I think a lot of men do not recognize or appreciate the work their partners put into their relationships. They just expect the women in their lives to do for them and don't consider it at all. That is not a happy place to be, being an unappreciated convenience.
I know and used to be the kind of woman who did all that and often got her birthday or special days entirely forgotten, much less being appreciated for the day to day.So yes, I agree with the article.
I believe life is only enriched by the people in our lives.
If I buy a new car ,it gives me more pleasure when a loved one is sitting in it with me.A beautiful place gives me a feeling of sadness if I cannot share the experience with a loved one.The joy that I derive from its beauty is dampened by the fact that I am alone.
I am, for sure. I was married for 25 years, and even when it was good, I felt hemmed in. I have been single now for 27 years, and it is wonderful. If a great guy came along, that would be great. I would never get married again though. I don't know if I would even live with someone again.
My working theory is that you need a brain damaging relationship before you can -really- appreciate being single. I know people in varying ages up to their 70s who stay together because it's easier or kids or w/e, and they seem more lonely than they would on their own. But yes, generalisation, as mentioned, isn't right. People should definitely be honest with asking the question of themselves to prevent wasting time.
I was content being single after coming out of a verbally abusive long term marriage. Happy? I don't know. I think I was. Now that I am in a relationship that doesn't have the negative side effects, I am happier than I have been in probably 20 years. It just really all depends.
Sometimes. There are no yes and no answers to this. Women today are certainly more independent that our mothers and grandmothers. Without the financial imperative of having a man to rely on to survive many women are choosing not to have a permanent man in their lives. If they feel happier that way then that’s okay, however most women who are heterosexual will still want or even feel the need for a male partner. If we don’t have children our species won’t survive, so that instinct of the sexual urge will always drive us to seek a mate.
In my experience, when I am in my happy place and feeling secure with who I am and how my life is going I have met a good guy who was a great partner. While the relationships ended, I don't think of them as "failed" relationships. Circumstances or what we wanted changed and we parted ways without hard feelings. When I have been anxious or feeling insecure, I wind up making poor decisions and I have even poorer boundaries. I try to avoid dating when I am feeling like this. Luckily, I am usually in my "good place."
I think there is a real shortage of men that are perfectly suited for all women at any given time. The kind of men who are sensitive and financially well off, strong and independent but willing to drop everything to attend to a woman's every need, the sort of guy that you could bring home to your folks and they would love him but also the sort of man who would thrill you and make all your girlfriends envious at the same time. The sort of man who will romance you and fulfill your every sexual desire in bed but have the good sense to get the fuck out afterwards so you can enjoy your sleep without him hogging the covers and stinking up the sheets. I think it is a conspiracy and it is the fault of all those perfect women out there who snatched all those perfect guys up and are keeping them all to themselves.
I don't have the actual article but decades ago I ran across an article that asked (are you happy)
The results: From happy to miserable were:
Couldn't find the article but did run into this from psychcentral.com
The combined results of 18 long-term studies showed that getting married did not make people any happier and that satisfaction with the relationship actually decreased over time. The only hint of a benefit was a brief increase in life satisfaction around the time of the wedding, which soon went away. All of these failures to find that getting married makes you happier came from a set of studies biased in favor of making marriage look better than it really is.