For any reason. You had a bad day, your dog ran away, your love life went astray, I started rhyming and couldn't stop okay.
I'm guessing the rhyming tick is only temporary and as for the sympathy I think it can be thoughtful and kind, everybody has a bad day now and then - nice that someone took the time to even notice let alone express their concern.
Either validated or patronized. It just depends on the context.
I think genuine empathy is more significant than sympathy. Sympathy and patronization has a fine dividing line.
It depends on the situation and the manner of delivery. If it's superficial like "thoughts and prayers" then i feel disposable. If it's authentic like "what can i do to help you right now" then I feel gratitude.
If it comes from genuine concern; grateful: if it comes with help attached; even better!
Once was sitting in the paddock bawling near my thoroughly bogged ute having already spent more than a day trying to get it out. Already had a friend come over to give me a hand, we failed and as they don't have a high tolerance for frustration and do have a notoriously bad temper, been abused before they stormed off. So I'm sitting there crying, wet, cold, covered in mud and buggered if I know what to try next.
Anyway an old guy I know was driving around looking for his dog that was lost. He pulls up and sees me there, we walk over to each other and start talking, he tells me about his dog and I tell him that I hadn't seen it, will keep an eye out for it and hope he finds it soon. He then asks me what's wrong and I tell him, lots of sympathy on his part even though he had his own troubles and that helped me feel better, then he decides his ute is powerful enough to pull mine out provided it is on good firm ground and he has chains at home for his front end loader that should be long enough, and that even if the car isn't powerful enough he can then bring down the loader and it definitely will be.
So off he goes to get the chains and the car was able to do it. The dog incidentally also showed up home the next day. But just the fact that he cared had made me feel better, the fact that we got the problem fixed was a bonus. Sometimes you need to know someone is on your side.
I can't take sympathy, it makes me feel uncomfortable and even more vulnerable. I am almost as bad at expressing sympathy, I try but always feel inadequate and end up spouting the same platitudes as everyone else. Instead, I try to help where I can.
Bless your heart... I think it means Fuck you in Texan. I hear it all the time. Another one I hate is "I'll pray for you." Yuck. Don't bother. Waste of time.
That's something I am working on. I hate someone showing sympathy to me because it will make it hard for me not to cry. And I hate to cry in "public". It's annoying and embarrassing.
If they are non-religious, I thank them for caring.
If they are religious, I still thank them for caring but I wonder if they secretly hope their God will humble me.
Mostly because I was once a religious prick that hoped God would humble those I believed were living a wicked life.
Maybe I'm being too cynical toward the religious...
Indifferent mostly. I appreciate their concern, but it's of little value.
"We both stared at my shoes...she didn't know what I'd do with the rest of my life now either"
Context needed. I appreciate it if it is something I can't do anything about. I find it annoying if it is over something that I had control over, or that I am going to tackle again. It goes to my intention to succeed. It feels like that are validating failure if I haven't stopped trying.