What's the worst piece of advice anyone has ever given you?
"God will take care of you." This from my cousin who is a Jehovah's Witness. Sarah insisted that God provides for her.
In reality, church members paid for her rent, food and clothes. Sarah worked part-time so she could do "God's work," knocking on doors and hassling non-Christians.
When she finally realized I'm an atheist, Sarah cut me off. Sad.
My mother told me to buy a condo at the top of the market (2007) because it was in a “good neighborhood” which “will never lose value”. A year later I was underwater on my mortgage and had lost over 33% of its value. I love her, and to be fair, The Great Recession hurt everyone, but I take real estate advice from very few people now.
From my mother, when I inherited life insurance benefits when my father died and I planned to buy 30 acres with my then-fiance`, "You've only known him a year (I was 20, he 34). DO NOT buy that property." I was to put down the down payment, and he was going to pay the monthly $350 (this was in 1978) and the property tax. Very doable. Here we are, 40 years later; I didn't marry him, we've both been married to other people and divorced since, and we're still the best of friends. That property purchase price would have gone up from $29,000 to half a million today; with improvements, it would be roughly a million. Worst advice ever!
Some people gave me advice one what to do with my money, some told the the best ways to run my small electrical business.How to raise my kids, what house I should buy. I've had advice all my life. Maybe it good maybe it wasn't. I don't know, Everything I've done is because I wanted to. So I only have myself to blame. And I really don't feel like it's been too bad. I don't have much, sometimes I feel like I have too much. There's really not anything I want. Just a peaceful life.And no one can give that to me. Except me.
My father argued with me that I should rent when I bought my 1st house at 21, old beat up place that pretty much set me up for years.
My mother told me to give up on trying to find happiness, thht I never would. She also told me to find a woman to help me raise my kids as a man can't do it on his own. The list goes on.
People offering unsolicited dieting advice:
"You don't need to lose anymore weight"
"Don't get too thin. Black people aren't made to be thin" (yeah, someone actually said that to me)
"Don't drink diet soda"
"Don't skip breakfast"
"Drink honey and lemon, it burns fat"
"You should wear one of those fat loss belts"
I could go on and on. Gahhahhhahh
Invest in Florida real estate. Which I did right before the housing crash in 2008, which nearly put me in the poor house overnight! Best advice I got was from my Cousin, a lawyer also, who tried to tell me how horrible practicing law was. I ignored him to my great detriment!
I had a car overheat. I pulled into a service station to see if they could help me. The mechanic told me the car would be fine; I should just drive fast to cool it off. Well, three miles later the smoke was so thick I could not see. His advice was INSANE and so was I to listen to him!
My mom; never refuse sex to your husband, always forgive him and try to keep him happy, because if things don't work out, you can't move back in with us.
Of course, with no consequences, my husband cheated constantly, spent most of our money on himself, and eventually ran off with a younger woman, leaving me with two young children.
I finally grew a backbone and had him jailed for back child support. I told my daughter to
1.NEVER allow a man to release sperm in her. Ever. Condoms break. Birth control can fail. Remember that she is ALWAYS in charge of how things should be done in bed. A man who won't listen gets dumped.
2.Don't get married. If you want to have sex or live together, do it, but don't get married. If you break up with your boyfriend you can always move in with me, even if we must share a cardboard box.
3.Don't have children until you are thirty and established in your career. It takes two to raise a child and if you don't have a loyal mate, you will be forced to let your child be raised by others.