Hasn't the Trump administration demonstrated how much Republican's don't care about facts?

My favorite is the believer who messaged me. I told him I don't date believers - it's a no win situation for both of us. He just blew right past me and said, "but I can take care of your fragile heart." Now, here's the thing: If anyone reads my bio and gets the idea that I'm fragile, I'm thinking they're illiterate or stupid or delusional. And secondly - here's a concept - "No means no."

My theory is (and a few guys on here have somewhat confirmed this theory), that most men don't know what sapiosexual is, are not interested in looking it up, and assume you are into kink.

I think that it's funny, from a guys perspective, just how polar opposites this response is from that of a typical dude's. When I was single I'd make a profile that was detailed and interesting but I would only get maybe 1 or 2 messages a month if that. One part of my head says that it must be so easy for a girl to find a guy, but then at the same time time I could only imagine how difficult it would be for a girl to find a guy that genuinely is into her and not just looking to fuck her. So behalf of all the good guys out there I'd like to apologize and just try to reassure you that good guys do exist.

Wow, I hope you feel better. I hope you have better luck finding a decent guy - we are out there.

And those republican dudes that are afraid to say they are republican because they are having a VERY hard time finding anyone willing to date their sorry butts!

Well first let me say that As a man, I would like to apologize for those of my gender who cannot read! As a liberal with many conservative, Trump loving family members, not to mention religious, let me quickly point out that any form of respecting others beliefs by either of these groups is completely alien to their thinking process. In fact, from interactions on Facebook, most of them consider Liberal baiting to be a great sport! As a man, I truly believe that the need to force your opinions on others is less common among women, but I have run into what appear to be female trolls. With online, you can never be sure who you are getting regardless of pictures and names. As long as you read their profiles and scour their posts and comments before responding, you should be able to get some sense of their political leanings as well as their philosophy and beliefs. I generally try to do that before I message someone, though sometimes a person will catch my interest by something they post and I just want to say hi or perhaps get a private clarification of something said or posted. Dating is kind of like a swamp, you have to navigate through all the alligators, snakes, and mosquitos to get to the good spots on the other side.

Men where given two heads but only enough blood to operate one at a time and they usually use the head without a brain. That being said, yes, I think some guys just try to get in enough to have sex or send a dick pic.

You do amazing work. I hope that you find the person that you're looking for.

If it's any consolation, perhaps you could reframe it from time to time as being respected by all the people who read your profile and didn't message you because of It? Lol

That being said, solid points. Sorry there are dense assholes in every corner. And if you're a sapiosexual, keep it up with there well-written posts and you're bound to find one falling right into your path. (Honestly not trying to elude to that being me)

Hang in there. Not all men are like what you've encountered. I always read profiles of people who I meet here or who respond to something I post. If I have a conversation with someone its helps to know where they're coming from..

When I was on POF/OKC, I’d frequently get messages from women, usually elderly, who wanted someone to worship Jesus together with them. And of course my profile made it clear that I was s liberal atheist. I concluded that a lot of people just used a shotgun approach, sending out tons of messages and hoping for a few positive responses, the Spam approach to dating. Best to just ignore them!

I had to Google Sapiosexual which ironically due to the intelligence clause immediately disqualifies me and thousands of other men..?

Ps. I totally empathise with your issue..your Bio is very well structured..cogent and exudes clarity.

They probably think they can change you. I used to get that a lot, especially about my sexuality. I just don't use most dating sites any more because I'm sick of dudes who think I 'just need some dick.'

This man has nothing to defend the other men in this world. My 63 years have not met many good ones.

I love this post because you said what every woman was thinking. I suppose being on this site is enough "shared interest" for some people.

There is one problem: Thousands of horny guys looking to get laid. It does not matter to them if you are going to pray or blasphemize during sex. They want to cum. Often we paste pre-written paragraph and do not read profiles because we get so few responses. I find that I have to sent 200 responses to get 20 conversations and get laid once. If I am lucky. I do value brains, but I did have terrific sex with totally dull partner. Brains are for the steady partners. And I cannot help it, we have the best president since Kennedy and being Helllary liberal is on opposite side of being cerebral. Liberalism is a brain disease. ArizonaJerry

I will be honest. I had not seen or heard the term sapiosexual before. I think I am one. I'm not hitting on you, nice rant, I didn't come here to date, however, I found someone I enjoy being with. I like that term. Thanks for introducing it, and as an old English teacher i am pretty well read. Best wishes.

Men are strongly Visual, and tend to be quite impulsive.
Maybe you should consider becoming a lesbian? (Only partially kidding....trying to force an entire "species" to be completely different seems like a tough road to travel....)

Read this post and all I can say is all the guys who do not read are telling you who they are so you can take then off the list of possible. Finding someone who is right for you is hard, there is much that lays in the way, this is their way of helping you.

Carole, I'm sorry this happens. Most tRump people can't read anyway.

I'm on a couple of dating sites and apps. My profile says one-word messages will be ignored. I get several messages every day, and all of them are "Hi!".

Hang in there. There are men who read and are even Sapiosexual. You'll find them.

Sooo, is that a “Maybe”? ?

Well said.

If you're anything like me, it's wearisome to beat one's head against the proverbial wall of apathy and indifference when it comes the failure to dialogue in an intelligent and thoughtful way.

That kind of person, especially among us men, is few and far between.

Regardless, I hear you loud and clear. I'll make a concerted effort not to be that guy.

Great rant! Hang in there; there’s bound to be sincere guys around here somewhere. Right? Right?! The carpet bombing or spam messaging approach seems to be popular.

Preach it! Happens to me all the time too

Read your profile! You are clear and make no bones about who you are and what you want. My profile has almost nothing in it. Just my fears about Trump. I have 2 tiny pics of me and some artwork that I love. Other than that nothing! Not what I do, nothing about my kids and grands, books etc. I guess it really does not matter either way. If you lived in the east coast we would definitely be friends! Men are visual, they go by that first. At least that is what I have been told.

Sorry about what you're going through Carole. Hope you stick around.