Is there a number that you stick to or do you just float and see what happens?
I've found that this can be greatly influenced by culture.
Here in the US, we are still pretty heavily influenced by the puritanical beliefs of many of our founding fathers, so we have a lot of hang ups when it comes to sex.
Latin America, on the other hand, has seemed to do a much better job of shedding the oppression forced upon them by the Spaniards. It seems as though these folks only like to do two things in their free time; dance and have sex. Especially during Carnival.
SE Asia is also a culture which has never seemed to have many hang ups when it comes to sex. There is a tribe in Cambodia called the Kreung where at the age of 13, fathers will build their daughters a hut separate from the family home where they can take boys they fancy to experiment with their budding sexuality in privacy.
It seems as though the only countries which have any major hang ups about human sexuality and waiting for a specific time to start having sex are countrues where christianity or islam permeate every aspect of the culture.
One, kinda racist comment about South Americans. Maybe expand your knowledge base.
Two, false on Islam and Christianity. Read either Holy book and you'll find not only young virgins having their bodies abused but also incestuous acts
I've been to South America. Those folks work hard, but when the times comes to punch out for the day they play even harder. I don't think my assessment is off.... or anywhere even close to racist for that matter. I happen to think that work hard and play harder is how everybody should live their lives, and those folks have it down to a science.
As for followers of christianity and islam, there is a big difference between what comes out of their followers mouths and their actions. Perhaps they could take some lessons from our friends in places like Columbia, Brazil and Costa Rica and learn to drop some of the self flagellation and guilt. Maybe then we wouldn't see so many of them getting caught up in compromising positions.
When to have sex with someone is really a personal thing. The right time is different for different people. I am not sure if you are talking about losing your virginity, or just having sex with a new person in general. If you are talking about losing your virginity, just make sure you have done your research first so that you are not completely lost when having sex for the first time. If it is your first time with that person, I would say whenever you feel comfortable enough with them to open up to them in that way.
I would say it is best to discuss boundaries, likes, and dislikes with someone before you sleep with them just to avoid uncomfortableness and misunderstandings. I would strongly encourage using protection, but that is a personal choice. I also personally think waiting until marriage is a bad idea because you are choosing to spend the rest of your life with someone before you even know if you are sexually compatible, but it is a personal choice that has worked for some people.
Very detailed. Good answer ?
Everyone has their own clock, but when I have strong feelings for someone, and it's been a while I start feeling a measure of rejection, and I will ask that person how they feel about me. If it get's interpreted as insecurity or pushy that's when I know it's not mutual.
Whenever you yourself decide. Don't go off of other people's times. Do it when it feels right and natural for you.
Before the viagra wears off?
Lol. Maybe keep the V in a pocket til you’re sure?!
I guess I'm just an old cynic, but I think we place far too much importance on sex and the notion that it needs to be a world-shattering expression of poetic romance on a par with Shakespeare and Donne. Sometimes it can be that. Sometimes it's a romp in the hay. Sometimes it's a satisfying one-night-stand. Sometimes it's a disaster. If you're considering doing the whoopee with someone be sure you're attracted to them that way, otherwise it's a crashing bore. Also, try to figure out whether your prospective partner would take advantage of you if you developed more than casual feelings of affection for them. Some people will use your goodwill to suck money and other favors from you. Others will get scared and dump you if they perceive that you are saddling them with the responsibility of a relationship. Some will be wonderful friends and partners. Try to figure out what you're dealing with before getting too carried away. I'm not sure what your situation is, so this is just general advice. Good luck!!!
Certainly not on the first date. I like to establish some amount of intellectual and emotional intimacy before sex, so maybe not even until after several dates. That's not to say I'm opposed to all physical contact, like cuddling and kissing.
So you're sapiosexual too. That's cool
@ashortbeauty lol Am I? I'm not sure.
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I honestly don't think there's a time period. I feel if the chemistry is right it can be the first date or tenth date
Well put
Float. I take a while to feel comfortable with someone, so I certainly won't begrudge anyone else for that.
As soon as ur death star is operational, it's time to fire the weapon.
@LadyAlyxandrea...valid point but isn't firing a 12 year old death star against the law??
@Razorjelly well I don't know, anymore. A lot of lawmakers get caught firing their death stars at 12 year olds regardless lol
So much importance and significance has been heaped on a basic human function. You can blame our religious culture dating back thousands of years.
Thanks, you said it much more succinctly than I did.
However long it takes for you to get comfortable with the idea of having sex with someone. It’s really a very individual thing.
I take it on a case by case basis. If it’s going well, we’re connecting, and the chemistry is there, I’ll go ahead.
I must have been waiting too long. I've sort of forgotten how it goes.
No longer than your body and mind will bear. Seek it, take it if offered. Worry later. Or not. Life’s too short. But don’t deceive anyone. If all you want is a shag, make sure they know that. ??