It's hard for family and friends to know whether or not to bring up a painful subject. I found most of mine were waiting for me to say something first for fear of causing me more pain. It's a tricky subject for those on the outside of grief.

I feel abandoned at times, not by Jocks memories but by friends who have their own lives and don't have my pain of loss or my acute awareness of anniversaries of his birthday next week his death also next week our wedding and so on. It's not their fault that they're not thinking of me and it'll probably only become apparent to them when they experience loss and the same thing happens to them, and it will because we are all wrapped up in our own lives however good our intentions are.

My late partner was from Iran and Thanksgiving was not a part of her holiday celebration. However, she was a big part of the island and specifically the group that always gathers for the holiday. She was mentioned often and her absence was felt deeply.

I found people still care but they also wanted to put it behind them so by asking questions many felt they were touching a sensitive spot (which was true) and they didn't want to stir things up. Not easy but one day at a time - you can do it

Not a single damned mention from anyone. It's like the whole world decides he's gone poof... gone he is. Except of course for me and my heart.

I feel the same. This is my first year just a few days ago.

My first without my longtime girlfriend,?

People are just way too busy and have way too many choices in today's world. I find myself often forgetting to do the decent things required for the people I care about. I hope you had other good things happen to you today and I'm sorry your family and friends forgot.Hugs?