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Are you a phubber or simply being phubbed?
Is it effecting your health, physical or mental?
And lastly is it destroying the art of yarning and conversation?


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FrayedBear 9 Aug 6

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i'd never! with me it actually started already long before mobile phones existed, when i noticed that people who call an office, a reception or such get priority attention to someone making the effort & turning up in person; it used to piss me off no end. most of the times you would have been waiting physically in line, only to have a telephone call barge in the moment it's your turn. some are more equal than others.

No some are badly educated and not trained to reply "hello, I'm dealing with a customer who has been patiently waiting in line for 20 minutes, please anticipate a similar wait".

Call the manager out and register protest.


Click on ( at the top of this post and it will tell you .


Hell yeah I do that shit. Guy I work with absolutely never shuts up, you’re goddamn right I phub

As a matter of fact, I’m doing it right now


... so what has knitting to do with it? Or crocheting?

In the same league as reading the newspaper or watching tv during dinner. Lol.

Ah, the light dawns - you associate "yarning" with knitting and crocheting! My meaning was of story telling type yarning.
Literally however yarning is associated with the structure of wool used in knitting, crocheting, cloth making and tailoring not the actual manufacturing process. []

Probably an app for that too

@Lady-DebianLinux knitting and crochet how to and patterns - it would not surprise me. How would you like to do some research and then post it to "Non-nude sexy pics"?

@FrayedBear []
Well, I’ll be damned.

@Lady-DebianLinux Hehehehe!

@Lady-DebianLinux, didn't you mean darned?


Phub me at your peril! At Best, look up and see me Gone!

It seems that they are too intently looking at the screen to do that Anne.


Phubbing is rude. I will leave.


I had to look up the meaning of that term.
I don't phub, nor do I tolerate being phubbed.
It's just plain rude and there is no excuse for it.

I had to look it up too and I agree with you. 🙂


Yes, I find it frustrating, even if it's research for something that we're speaking about, it feels like an intrusion to me unless we agree to look something up. But maybe I'm oversensitive and will get used to it 🙂

Why do you have to "get used to it"?
It's rude behavior. No one has to accept it.

@KKGator I don't know, I have friends that are married to each other and when we go out for dinner they're both on their phones a fair amount of the time, I don't want to be, 'the uptight one' when I see it working for other people. (More than) half the time my man is researching cool stuff anyway 😉

@girlwithsmiles You teach people how to treat you.

@KKGator I also decide when to be offended and what the scheme of things having someone researching while we talk is small fry,.

@girlwithsmiles You get to decide for yourself. I still wouldn't tolerate it. It's rude and disrespectful.

oversensitive - would that mean that your senses work overtime? i think the word is invented by people who don't care.

@walklightly mmm, I read an article about this in Psychology magazine and it said that people often called, 'over sensitive' also have a lot of positive traits and to embrace the difference. Sometimes it's good to ignore things that are less important though; I'm finding as I age. Now I'm learning to trust my partner and know he's not tuning other women while I'm sat there, (yes, I've had some classy dates!), I'm learning to let it go unless I really need his attention 🙂

@girlwithsmiles, as long as you follow your choice, i reckon all's good.

@walklightly thank you, it works for my married friends who are often on their phones when they go out, so I'm learning by their example.

@girlwithsmiles, it can work for some, but not for others. may i suggest you read your original comment again? 😉


The saddest instance I ever saw of this was several parents phubbing their young children at a work-related children's Christmas party. Child: "Mom, Mom! (or Dad, Dad)! Look what Santa gave me!" Parent: dismissive grunting noise without even looking up. Some of the children might as well have been at the party alone.

I also like the related word "smombie" = smartphone zombie.

Agreed. If you cannot parent, why did you have them?

Yeah, they used to completely ignore their kids in favour of spoken conversations. Or at least, mine did. The more things change....

@memorylikeasieve That's so true. I never thought of that.

I remember a party I was at about 10 years ago. The adults were so focused on each other, they sent their kids down to the lake alone. No child was over 11 years old and most were under 7. The shore was far enough from the picnic site to be out of sight and sound. I insisted upon going with the children, especially as one of them was mine. When we returned, wet and happy, the other adults pointedly snubbed me, but the kids thought I was great 🙂


My children phub me when visiting, yet can take hours to respond to one of my texts. It’s quite annoying.

Try defenestrating their phones. If that doesn't work just defenestrate them. ?

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