Do people take "Here for community" seriously? Do people even look in profiles to see what the person is looking for or not looking for?
I get the impression that a lot of members think this is exclusively a dating site and everyone is looking for someone. The "here for community" folks seem to be in the minority. I'm here for friends, fun chats, and flirts only, but I've gotten messages for men looking for a long term monogamous relationship. They chat me up for awhile then get very angry when I say I'm not interested in that kind of relationship, like I wasted their time. Last night and this morning I got messages from someone telling me I'm a beautiful angel and exactly what he prayed to God for!!!!! Yikes!!!
Is it too much to ask for to be allowed to be here just to make friends, enjoy fun play, read and comment on posts, participate in polls, share experiences with like-minded people, may be debate issues, etc.? Don't get me wrong. I do love chatting publicly and privately with many of you about all kinds of subjects. And thank you for understanding and respecting my preferences.
Pardon me for the rant. May be it's just because I had to block another person today and I really prefer not to block people.
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.I take it very seriously when a profile says "for community only". I'm not going to go after someone if they are not looking for a relationship. I feel that is a violation of their privacy and is just like harassment. I'm not going to put anyone through that no matter how attractive the person is. I wouldn't want this to happen to me so I'm not going to do it to someone else.
Captain747ex
Level 7
Aug 28, 2018
2
@Malia360 Thank you.
No offense, but you are beautiful, especially for the animal rescue, but I believe that often people see only what they want to see. They convince themselves that they are the exception, that somehow it does not apply to them. After all it is then, right? We all build stories of our life in our mind where we are the heroes and if we go about things right we will get what we desire, often neglecting the very real people involved. Especially when it is online interactions.
KDrake
Level 5
Aug 28, 2018
1
really he prayed to god thats hilarious he thought someone who identifies as atheist would find that an ok statement fuck me some people are beyond stupid
weeman
Level 7
Aug 28, 2018
2
Right? I asked him if he believes in god why is he here. Sheesh. If I were looking I wouldn’t go for a believer infiltrating an agnostic/atheist site. And if he prayed to god and god sent him me, that should be enough for him to ditch religion. LOL.
I'm here for fun, for friend and all other kinky stuff ??
Burnedhawk
Level 5
Aug 28, 2018
2
Me too!!!
Your expectations are reasonable. They even ask if you are lookin for dating or not. I am married and like you just looking for meaningful dialog with people of the same beliefs.
Buffulo1
Level 1
Aug 28, 2018
2
I was a little apprehensive joining this site because I wasn’t sure if it’s primarily a dating site but reading the info it seems it was just a community site with dating added because members wanted it. I joined because of the option to say no to dating.
Perhaps it’s because I’m a man, but I haven’t had that experience here. I have 9 sisters and completely understand your plight. If you’re an attractive woman it is especially difficult to get through nearly anything without being hit on. I’ve just never understood why a guy would act so put out just because you’re not interested...especially if you made it clear that you aren’t looking for a relationship. Sorry for your trouble graceylou ?. Just know that there are plenty of decent people on here that are more interested in your mind.
Singledad76
Level 4
Aug 28, 2018
3
Yes, there are many wonderful people here I enjoy chatting with and getting to know. I’m not looking for a relationship but I have formed some relationships here, just not THAT type most people are looking for when dating. But absolutely, the majority of the members here are decent, exceptional, intelligent, funny, brilliant, creative, witty. And literate enough to read profiles.
I joined in the hope of dating, but I stayed because of the community. It's great fun being on here and talking and laughing with like minded people. I hope this doesn't sour you on the site too much. And I have a feeling that this happens a lot more with attractive women, sadly.
Tomfoolery33
Level 9
Aug 28, 2018
2
No. I’m not discouraged from staying in the community. It’s just that something like that might ruin my mood for the day. I’m really enjoying myself here otherwise, especially in the groups.
That's sucks, sorry for your ill experience. I hope you continue to enjoy yourself. You contribute some interesting perspectives and are quite witty and playful. Hope you have a better day darling
Fibonacci1618
Level 7
Aug 28, 2018
3
Thank you. You are very sweet. For the most part I have fun here. Only now and again I get a few desperate sounding people who need a life partner now!!! Since I list myself as here for community I don’t feel the need to lay out all my personal and relationship information in my profile. Those who get to know me will find out more of that by getting to know me as friends or more.
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