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So after reading some comments on an FB post, I became very curious. I hope to keep this post relatively mature as it is of a personal nature. I have a few different questions/comments to present...

  1. As someone who plans to adopt and potentially have her own, something I never realized I may need to consider is if I'll have a son circumcised. What is your opinion and why? Please don't be too graphic, I am a LADY?. Parents, I'm most interested in hearing how you made your decisions with your own sons.

  2. Do you think that majority of those that have been circumcised was due to religious reasons or just the assumed norm?

  3. I hate when women push their beliefs on this topic, while also ask men to stay out of decision-making when it comes to women's reproductive rights. Have your opinion, sure. Please don't ever argue against a Male on this topic though. Agree? Disagree?

Kassandra 6 June 29
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One way of approaching your question is to go with established medical science. Pubmed.org is the single recognized data base for all juried medical research.
Simply enter circumsision

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The foreskin of the penis is essentially the penis's version of a clitoris and along with it, its sensitivity.

There are SOME medical reasons for circumcision, but as far as it been necessary it is not.

Personal preference being one thing, but if you DON'T then they can always make the decision for themselves later in life if they have the medical need or aesthetic want.

No no no. The clitoris is the equivalent of the whole penis - the pleasure organ.

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After reading about female genital mutilation, I decided I couldn't deliberately cut off a piece of my son's body for no reason other than "to look like someone else".
This decision was cemented by my sister (an MD, in Sweden, who had NEVER seen a male patient who had wanted one, almost never seen a man with one, and never been asked to performed one herself; she said there was absolutely NO medical reason for it and most of Europe doesn't do it).
Just in case I wasn't 100% sure of my decision, my nephew was born a couple of months before my son; he had a traditional bris (circumcision with a Jewish ceremony), and they cut off too much (!!!!) - he ended up with a large wound which took much longer to heal than expected, constantly stuck to his diaper (causing him SCREAMING pain when he was changed I& the scab was repeatedly pulled off), and put him at risk for VERY serious infections (they were lucky, they caught each one before it got serious) - the whole thing was absolute torture to that infant.
Meanwhile, my son is 23, autistic (on the moderate to severe side, not the "mild" version), and has NEVER had a single issue with his penis. We taught him to clean himself when he bathed, and he does. If a disabled child can learn to keep himself clean, anyone can.

My son is autistic, too (aspergers), uncircumcised, and has never had any problems.

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I have three sons. None are circumcised. They’ve had zero issues. There is no “extra” cleaning or care required. We decided against it mainly because there is no medical reason. It opens up risk for infection. All of my boys were premature and though none required nicu care, they did have some minor issues and we didn’t want any added stress. It also required them to be separated from me which was against our parenting practices and beliefs at the newborn stage. And finally we just kinda thought the owner of the penis should make that decision.

Several things come to mind.. if you are a believer then god made an error.. oops.. I forgot one thing.. Secondly there is no medical reason. I was born this way.. Glad Mom made the right decision.

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As a uncircumcised male, I can assure you that circumcision is the way to go. As one ages the immune system declines and infections become more common. Since this area is generally more "humid" it is an invitation for infection. Circumcision eliminates an environment which promotes infection. Infection in this area is not pleasant.

Try the one shot tablet for thrush / candida. The infection gets under the skin so creams etc. really do not work too well. Also up the hygiene, stay away from shitty women or men depending on your proclivities and keep it oiled - coconut oil seems to work quite well.

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No!! There is NO need for this.

Coldo Level 8 June 29, 2018
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There have been several posts on this. The statistics show that America has an extremely high male circumcision rate, totally unrelated to medical necessity. It is overwhelmingly cultural/religious or both. Don't do it.

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I didn't want my sons circumcised, I didn't see the need; I considered it to be an outdated concept, one that would eventually break out of social norms; my wife's concern was that she didn't want them to be different from other kids, but the move away from circumcision was already happening, so that will likely become the norm.

I think circumcision is one of those things that future generations will read about and ask "WTF were they thinking!?"

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Like many issues, there are a lot of opinions on male circumcision and minimal solid facts.

The world health organization's medical department recommends male circumcision for much of the 3rd world, clearly medical professionals think there's SOME utility in male circumcision. If you demand a source here, I'll give it. If you're particularly antagonistic about it, please prepare to apologize for being an ass.

From personal anecdotal experience in Northern Africa, hygiene there isn't stressed nor is daily bathing even possible.

Obviously the USA is much different than 3rd world countries. I won't have children of my own, but if I adopted a boy, I wouldn't have him circumcised.

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It seems an unfair decision to make for someone who has no say in the matter.

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My suggestion would be to read up on the pros and cons and the potential long term problems of either choice. Make your decision on as much information as you can get, medical and anecdotal. Good luck. 🙂

Betty Level 8 June 29, 2018
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Occasionally for medical reasons, but do any other male mammals need to get circumcised? Or female for that matter? I was done and would love to sue my parents and all involved, my son wasn't and is thankful.

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I was circumcised as a baby. I seriously doubt I would have it done now if I had the choice, unless there was a valid medical reason.

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it damages the nerves and can lead to less feeling during sex . There are a few instances where the penis is born with defects that need surgery but a healthy penis does not need the procedure

Simon1 Level 7 June 29, 2018
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This is not something I would inflict on an infant. It is mutilation plain and simple. Like religion it should be undertaken voluntarily when one is an adult. Parents do not have the right to disfigure their children male or female any more than indoctrinate them with religion.

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Consider this.

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I had my children at home and didn't have my son circumcised, considering it child abuse. There is no good reason to do this to an innocent newborn baby.

As for women's reproductive rights, if men could get pregnant and would take care of a child for 18 years while trying to work and keep up the housework, then he could have a say. Otherwise, no.

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(My comments which follow below pertain to religious circumcision.)

Is the boy not a person in their own right?

Is their body theirs and not yours?

Circumcision should be the choice of the person who has it. No one else's. *

Circumcision imposed on someone is physical assault. *

And finally... Why are someone else's genitals your business? To force religious circumcision on a boy is to push your beliefs in an irreversible way.

  • unless there is a medical reason.
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I vote no. Unless there's a medical reason for doing so, circumcision is pointless.

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Here is what I would recommend. Since this is a health issue, yourself how it is handled in Western Europe? They live longer, happier lives and spend half of what we do on health care costs. (Answer: they don't promote it).

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Really the only reason for circumcision is cosmetic. My son is not. I just had to teach him how to make sure it is clean. The doctor advised me to make sure the head pops out when he was younger. Nature put the foreskin there to protect the head of the penis why muck with.

azzow2 Level 9 June 29, 2018
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I was with someone who said that not being circumcised made sex much more pleasurable. Not that you can compare if you only know one way or another. But he certainly was happy that his parents made the decision not to circumcise him (it's interesting that you have to make the decision NOT to do something, since doing it seems to have been the default for so many years).

Hihi Level 6 June 29, 2018
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Also as father neither of my two boys are NOT circumcised and we have never had a problem health wise.

We considered the religious aspect as we were both identifying as Christian at the time, but decided against it based upon the ideology of why it even existed in the first place, coupled with there being no medical value.. we just couldn't cut part of our sons dick off.. if that makes sense.

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There are no sound medical reasons for circumcision, and as it is practiced on newborns, no consent can be given. It’s a barbaric practice, and should be outlawed.

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