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How do you handle being gawked at by either complete strangers or just people you could know?

EmeraldJewel 7 May 22
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No one ever stares, I am the visual human equivalent of Beige wallpaper lol

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Just consider it a compliment and it won't bother you.

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Otherwise I would just make a weird face and...

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If they want to judge me that is there problem. I am not religious but i do believe in there supposed good book it says thou salt not judge.

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Men stare.
Fat women glare.
I don't care.

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Severe social anxiety and basically becoming a hermit for a year. True story.

In other words, not well.

@DeeTee I have to get used to the way people are. Evidently, around here many of them look at female skateboarders like they're witnessing comedy/horror/porn. I'm getting back out there, but I still have a long way to go.

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Doesn't bother me. I'm used to it.

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People gawk at me disapprovingly all of the time.

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If one dresses as if its halloween one should expect that response. If one has a disability or an aberant appearence, that is human nature to unconsciously evaluate something out of the norm.

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Um... no one gawks at old men. So, I wouldn't know.
But my question back to you would be;
If you wear your hair as in your profile picture, aren't you asking to be "gawked" at?

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I've learned to deal with it.

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Can't say I have ever paid attention.

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Not sure what you mean by gawking, you mean admiringly? At my age, I'm rarely gawked at unless I'm dressed to impress, and then I'd be disappointed if I didn't get some admiring glances. If I'm dressed for attention, that's what I expect to get from strangers and acquaintances! If I'm not in the mood to be gawked at, I dress more plainly or conservatively. Though that's subjective, I guess. I sometimes get whistles, and shouts for dates from 20/30somethings when I'm bicycling, and I just have to laugh to myself... If I was pedaling slower they'd be able to see I'm old enough to be their mother!

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It depends, what is the proximity of this person to me, what am I doing, how do I feel..

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As long as it’s transient stuff in public, I’m fine with it. In fact, I would welcome some staring in my direction. Recently, this woman in a store was staring me down...full out gawking. I found her to be attractive, so I walked over and introduced myself. Without even giving me her name, she blurted out that I had bird shit on my shirt. Great day for my ego!

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Men stare.
Fat women glare.
Have ignored the stares for decades.

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This is weird. A few weeks ago I was being sort of gawked at on a MARTA train. I didn't recognize him and I just tried to look away. Eventually he spoke. After a short conversation I still didn't know him. People who know me can offer up a concrete memory, at least I think. So anyway, nothing happened. Actually, this has happened twice. I never got to speak with the guy because the guy that was closest to me asked me about my headphones... I think he may have been a coworker 24 years or so ago though he wasn't working in the profession I am in or he was in, at the time, if that's the case.

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