Roses are both easy and hard. If you have the right variety for the region and growing conditions, a rose will practically grow itself. In fact many tough old garden roses have been found growing happily in cemeteries, totally neglected. However, many varieties are fussy, prone to fungal diseases, or won't like your climate. Some prefer growing on their own roots. While others grow better grafted on rootstock, and the small handful of commercially used rootstock seem to favor different regions. But never mind rootstock, if you are trying to save what is growing there, you don't get to choose that.
Pruning roses isn't rocket science. Prune just about a quarter inch down-stem from the leaf node (3, 5, or 7 leaves is not vitally important, but 5 is prefered). Think sensibly. A weak, struggling little bush can benefit from having its dead and dying wood cut away, but by all means SAVE the most robust stems. They are where the plant's best energy is stored. A big vigorous bush of course can handle a more significant pruning. Aside from dead-heading spent blooms, significant pruning is best reserved for once in late winter, depending on your region. Here in the Gulf South the main pruning can be the start of February. In late summer we give the lankiest overgrown plants a modest pruning at the end of August in preparation for our second main rose season...October and early November.
Remember the basics for roses: they need full, direct sun, preferably 6 or more hours a day, well drained fertile soil (They hate to sit in puddles) adequate spacing to allow good airflow through the branches, regular fertilizing to produce the most blooms, periodic judicious pruning encourages rebloom, and they LOVE regular deep watering, even though they need good drainage.

Hugs , hon , because I think you need a few .

Thanks everyone I have 5-6 books to get through ? although I don’t think any say about roses but dead headed for today just hanging baskets, therapeutic, the tangling of Hose causes me much problems ? some appears to have flies beasties I was told fairy liquid in water works?? Yeah I’ve no idea the kind that will be more research ? thanks been using miracle rose feed once a week cut back to twice shortly

A good book will help! And a lot of Internet research on your particular latitude and environment. Believe it or not, roses can be Hardy! Sometimes it takes a lot of cutting back and patience.

Don't look to me I have killed more roses than I can count, I maybe their kryptonite.

Someone who actually knows about roses will surely be along soon.

Sorry about your Dad. And that you're out watering at 3 am. That's really rough.

Be sure to take care of you too!