Civil ceremony. No need to mention god, or religious nonsense.

As a licensed "minister," I do non-religious weddings all the time. The same exact procedure, no God mentioned. Easy peasy. if you need help, let me know. Feel free to inbox me I have 20 years experience.

BTW, I have to use the term minister to be legal.

I do think that formalizing a loving relationship you plan to maintain over time is a worthy act.

Don't look at marriage as a religious experience. Look at marriage as a contract between two people, as a contract it can be as restrictive as the two parties agree upon.

I don't.

my sister got married by her yoga instructor. there is also always city hall. option 2 will save you a bunch on wedding costs. there is no need for religion to be part of a wedding if the people getting married don't want it to be there. it's more about signing on the dotted line than anything else.

You could go to a registered officiant who isn't religious. I have a friend who actually does that. Every wedding she's officiated at has been individual and unique for each couple.

Being secular/agnostic doesn't really change anything. It's a legal matter - it's the church part that's optional, contrary to what religious believe. Marriages performed only in a church aren't valid with the state. I have several gay friends who, before it was legal, were married in a church - it was a beautiful celebration, but that didn't confer any legal rights to their partners.

People have been getting married "at city hall" for decades. They'll do pretty words for you if you prefer, but it can simply be someone authorized by the state asking, "Do you want to marry this person?"

My late husband and I were married on the beach by a Justice of the Peace. I found her on line. I asked her specifically not do the tradtional marriage (religious) service. She agreed and we had a lovley ceremony just as the sun was setting. It was truly beautiful.

Civil ceremony. Magistrate.

We wrote our own vows using passages from books we liked...Kahlil Gibran, for instance...all the legal stuff was done at the courthouse, no religion required.

It is a civil union in the U.S. Why else would you need a license. The reception is just a huge party.

Finding a trooper willing to take the jump is step one.

Civil ceremony, a judge can perform the marriage vows.

Go to Vegas, get married by an Elvis

Marriage is a civil ceremony. It just happens that clergy are allowed to officiate / solemnize it at the pleasure of the state. That's why it only is legit if you buy a license from the state.

So in reality the better question is, how do you go about getting married or having a wedding if you're a believer? Because that's what actually adds extra steps to the process.

My wife and I went to the city clerk, bought a license, and arranged for one of the staff to officiate. We spoke our vows at city hall, and then took ourselves and her kids to a local B&B to celebrate. Simples.

I don't belive in marriage

City Hall is just as good a place as any church. We should remind ourselves that marriage was an economic contract, typically arranged by the parents, before religion co-opted it.

The last time it was the mayor of the town we lived in. He said it was an honor to do it.

A judge or a friend who went online and registered as a I can’t remember what they’re called. I would choose the friend so it’d be more intimate.

Marriage is a civil and fiduciary union. Even if one is religious and marries in a church, they must first obtain a license from city hall for the marriage to be a legally binding contract. An atheist would be required the same steps as "believing" couples, though they'd probably perform the ceremony outside of the church.

I am an ordained minister in the Universal Life Church and licensed wedding officiant in NY State and located in NYC. I will be performing a secular wedding in September.

Civil Union.