One of the most evil people on the planet was my third grade teacher Mrs. Jackson... To this day I look back and wonder why she was ever put in charge of children.
Even my dad and step-dad, who were violent and abusive taught me a lot... about how not to be in the world.
So I don't know. I don't even think I could quantify it. So much of who I am stems from the "people" in my life, and even then I don't fully grasp how much influence many of those people had on me. Maybe if I too the time to break it down, I could get rid of some of the negative influences that must still linger somewhere.
My Father taught me how to survive in life. How to work, how to fight, how to do unto others, before they did unto me. That some deserved trust, others did not. What other men have taught me, has been that Father knew best.
On the other hand, my Mother taught me how to best live with myself. That honesty with myself was a necessity, and that dis-honesty was only forgiven when used to spare pain. Mother taught me that kindness was opportunity, and should be used to better myself every time I got the chance. Mother taught me that every person deserved the chance to better themselves, and that every time I tried to help, allowed me to accept help from someone else without shame. Mother taught me that negativeness was mind killing for yourself and others, and that positiveness was up-lifting, life giving, for yourself and others. Other women have taught me that Loving, and making Love are more than a physical thing. And that pleasure should allways be a two way street. That pain's only purpose, is to let you know that something is wrong. At 74 years old, I am most greatful for what the women in my life have instilled in me.
I think it depends on the subject matter, but as it relates to the human experience, emotions, feelings, communication... I have too have learned more from women than men. I do see that changing though. It feels to me as though there are beginning to be more men willing to just be themselves instead of puffing up their chests and avoiding things... or it could also be that I've been working on being more open, so I see it more.
I would also say women a little more than men, but not exclusively. I have two older brothers who, at key moments, positively shaped my outlook. But I think it boils down, in part, to females, more than males, being inclined and socially encouraged to talk more about personal, emotional, life lessons. Males seem more inclined to talk about sports, women, and achievement stuff.