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Does No Kids = Bad Person?

I've noticed that most of my classmates are parents, but I never got there. Having two marriages fail on me, I suppose that's a good thing, but my current marriage also features childlessness. The stork is not delivering to our house anytime soon, and adoption/fostering is less likely.
I'm concerned that I might be seen as "bad" to people. Perception does bring about reality, sometimes. The truth is, it just hasn't happened, for any number of reasons. I think of our cats as our children, but of course, they have different needs from humans.
So, does my lack of having a Mini-Me put me at any kind of disadvantage?

RunsOnCoffee 5 Apr 30

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Only if you decide to think less of yourself about it. No need to compare yourself to others. I see no reason why it would be any "disadvantage" though, because the world is overflowing with children now that we do not have proper resources to look after.
So you might be even be seen as good and responsible for not bringing kids into the uncertain and sometimes dangerous world we exist in. Well done, sir!

But I think Rabbit was a poor choice of name if you do not plan to reproduce! 🙂

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You are going your part to save humanity from overpopulation, climate change, and the overconsumption of resources! I salute (and share!) your sacrifice!

Remi Level 7 May 1, 2018
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You are doing the world a favor by not adding another person to an over populated planet

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Be proud you are not contributing to overpopulation/ outrageous consumption! Plus, Stats show childless couples are the happiest of all.

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Not having children doesn't make you, me, or anyone else, a "bad" person.
Whatever anyone's reasons are, is no one else's business.
If you're going to worry about what other people think, you are in for a whole lot of
aggravation. And if you go ahead and have kids, just so you won't be looked upon in
any kind of negative light, you're doing it for all the wrong reasons.
There isn't anything "wrong" with choosing not to have children.

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The world is not short of people. It is not like we are going extinct. If some judgemental goons criticize you for not having children, I don't see that as reason for you to judge yourself for it.

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You will save a shit load of money, and you won't have to spend Thanksgivings with your child's in laws whom you probably wouldn't like anyway.

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Basically...
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No, it does not. People who are thoughtful and considerate tend to avoid having children these days. I've asked many very intelligent people if they were going to have children, and a few replied with "Would you want to bring a child into 'this' world"? I can see their point. Consider that there are over eight billion people in the world. You will never live to be eight billion seconds old. Consider that it is only within the last century that we developed weapons so powerful, we can destroy all of humanity in twenty minutes. Consider the imbeciles that have their finger on those weapons. It's damn depressing. Have you ever watched the movie, Idiocracy? If you don't think we are on the way, just look towards the white house.

IT'S GOT WHAT PLANTS CRAVE!
I think that movie should be required watching for all high school students

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The reality , does not live up to the hype . Whether it's by choice or by chance , it's not all it's cracked up to be . Be who you want to be , you'll be happier that way , as will your spouse . And , if you have children you didn't want to be , they won't be happy either . Remember , it's about a 20 year commitment .

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Bad? Being childless has nothing whatever to do with being bad. I believe we all have to live our lives our way, not someone else's. As long as you harm no one you're not bad. Your life, your decisions. Enjoy it.

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I purposefully chose not to have children for a number of reasons. The first of which is that I don't want to have a traumatic emotional effect on the formation of another human being. Secondly, is environmental: it would be highly irresponsible for someone to bring life into a dirty, overpopulated, perverse, violent, expensive world without considering these factors. Thirdly, my parents (who abandoned me during my chemo for cancer that runs in our family) have begged me to procreate based on the fact that I'm the last of our bloodline and not doing so is a huge F YOU to my family who feel they deserve grandchildren. I'm all set.

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Nonono.

As the child of someone who had kids they didn't really want, do NOT have them if you have the slightest doubt as to whether you want them or not.

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I'm child free by choice and don't see myself as a bad person

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When my wife and I married neither of us wanted kids. We were married for about 15 yrs and for the whole time people gave us grief about not having them. It was a real pain in the ass. People were constantly getting in our business about this and moralizing about how we "should" have kids. We did (after 15+ yrs) have an unplanned pregnancy and decided to go with it, but not for the reasons people had pushed at us. I can tell you that having a kid is very hard and you give up a lot; ethically I see it as something that can be good or bad. As others have mentioned, there are many reasons to not have kids, and I'm not sure I made the "right" decision (because I don't think there is a "right" one... each person's situation is unique). Of course I love my kid, but don't ever let someone tell you that not having one is immoral!

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No, and your children can never suffer so I would call it an advantage.

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Worry about your character and not your reputation. Character is who you are and reputation is only what people think of you.

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No it doesn't make you a bad person.
I suppose you have reasons for being concerned with what others think.
I wouldn't.

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Dude PUHLEAZZZZ! Stop worrying about what other people think and live your lives. If you and your wife are passionate together about having children, maybe there is a medical obstacle that needs to be overcome, but don't do it out of guilt for crying out loud. Be happy, live for you!

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I feel there is no "good or bad" associated with having kids...its a personal choice that should be respected!

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All it should mean is that it might be harder for you to relate to people when they are talking about their kids and we all know people who do that endlessly. Just like if I was talking to someone who was adopted and I'm not - it's harder for me to understand what that is like. Of course it doesn't mean you and your wife are bad people or selfish - it just didn't happen for whatever reasons. People love to label and categorize each other, it's how we make sense of the world. Unfortunately it can lead to not so nice judgements and behavior.

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No,not bad,but a happy person

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Burn him he's a witch!!! Burn him burn him lol nah nowt wrong with you at all as long as you are not one of them people that complains about children playing in the street them who cares if you have not had kids

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I mean if so, I plan to be bad for quite some time.

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I ly do not believe that being childless makes anyone bad. There are plenty of good people who are childless. Example: had a friend in Atlanta who got a vasectomy because he didn't want the possibility of putting a child through the hell of dealing with his bpd.
There are also plenty of bad people with children. Just visit any school. You can point those poor kids out within 3 minutes of observation.

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Be fruitful & long divide.

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