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Can men and women just be friends? Age-old and cliche rhetoric...
I am looking for people to hang out with and probably not ready for a romantic relationship after a recent divorce. I'm literally going to meetup.com looking for people to hang out with. Can you do stuff with members of the opposite sex as friends?

UrsiMajor 8 July 31
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Yes you can. I have a number friends i hang out with.

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My best friend is a woman. She is one of the only people that I really feel comfortable with.
She comes over every morning and we share some coffee and great conversations.

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Why can't people just let stuff happen? If you met an amazing person that you hit it off with why put up barriers of time (saying you're not ready)? Life doesn't usually work on our desired schedules.

@maturin1919 then you'd be an idiot to let something good go.

@maturin1919 yep. I think people can handle way more than they give themselves credit for. Also doesn't mean anyone has to do anything but at least being honest helps.

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Of course you can. It's your life. Make your own rules.
Come over my house and I'll prove it to you.

Just imagine it. You me my guy friends tv beer farting.
NOT TALKING!
It's what we guy friends do. How could any woman resist that?

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Yes. Absolutely. I'm going through a divorce as well. I have a couple of friends that are girls. It feels good to be yourself and concentrate on yourself for awhile

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No, not possible to just be friends

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Yes you can. Both have to be comitted to give you the time for as long you need to. I just left your area. May be back for Turkey Day for few days. But it is posible for an intelligent man to recognize that you are looking for healing, recharge your batteries, reinvent yourself, rest and relax without any pressure to your feelings. You need to breathe that aroma of freedom. Yes you can and if the man don't understand that... not a good friend.... Good Luck.

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Yes you can, I have several female friends whom I attended events with and text, talk on phone with and we're not I'm no way romantically involved. It's easy once the people involved know that the relationship is simply platonic and you're comfortable with them and enjoy their company and friendship

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I have a grand total of one guy friend who hasn't tried to booty call me at some point. He lives overseas. So, in my experience... not so much. I see a lot of guys saying otherwise, though, so maybe I just I only know horndogs.

@Shelton Well, I wasn't talking about anyone I'm actually dating, I was talking about people who are supposed to be "just friends." People who get second dates and unprompted texts are usually in the "mutually attracted" category ?

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Of course. Well, I can only speak for myself, but I have lots of friends who are women. In many ways I prefer their company over men because they tend to be more able to focus. Yes, I know that is contrary to the stereotypical woman meme.

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Well, in my anecdotal experience, this is the only kind of relationship with the opposite sex that I have these days. So yeah, it's possible. I am speaking from the masculine perspective, so ymmv.

zeuser Level 9 July 31, 2018
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I have lots of male friends...and yes, just friends and nothing else other than hugs "hello" and "good bye"...I would suggest maybe doing things with a group until you feel comfortable enough for being alone...set up boundaries for yourself and others...good luck and have fun!

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I guess roughly 75% of my true friends are women. Of those, 99% are "just" friends. My m.o. is to default to the woman controlling the relationship trajectory. This makes for very comfortable friendships.

my Chinese name is baoyu… 😉

Smart man!!!

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Definitely.

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Yes , but obviously how well this works will depend on what degree that sexual needs are being fulfilled outside of that particular friendship !

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Yes, but it certainly gets complicated finding the balance.

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I can try ... ?

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But don't be surprised if your wife objects

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Sure, why not? I've got a few male friends. When I was younger it was harder, but I think as I've gotten older it's easier for me to have male friends without any expectations of it turning into something else, and if feelings do come up they're way more manageable.

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Absolutely

Hihi Level 6 July 31, 2018
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In my experience, it rarely works out. Possible, but not likely.

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Absolutely. I’m more comfortable confiding my personal stuff with my lady friends than my dudes.

Josh87 Level 4 July 31, 2018
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Many, many times I ask the same question, I see no reason why not, many times it is better to have friends of the opposite sex, offer a great liberation of pressures and competitions, that normally arise when you try to make yourself look as a good candidate, you get to know each other more honesty, without deception and false facades, I wish you good luck in your endeavor!

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Of Course.

Coldo Level 8 July 31, 2018
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