I don't know that I have anything to add to what other commenters have already said advice-wise. Sorry to hear you're going through that.

I hope you're able to figure out the best decision for you both, in the near future.

Not much longer. If 3 month and open discussion hasn't helped, it might be time to ask him if he's trying to drive you away.

That sounds like a drastic personality shift. Make him see a doctor, maybe?

Sounds like it's time to call it quits.

If you are miserable, and have made many attempts to discuss it, maybe he has no desire to work on your relationship. That may be the time to reevaluate what you want out of your relationship. You could try couples counciling, if he is willing to go, but, eventually, if nothing improves, you will have to decide if this is how you want to live. No one can tell you what to do. Only you can make that decision.

Im probably more inclined to try and try and try, maybe for even too long so Im not sure if my advice is best. Im not super great at communication. Its extremely difficult for me to share feelings esp. I do best when I have some warning so I can prepare myself and think things through.

Have you tried that? Maybe at a time when things are relatively calm sort of schedule a time to talk? Let him know you value his input and you are really feeling out of the loop so you would like to take time out to discuss what’s going on and where you are headed and then set a specific time.

I would ask him directly if he wishes to recover the previous quality of the relationship. If he answers yes, ask for a joint commitment to go into counseling to get help. If the answer to either question is "no", then it is time to start taking action to dissolve the relationship.

Having dealt with the end of my own, almost six-year ordeal, I can say that the probable last stop would be to suggest therapy.

I'm not the best person to really say, and don't know what compelled me to even start typing. I guess the familiarity of it. I would have dragged it out even longer because it was all I had known of a family for the past 5+ years, but it wouldn't have done my daughter any favors.

I think maybe that's the gauge: Does it help to carry it on for all involved, or does it hurt?

When you're sure they're not going to change and/or you don't have the energy to keep trying. Sorry... I know exactly what you're talking about. Peace.

You cannot make someone listen if they don't want to. Time to move on.

I tried for years with kind of the same situation. All my attempts to discuss issues and/or to find out what they thought the problem was were met with a stone wall, "I don't want to talk about it."

Given that history, I'm not willing to let things go nearly that long again with no improvement, even though it's with someone else. Being devoted to the person you're married to doesn't fix anything by itself. So, take that into account when considering my advice.

I view ultimatums as a very likely short path to the end of a relationship, so I don't take their use lightly. If you're reached the point where you're asking mostly-strangers on the Internet for advice about whether or not to quit the relationship, then it's probably time to break out an ultimatum.

Sit down with him and explain that his behavior in the relationship has changed in a way that you really don't like, you've tried talking to him about it and you don't feel it has improved anything. So you want to make it clear to him that if he isn't willing to take this concern of yours seriously, and make a good-faith effort to work on it, you don't think you can keep going with it.

That tells him there's clearly a problem, that you feel it's very serious, and you require his help to work on it. He will know that refusing to address it will likely end the relationship, and with no ambiguity there to let him later claim you sucker-punched him. If there haven't been any changes/improvements within two weeks of that discussion, his actions have told you what he might not be willing or able to put into words - possibly that he doesn't want the relationship anymore and doesn't know how to go about ending it.

As a member of the enemy (men) I shall claim you a hero for putting up with this. Get some , claim some , go to bed. That’s a way to live.

I'm sorry. This is a very hard place to be. You are trying but maybe your partner can't right now for some reason. Maybe it's a personal thing that has to be dealt with and then the focus will return on the relationship? You'll have to go with your heart to figure out how much time to give the pause. Time might give it to space it needs for him to think things through then refocus efforts. I guess I would give it a lot of time if this person was very special to me.

If he wants to end it, turning off like this is a disrespectful way to do it.

Most people are bad liars and don't suffer in silence. Has he said what is bothering him? Often times, the person has and the other person isn't hearing it. It can be that we don't understand, think that it couldn't be true, or whatever. I've been on both sides of that situation in the past. If he suddenly isn't communicating after 6 years, I'd venture a guess that he doesn't feel like he has been heard and is unplugging. That isn't good behavior on his part if I'm right - it's destructive and cruel. Still, people get frustrated and then get righteous. It's a crappy yet common pattern.

Keep trying to communicate. If he is unplugged, then he might be just working up the courage to walk. There are other details I'd want to ask to give you advice, but I don't want to pry. I'll say this much with confidence: If communication breaks down and one person is not trying to rebuild it, then there is no relationship.

Best of luck.

What significant changes have occurred in your life, his life and your shared life in the past few months? This could give you a clue as to what has happened that has caused this change in your relationship, rarely does change occur in a vacuum so look at yourself as well as him, then maybe you can sort things out with him. It sounds like it needs to be addressed and the sooner the better.

In my experience dragging out a bad relationship is worse then ending it but it's your decision in the end

I would never abandone those green eyes! ??
And I will be happy if I got just a little smile in your face.

I’d suggest couples therapy, even if just for yourself so you can get good, specific info.

Could he be unwell? If it’s a sudden change and not his usual self?

I guess it might be over but one consideration: Very frequently when people say someone else is not "listening" to them or has stopped communicating with them it simply means the other person disagrees with them. That might be reason to re-examine the relationship or reason to move on...

Perhaps he's ill? Seriously....how long since he's seen a doctor? You don't mention his age but he could have hormone issues or something worse. Just a thought. GOOD LUCK TO YOU!

About now. In the past I stuck with it and was married twice believing it would eventually work. AS you get older you realize it is either there or not. The real trick is to believe yourself and not the convenience of it all. And after the break up , if it is real, it will show itself again. No need to believe in something that may not be there