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So this hurricane brings this question to mind. How do you provide comfort and concern. I can't pray for them. "Thinking good thoughts" is hollow. Suggestions?

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Donate, then vote for a Congress that believes in climate change.

CaroleKay Level 8 Oct 10, 2018
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Yeah!

The glaciers are gone and polar ice is melting faster than it snows ALL BECAUSE FOSSIL FUEL BURNING MELTS ICE GLOBALLY LIKE SALT ON ROADS& SIDEwalks....hydrogen & electric cars are the solution for the past 120 years but the oil gangsters get rich murdering Muslims for their petrochemicals and war crime weapons profiteering

When Greenland melts away the Atlantic Ocean cycling will forever change. ...causing more drought in new areas and flooding in other areas. ..polar ice is hundreds was thousands of feet above sea level. ...melt to much of it and Miami & Wall Street WILL NEED DIKES TO STAY DRY LIKE HOLLAND BELOW SEA LEVEL

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I have never had a religion and still have never had any difficulty in letting people know that I am concerned for their welfare and safety. People who say they will pray for you should instead say they hope you will be safe and that the hurricane will pass through without too much damage. If god sends hurricanes in the first place then why would anyone pray to the same god to deliver them safely from it. Makes no sense does it?

Marionville Level 8 Oct 10, 2018
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"We don't need this!" South Carolina residents complain about the latest hurricane.

What they need is to vote for Democrats who agree that climate change (global warming) is real and happening NOW. And act to stop climate change.

Thirty years ago, we knew climate change will create: mega-hurricanes, monster tornadoes, catastrophic flooding, massive wildfires, prolonged drought, increased temperatures, melting glaciers, super-storms, world-wide human migration, animal extinctions and starvation.

"Climate change is a Chinese hoax," Trump stupidly said. Republicans are in the pocket of oil and coal producers.

Vote Republicans out of office! Midterm elections are November 6, 2018.

LiterateHiker Level 8 Oct 10, 2018
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But then there is the old Chinese philosophy that says "'you can't fix stupid'. Therefore, 'president tRump'.

Thirty years ago! Little has been done but talk. True, this administration will only make things worse and only take their power seriously. I just read something that is applicable: "we are the first generation to feel the effects of Climate Change and the last generation that can do something about it"

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I’m thinking of you. Stay safe.

kltuckmn Level 6 Oct 10, 2018
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Be practical in advice and frank in your comments.
Also clearly and sincerely state your concerns for the individual along with your appreciation of them as individuals. Do this without condescension and you should come up with a possibly helpful and genuine statement of human care.

Donotbelieve Level 8 Oct 10, 2018
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^^^ THIS ^^^

^^love this!!^^

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Doing stuff is hard work. Is there a way I can just sit on my arse and gain virtue by appearing sympathetic?

Gareth Level 7 Oct 11, 2018
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I feel you

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Doing something with your two hands is better than any prayer or condolences. Lend a helping hand, or if you can't do that because of distance, send money.

ShieldMaiden_76 Level 5 Oct 11, 2018
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Excellent paraphrase of Ingersoll : " hands that help always better than lips that prEy

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"How can I help?"

purcascade Level 5 Oct 10, 2018
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I'm a member of a group called Team Rubicon, a volunteer group of mostly military veterans but some civilians. We go in and help clean up and some rebuilding. Or you could say "Hey, I'm sorry for your troubles."

Tony_Sykes Level 3 Oct 10, 2018
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Ask if there is anything practical you can do. A list of emergency numbers to call just in case, money you can send, phone calls checking in through out the ordeal. I find practical suggestions to show both concern and a willingness to actually do something other than the hollowness of prayers.

CommonHuman Level 5 Oct 10, 2018
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As so many others have commented, do something tangible -- donate through a legitimate charity. Prayers don't substitute for actually doing something.

ladyprof70 Level 7 Oct 11, 2018
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You could Google “Hurricane Michael relief” or something like that. As another member already commented, organizations like the Red Cross will be there on the ground, and there should be opportunities to donate monetarily, or in-kind with canned food, blankets, pet food for people’s animals ... I’ve heard that for the larger organizations that already have the infrastructure and experience, stuff is less valuable than the money to pay for stuff. Good on you for caring!

The-Krzyz Level 4 Oct 10, 2018
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Soooooo if (or most Americans) sent money or purchased food for every disaster in our nation, we would all be broke and have to ask for more Americans to send goodies or money to us.!
We have, unfortunately, become a nation of mourners. Time to stop it. Feel bad for them is fine.
Just be happy it hasn't happened to YOU!

@JimTheKnife Well, we'll go ahead and do what we want, and you are certainly free to not do anything.

@JimTheKnife Just to show that there are no hard feelings, I assure you that, if some horrible misfortune should befall you (not-god forbid!), you can count on our thoughts and prayers coming your way ...

@The-Krzyz Gee thanks...... but thoughts and prayers do NOTHING but make YOU feel good about yourself. Waste of time and energy.

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You just stumbled into a great feature of being an atheist. By not having the god crutch, you now can offer genuine, sincere, and personal words to your friends. They may not care why, but they'll know they have a real, non-imaginary person who really cares about them. That's pretty damn cool.

IBuiltTheMoon Level 5 Oct 10, 2018
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unless you can physically offer some help after take cares about the best you can do the rest.....

weeman Level 7 Oct 10, 2018
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I understand. I always say i’m sending positive thoughts their way but also that I’m here to reach out to. I took my brother and his family in during Katrina until they could return home. That may not always been possible for everyone and I get that

jc2018 Level 7 Oct 10, 2018
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I've had friends and family members call to check on me and offer a place to stay for myself, family and pets if we needed to evacuate.

KissedbySun Level 7 Oct 11, 2018
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Donate to Habitat for Humanity or Salvation Army that help rebuild, for one....there are good charities that DO stuff!

AnneWimsey Level 8 Oct 11, 2018
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Send money to non-profits that are going to help the victims. Third wave volunteers.
Check if they need blood donations.

Aivery Level 7 Oct 10, 2018
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I usually say "I'll be thinking about you." If the person chooses to interpret that as prayer, fine. But to me it means I will contact them later to see how they are holding up, if I can help, etc.
Unless it's my dad. Because apparently, WHEN I CALL THE CRANKY OLD COOT TO SEE IF HE'S HAVING ANY DAMAGE FROM THE HURRICANE HE THINKS ITS COOL TO SNAP AT ME. And how hard is it to put the fucking storm shutters on the house, cuz they're not helping in the garage??

Not bitter. Just reporting the news.

Emerald Level 5 Oct 10, 2018
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I usually tell them to be smart and get out of there when they can, if they’ll be in danger. Gearing your message to them individually usually helps too.

DaphneDarling Level 7 Oct 10, 2018
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In the Words of Rickey Gervais “I feel so guilty. Everyone is sending their prayers but I only sent MONEY”

CJBuckeye2021 Level 3 Oct 14, 2018
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I recommend contributing to a secular charity. I've been impressed with the work done by the Foundation Beyond Belief, but there are others.
[foundationbeyondbelief.org]

zeuser Level 7 Oct 11, 2018
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Thanks for the link

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I tell them like it is....."You need to evacuate" and "I hope you were smart enough to buy insurance" and "Good Luck with that" and "Mother Nature is trying to rid the earth of a parasitic species...."

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SkotlandSkye Level 8 Oct 11, 2018
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You know "they" are parasitic when they don't build in harmony with nature OR ARE SO OBSESSED with religion they believe radio cult liar Ruuusssshaaah Dingy Crazy Greedy LIMPboss denying polluters like him are not changing the climate and melting polar ice faster than it snows

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Unless you have money, there really isnt anything you can do. They are going to go through some really tough times.

Della Level 5 Oct 11, 2018
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I live in Panama City. I evacuated, but will be heading back tomorrow. Already getting the "thoughts and prayers" comments. I just say thanks, as they all mean well.

Needmoretwix Level 4 Oct 11, 2018
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Of course they do. If we are entitled to our experience, then so too are they, yes? There's no harm, and should be no offense taken. My view at any rate.

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