I should add; be kind to yourself.

We are a long time dead! 37 years is a long time! Have you talked to her lately? Crying, each time is one less time. I'm 78 & have many losts in my life. Each day is a miracle! Give yourself permission to cry. Time will heal you. Then you can excel!

Condolences on both but losing wife was good move

So very sorry for the loss of your brother. This is a wonderful group to vent, unload your grief and find solace. I know, as I leaned on many wonderful people here when I lost my husband in 2018. Never feel you are "long winded" we are always here to listen. Glad you were able to move on from the cheating wife. Life is a challenge sometimes, as are most relationships but it does go on in spite of the pain we go through. I hope this new year will bring you comfort and more and better people to share it with.

Thank you all for your help. And I hope you all get through your pain as well. I promise to do my best.

Condolences on your losses.

You might want to consider this group also: "Mental Health Support "

And maybe consider going to therapy if you haven't. Those are a lot of losses in a short time.

condolences. time eases pain and offers a new perspective on life. hang tough. you'll make it.

Sorry for your losses and its true that life can be very hard at times but it is still a beautiful world if we choose to embrace it. Hope you can too

I'm sorry for your hardship and loss of your brother. Cancer sucks. It was the cause of death of my husband in 2018 with whom I had an exclusive relationship with for 32 years. I've also survived the suicide of an immediate family member. IMHO it is the survivors who suffer when a loved one ends his/her life. It has been my experience that time lessens the pain and new experiences fill the void. I wish you brighter days ahead.

I am genuinely sorry for your loss. I too am acquainted with it. My mother, oldest brother, previous wife a good friend and his wife, and my youngest child all died unexpectedly / out of turn. That's aside from my father and soon, likely, my other two older brothers dying in the natural order of things.

Like you, that people depend on me is a big factor in me carrying on.

My youngest older brother lost his wife in the way you did, and reacted similarly. Literally spent his days working and his nights crying himself to sleep for about 9 months. One morning, like throwing a switch, it just stopped.

It does get better and you can fill your life with other things that make life more compelling in spite of such losses. Do feel free to vent when you need to. There are many of us here who are able to lend a listening and caring ear.