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Would anyone be interested in living in a community that had no religious dogma? It would be more for pooling ones income and to having people around you that are like minded. The sex thing would be up to each individual person. What one does that doesn’t hurt others would be your business. Share meals if that is what one wants, share rides, just help each othe out. More like a family of givers living their own lives but having people around that cares. Let me know what you think or give me ideas on how to make this possible.

Babydoll 4 May 11
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Like we all live on a big hippie commune?? And we take care of each other. Fine with me as long as i have my own space for privacy at times.

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You are describing the commune I lived in . Both my children were born there and the whole commune helped take care of them.

@SallyMc We occupied an empty house in a rich suburb of Stuttgart, Germany,three storeys, with a lovely garden and steps leading up to the front door. As soon as the neighbors found out that we were a commune, they alerted the owners and their agent. i was nominated to represent the commune. I was visibly pregnant , well groomed and well spoken, so we were able to negotiate an agreement . We paid a monthly lease which included heat and water. It was a generous agreement for both sides. The house was divided like alayer cake; in the basement lived the junkies and runaways. On the ground floor lived my little family , my partner was in the US Army and another couple plus two or more young girls. On the second floor lived the anarchists- they were rich kids wih revolution on thie minds. Lots of th erent money came from the second floor people and in return, we fed them regularly and participated in the hairbrained schemes ( no more than hanging up leaflets in bus shelters and the stores we shopped in. We had a loose schedule for the household chores, with laundry being the least loved activities. We shared everything; food, beer and wine, hashish, whatever. Bodo, the freaked out kid from the basement, worked in the garden with me. He loved it as much as I did. We lived there until our youngest daughter was six months old and allowed on a military airplane. We were sad to leave the commune, although the presence of the CIA and FBI agents near the house was getting on our nerves. My partner, then husband, had a high security clearnace which he lost when we moved into the commune. After we started the eprocess for my emigration as a military wife, they backed off a bit, maybe they finally saw that we were not a danger to the free world but decent, semi-straight living people with a bunch of hippie friends.

@SallyMc It's funny you should ask that. We thought we were living after the American model for communes. True, there was no back to the land movement, because their was no "free"land at all. After WW2, all the ethnic Germans came from the East, fleeing before the Russians, and took their share of the land that could be recovered, rebuilt and reconstituted. German population density is at least 10 times that of the US. We followed the famous Hog Farm in the news, but having land in Germany is the privilege of the very rich or the very entitled. The possibilities here are endless. Just think of the land in the Ozarks, in the Rocky Mountains, in the mid west. In Arizona I have seen whole towns that are abandoned. In cities, whole blocks are empty houses . All those places would be ideal for starting a community. But American attitude will have to drastically change from me to us, and the issues with black/white and brown will have to be dealt with daily, not only within the community but also without of the border of a community. I think it i harder now because we would have to give up things and behaviors and attitudes in order to make it successful.

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I would not say no to this idea. Just as long as invisible disabilities don't cause resentment among those who don't have them.

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The sex part of that.... Prob not my thing (I used to be in an open marriage but I've never been into group lol) but I'd totally be down for living amongst others I get along with and have similar thoughts to

? Plus, I'll be the group I.T. guy ?

@Babydoll I really am serious. I have no children ,no family and I was always looking to think outside the box

@Kojaksmom I'm child free by choice

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Because I have already done it once when i was young and poor and idealistic, I do not want to do it again.  I live with a grandson in a small, rural  community just as i like it.  I do not have the tolerance I once had and value my space and silence more than any communal living.  It is however, a worthwhile thing to consider and try for the folks who are still vibrant and optimistic.
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That would be cool.

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I think along the lines of a cooperative more than a commune. People of different ages able to bring different talents to the table. For instance, seniors may provide child care for the working parents. Tradespeople would help maintain the community, etc. For me it would need to be a large plot of land and build your own living quarters on it. Community farm, etc. I like the idea of living amongst socially responsible people.

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I would like to make a hippie community with a bunch of tiny homes connected by pathways to a common area/s.

I'm in

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Pooling resources, yes ( to buy large plot of land to be divided up ). Income, No. Live communily yes, if each can agree their level of participation without coertion, i need my privacy. Join a community, yes. Join a cult, no. ?

@Babydoll sounds good.

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Did this when I was younger, ie more than 1/2 my life ago.
Am considering it now, some of my female friends have suggested living in a complex together or very close by for social and support reasons. I have had so many failed relationships in the past 30 years (well 4) and have moved house because of them, I feel I am settled now, have only been here 5 years and am well setup. But .................... This is so far from me, in a place I have never been and too cold, but so tempting. If my son agreed we could manage it, or if I found 11 others I could use it as a vacation spot.
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Some of my female friends and I have spoken about this. To age alone and have nobody to note you are slipping or whatever is a scary prospect. We've talked about getting a plot of land where everyone could have their own separate small cottage or home but we would be there to check on each other and maybe periodically have a group gathering. I don't think in general it's a good idea to expect more than one woman to share a kitchen....LOL. We would pool resources for things needed for the entire compound (such as getting all the lawns mowed or whatever) but each person would have their own separate finances and household budget. I honestly think this is the wave of the future. Lots of women have no children (or children that live far away or are not the sort to stick around to check on Mom all the time) and are divorced or widowed or never got married to begin with. This is a way that those of us who want to maintain our independence but don't want to be isolated could have something like a family without non-family actually living under our roof.

@seaspot_run I think it is an excellent idea, I lived in an "over 55" complex from 2009-2013, a year or so before it had opened up to all ages, so there were a couple of young families and I was only 51. But there were 49 houses in the complex, say 5 families with kids, most were older couples, but also about a dozen widows or older divorced women. I was the only single male and had a 14/15 year old foster child with me. It was ok, but would be better if smaller, more planned and with people who were friends. That said, I still see ex neighbours from time to time. It was one of these neighbours who put em onto the idea. She is quite a bit younger than I but lonely. I suggested she make friends male or female for future traval and such. She hoped she and I would be neighbours till our last days, continue to share meals etc. She was too cute to remain friends so close as other female friends didn't like it and too religious for us to ever be any more than friends. I think an arrangement where people look out for each other as you suggest, pool resources on some things and just be less lonely. I am still lucky in that I am surrounded by friends 1/2 my age who I do things with, but I am aging and can not do as much. I don't wish to restrict their activities. Co-housing and co-operative group homes are starting to take off here.

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Looking for something like this! I vote myself most likely to run off and join an eco-village somewhere in the North Carolina Mountains. I'll raise goats and sell flowers on the roadside for a living. When I need to take a bath I'll just put on some patchouli perfume.

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Who has to do the dishes?

JK666 Level 7 May 11, 2018

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It's been tried many times. Sooner or later, people change from thinking in terms of the community's welfare to their own.

Not that it couldn't work. Science fiction conventions work along those lines, and the reason they work is they have a time limit-- after the weekend it's over. A community you're talking about, with a definite beginning point and end point, could be made to work.

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I've been wondering about this too. Setting up the social and economic structure of the group would be incredibly important as well as it's physical location.

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It would be great if there was a spread of ages, everyone pitched in according to ability and I had a private place to go to.

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I have read some of the things on ecovillages here in the US. I found some parts of it interesting.

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I'm out. I prefer being alone in the country somewhere.

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I have another group of heathens that I've been chatting with for years and I've gone down to Texas to meet up with. We've joked about setting up this sort of thing multiple times. I always tell them that they can just dig me an oubliette to live in somewhere on the outskirts 😀

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I think it's a great idea, especially if it was in a rural, or semi-rural setting.

I looked into a community several years ago called Wolf Creek Lodge (not the family vacation lodge) that was quasi-communal. It's basically for seniors, and if I recall correctly, there was a large building, a sort of a Great House, if you will, wherein one could purchase a residence, sort of like a condominium, I guess, but their was also a large community space in the building where people could prepare large meals and residents could eat common meals together on whatever scale they preferred.

It seems, also, that there were separate houses, bungalows or something, on premises for nuclear families. The community is in Grass Valley, CA.

The idea looked very appealing on first take. But one knows how such idealistic notions can devolve into demagoguery if great care is not taken and vigilance is ignored.

@Babydoll the thing I've noticed, at least it seems this way to me, is that as people grow older, 60's, 70's and beyond, they (we) often get very entrenched in our views, or go the opposite way and become very tolerant of many things we could not stand before.

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Its okay, I live in community. If you were in OR, would have joined.

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Commune ?
For aging/dying folks ?
Not sure how well that would work given people's needs etc.

No doubt.

@SallyMc Thanks for quoting Karl Marx, Sally. The degree to which you, my fellow citizens ( yes I am a citizen now) are not educated about communism is astounding to me. There must have been a total re-education in this country that put a dark picture into people's mind about what those systems are, how they could or could not work and what the obvious dangers to the American system are.

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How many wives do i get ?

@Babydoll sod that I'm not shaving my legs for nobody !

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Living with others has rarely worked for me. My quiet and nocturnal nature seems to scare a lot of people. Also my penchant for rescuing wounded animals.

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Sounds like communism...

communism works if everyone sticks to the rules. you never sore Stalin in a larder and a small house. ants do it perfectly

People are confusing communism with socialism. Socialism is voted on, communism is forced on the population. Neither works well because some like to think they are better than the others and are deserving of more.

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